Kissing your daddy=flirting?!?!?!

Lisamarie - posted on 06/12/2011 ( 43 moms have responded )

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Femenist writer Germaine Greer sparked outrage yesterday by claiming that British troups could turn into rapists! As the Libyan troups are using rape as a weapon of war she's saying; well, how do we know our troops "won't do a bit of raping in their turn?" Surely the same could be said for any man or woman, why single out the British troups?
Anyways, In other comments about the sexualisation of children she goes on to say that "little girls learn how to flirt with their father. You know- 'Kiss daddy goodnight' and all that sort of business." I, for one, think this is a disgusting and completely unnecessary. I never for one second thought of kissing my father goodnight as flirting!! Am I the only one who feels this way or do other parents have strict guidlines for father/daughter interaction? Oh and I never thought of 'Barbie' as a fetish before!

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Lissa - posted on 06/12/2011

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There is kissing your parents good night then there is abuse, that doesn't mean kiss goodnight equals abuse. My daughter at some point decided she isn't kissing anyone on the lips, she isn't asked to kiss anyone but she does (on the cheek) because she wants to. Of course if anyone encouraged her to kiss on the lips that would be inappropriate. I'm not flirting with my mother, sister, brother or friends if I kiss or hug them hello or goodbye. There is showing affection between family and friends and abuse it is a serious problem if we can't tell the difference. It's no wonder a lot of Dads out there are worried about giving their kids a hug, when the hell did Dad start to equal pedophile??

Charlie - posted on 06/12/2011

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Germain Greer does not represent our gender , she is a fucking Moron .



I am sure she would love people to think she is an intelligent woman advocating for the feminist cause but she is really an attention seeker .

Tara - posted on 06/12/2011

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This woman does nothing to further the cause of equality among women.
She is a fucktard who seems to have a man hater complex. If she's straight, than she needs a big cock, if she's a lesbian, then she needs a good tongue lashing. She's a prude and an insulting one.
To suggest troops could turn into rapists and that young girls kissing their daddies good night are priming for a sexual relationship with him is just... well it's just absolutely insulting.

Lissa - posted on 06/13/2011

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I posted this earlier but obviously it didn't go on.

For those not in the UK this all happened on Question Time which is a serious political weekly programme. So while her comments are ridiculous, this is not a platform which sensationalises issues, she was pretty much shot down.

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Carmina - posted on 06/14/2011

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she sounds like a pathetic person! im from australia ive never heard of the woman, thank god, why is she so famous?? i dont think i want to read anything about her she would make me so mad lol!

Stephanie - posted on 06/13/2011

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I have to agree with Emma here. Complete idiot. My dad raised my 2 sisters and I on his own, and I'd be damned if someone even suggested that to me. It is an insult on parents and their children. If my dad hadn't been there to kiss me goodnight or let me crawl into bed with him when I had a bad dream, I would probably have some sort of separation or anxiety issues or something.

That statement is just rude and disappointing and disgusting.

Casey - posted on 06/13/2011

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Germaine Greer is an idiot and most of the things that come out of her mouth are just crap.
I still kiss my dad and I can tell you right now that I am not nor have I ever thought of it as flirting I feel the exact way about my dad as I do about my mum so does that now make e a lesbian??? no I don't think so.
As for Barbie I am not a fan I was never interested in her as a kid and I still don't like her now I think shes so unrealistic and if I ever had daughters I would probably cringe when they asked for barbies but I wouldn't say no cause having barbie dolls is just a part of growing as a little girl and theres nothing wrong with that.

Kellie - posted on 06/13/2011

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but it's us that give her the power by listening and reacting to her. We all know she's an attention seeking tool.

She can only do as much damage as we let her do.

Krista - posted on 06/13/2011

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She's an attention-seeking nutjob who is doing a lot of damage to the name of feminism.

Tara - posted on 06/13/2011

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When the one father talked about being offended by her comment, she simply glossed over it altogether by talking about different schools on one street, about different cultures etc. one of the other panelists went back to it for a second, but she again glossed over it and talked about how it's entrenched in society, and that when little girls kiss their daddies they are being trained to be coy and learning to be manipulative with the opposite sex.
She's a freakjob that's for sure.

Kellie - posted on 06/13/2011

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Seriously she's way too funny to be offended by. I just read the article and nearly wet my pants. LOL Barbie is descended from a sex toy! Love that shit.

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"Someone seriously needs to put a bullet in that woman to shut her up."

On anything to do with this woman this is the only statement I can agree with!

Jodi - posted on 06/12/2011

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Thanks Cathy. I was just curious about the context of the comments. Because I am struggling to comprehend that someone can think like that - but then again, with her track record, I could probably believe anything. I'll watch it later when the kids are in bed :)

Corinne - posted on 06/12/2011

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Absolute horseshit! So my little girl brushes up on her flirting at least twice a day with her Daddy, 3 maybe 4 times with me, guess she's going lesbian then? And my son? guess he's gonna be bi cause he likes hugs and kisses off of both of us as much as he can, and gets loads cause he's not at school. Does that make me a sexual predator too? My family must be soooo fucked up! Guessing she's got a book out soon and needs the publicity, fuckstick!
Please 'scuse language, that made me maaaaad.

