Knocked Up

?? - posted on 06/20/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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What do you think of terms like "knocked up"? Do you think it's offensive to use those terms? Is there only certain people who can use those terms with you?



My boyfriend and I used to joke all the time when I was pregnant. I would say "we COULD do this, but you got me all knocked up!" or he would say "well we could have done this, but I got you all knocked up! So we can't do that!"



I would be taken aback if some stranger were to come up to me and said "So who knocked you up?" But my friends and I used to joke with the term. I wouldn't use the term with anyone I didn't know, though.



What are your thoughts?

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Megan - posted on 06/25/2009

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I think there is a time and a place for these terms. I use them talking to my friends and family joking around, but i too would be offended if a stranger said that. I also wouldnt like a stranger saying I was "preggo". I didnt mind when people noticed I was pregnant -but I think saying those terms when you dont know someone is a tad presumptuous. I guess it goes a long with people saying Oh My Gosh your HUGE! A freind wont offend me, but a stranger would, or "Are you sure you arent having twins?"- That said, I just would brush it off- I know most people don't try to offend you and their intention is to say "wow, you are pregnant!"

Traci - posted on 06/24/2009

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I don't know...it's just the connotation, you know? Like, you don't think of a married chick as "knocked up"...If you're in a committed relationship, that's cool,but I think of knocked up as someone who found themselves pregnant with no plan. LOL :)

?? - posted on 06/24/2009

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Traci, would you elaborate a lil more please? For you, is it meant to be a general term not meaning anything other than just another way of saying "got pregnant" or is it a term you generally use to describe those ladies with a disapproving tone?



I'm not married, but in a very loving, stable, relationship. And my son wasn't planned, he was a super surprise actually lol so you would say I got "knocked up"? Or would you only use it with a disapproving tone to a woman who went out to the bar one night, had a 1 night stand, fell pregnant and kept the baby?



I'm just curious because your post is kinda vague lol

Traci - posted on 06/23/2009

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I tend to think of "knocked up" as a woman who isn't married who got pregnant on accident.

Erin - posted on 06/23/2009

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On the subject of huge bellies, I am frequently told by EVERYONE (family, friends, doctors!!) that I had the biggest pregnant belly they'd ever seen. I very quickly got sick of the "are you sure there's only one in there?" questions. Felt like saying "ummmm, NO I'm not sure, better check because some tool says I'm huge".....
In all honesty though I was MAMMOTH!! 3 days before Milla was born my fundal height was 49cm!!!!!!!! When I went into Delivery the midwives looked at each other and said "wow, who's going to take this one?". Seriously.
PS Milla was actually a smaller-than-expected 9lb 6oz - I'd had a scan a week before she was born which said she was 10lb 7oz. So 9lb 6o was actually a pleasant surprise :)

Amie - posted on 06/23/2009

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Jo ~ hahahahaha.

I remembered something really rude that was said to me when I was pregnant with our 3rd. I had run into one of my friends younger sister's at the mall the one day. We stopped to chat for a minute and she goes to me... Jesus your huge. I never got that fat when I was pregnant... I almost laid the girl out. Like really... I have big babies, so yes my belly was quite big. Still... good lord.

?? - posted on 06/23/2009

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I hated it when people touched my belly too. I wanted to slap them and then say "Oh? You mean that's not appropriate cause I'm pregnant? But you touching me, is?"

Abby - posted on 06/23/2009

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do u know what i hated the most? being called fat!!!!!! i weighed 53kg when i was 12weeks gone and i weighed 59kg at 38 weeks, i was hardly porky!!! i just dont agree, if u touched my bump u could feel hands and feet etc, so when people called me fat i made them touch it to prove it HA!

Amie - posted on 06/23/2009

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haha We never used terms like that when I was pregnant. The only problem I had with strangers was them touching me! I don't understand why people think they have a right to touch a pregnant woman.
Anyways... my hubby did used to poke at me all the time. He was trying to make me pop he'd say. LOL. Thanks hunny. My kids used to bug me and ask if I had swallowed a watermelon. One of my best friend's always called me preggy. I don't mind any of the terms honestly. Though I can't say what I'd do if some stranger said it to me.. with the raging hormones I go through I might actually smack them. =)

Mel - posted on 06/23/2009

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haha i agree id be offended if some strange came up and said it , but my fiance and i joke about it all the time. id say "thanks to you knocking me up i cant do that now" or something similar. or these days i just tell him its about time he knocked me up again because im wanting baby number 2. i dont think its offensive if used within family

Katie - posted on 06/23/2009

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Yeah the term a bun in the oven is used a lot in this country too.I think its used in a nice way though.The term knocked up I would find offensive,if said by a stranger.

Erin - posted on 06/20/2009

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Totally depends on the context for me. When I was pregnant so were both my step-sisters and 2 of my closest friends so there was lots of preg-slang being thrown around. My personal favourite was when my brother told me I shouldn't drive because I had "a belly full of arms and legs" lol.

Sarah - posted on 06/20/2009

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Up the duff was always one i got, not sure how that saying started tho?!
Also a lot of people would say 'oh you've got a bun in the oven!' I never minded that one.
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Yeah, if a stranger said something like that to me I would be slightly offended depending on the tone they use. But friends? LOL My husband jokes about me getting "knocked up" "preggers" and my neighbor has started calling me "prego my eggo" lol

Sarah - posted on 06/20/2009

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I think terms like that are ok amongst friends. I would feel a bit weird if a stranger said it tho! :)

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