Constance - posted on 06/12/2011

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The thought that my girls wuld learn how to flirt just by giving their daddy a kiss is disgusting. I can't believe anyone would be that fucked up in the head to blieve that of all fathers. Not sayin there isn't perverts in this world but don't lump all men in this catigory. It will just cause more unnecessary bullshit.

Dana - posted on 06/12/2011

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Probably much like our "Ann Coulter", Erin. Although she's a loud mouth Republican who says out of this world crap for attention but,yet she's very smart.

Erin - posted on 06/12/2011

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No, I really don't think she's serious. I struggle to comprehend how a supposedly educated woman could have this opinion. Like I said in my PP, and Kellie also mentioned, Greer is a notorious attention-seeker who knows no boundaries. Just add this one to a long list of controversies.

Nicole - posted on 06/12/2011

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As a victim of incestuous pedophilia and a victim of rape several years later, I find her comments hideous and offensive! This thinking offends me as a victim, survivor, self-proclaimed feminist, fellow woman and fellow human-being! I was lucky that my father was not my molester and I had/have a great relationship with my father, BUT he was one of those fathers who held back. For fears of opinions like Greer's. My husband is very affectionate with our boys and I am so happy about it. They don't really kiss on the lips past a certain age, but that's mostly because all of our boys have become quite independent by a certain age and won't let anyone kiss them on the lips or even sometimes on the cheek.

About soldiers and rape. It happens. But, as a wife of a man who honorable served in the US Military, I find it awful to suggest that service alone breeds rapists. My husband is very much aware of the things in my past and is very sensitive to me when the scars bleed into our marriage. He is understanding and helps to work through it. (Luckily, it happens rarely, since I have spent many, many years working through the past.) Hmmm... I guess I should be glad that my husband got all of that raping out of his system while he was still in the Army. Right, Ms. Greer???

Is she serious?

Amie - posted on 06/12/2011

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"It's no wonder a lot of Dads out there are worried about giving their kids a hug, when the hell did Dad start to equal pedophile?? "

Exactly. I'm glad my husband holds no such reservations but I do know of men that have. It's disgusting opinions like Germaine Greer's that helps to perpetuate the thought that men should not be helping child rear, especially our daughters.

As for the troops bit. Obviously there are heinous people in all walks of life, from every country. The difference, as Cathy already pointed out, is that I highly doubt British (American, Canadian, Australian, etc.) troops are being taught or encouraged to use rape as a weapon.

JuLeah - posted on 06/12/2011

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Many armies have used, use, rape as a weapon. I don't know what our troops are taught.

As for kissing Daddy good night ... if it is flirting, it crosses a line. Yes, that happens. When I was in school there as a family I knew ... The father was a teacher, but I knew his family and spent time with them. There were many comments made by the ten yr old girl that gave me pause. Several interaction that were disturbing.
This father was later found out, caught in the act, and sent to jail. But, that was not the only family I was aware of growing up that dealt with this issue.
One kid in my class talked about how her father liked to tickle her 'skipper' she called it (Perineum) ....
Some of these situations I didn't know about until I was an adult looking back. You know, then it hit me, waaaait, that's not right.
But, back then; it was more of a queasy feeling.
And, I could tell many stories of many families .... maybe it was the neighborhood I grew up in? Maybe it was in the water? But, abuse of kids in this manner was soooo common. Kids I went through school with, can't tell you how many I've had conversation with as adults .... so many were dealing with this .....

Kellie - posted on 06/12/2011

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LOL Germaine Greer strikes again. You know I reckon she only says this shit to get a reaction and attention. It's attention seeking in the most extreme form. She can't seriously believe the shit that comes out of her mouth.

Dana - posted on 06/12/2011

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Wow, I wonder if she had issues with her "Daddy". :|

I think it's rather ridiculous of her to make those statements but, I also think that rape can happen in war from any man, regardless of what country they're from.

Lissa - posted on 06/12/2011

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I saw her saying all of this on Question Time, a poor Dad in the audience was getting in a state about her comments. I was absolutely infuriated by her.

Mary - posted on 06/12/2011

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I wonder what she would say having my toddler kiss the dogs goodnight will lead to...

Jenn - posted on 06/12/2011

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I've never heard of her, but the idea that giving your Dad a kiss at night is flirting is insane. Why is it OK to kiss your Mom goodnight, but not Dad? Methinks someone has a severe case of Oedipus Complex. :/

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I, for one, agree with her. I think flirting sexualises womyn, therefore demeaning them.



Girls, at bedtime offer a handshake to Dad.



And womyn, instead of flirting you should approach the male of your choice with a prepared business contract that reads:



"Sign here, and I'll allow you to inseminate me so that I may bear the next generation of feminists."

Charlie - posted on 06/12/2011

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From Wiki.

Greer has defined her goal as 'women's liberation' as distinct from 'equality with men', She asserts that women's liberation meant embracing gender differences in a positive fashion, a struggle for the freedom for women to define their own values, order their own priorities and determine their own fates. In contrast, Greer sees equality as mere assimilation and "settling" to live the lives of "unfree men"

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Germaine Greer....Shes fit for the crazy ward..someone cart her off.Shes so backwards and crazy.

Erin - posted on 06/12/2011

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Germaine Greer is a media whore. Her theories are so outrageous they do serious damage to the feminist cause.

Stifler's - posted on 06/12/2011

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I don't think she even realises that she is sexist. The way she goes on it's as if only men can be chauvinistic and sexist and have double standards.

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