Hannah - posted on 11/19/2010 ( 35 moms have responded )
February 10th/11th, 2009 were the worst two days of my life :( On the 10th, I had a dr's appointment with my ob/gyn....he couldnt find a heartbeat and so he sent us for an emergency ultrasound at a clinic. it was confirmed at the clinic through ultrasound that we had lost our baby due to genetic defects, specifically trisomy 18. I was exactly 19 weeks along. On February 10th, I went to the hospital to hospital and stayed for a couple of hours where they monitored me, took some blood and was given cytotec to induce labour. Then I went home and waited my labour out. Next day, we were back at the hospital where I had my baby. Then I spent the day being monitored and recovering....
When I had my baby in the hospital, I didnt get to see him or hold him as the nurses wouldnt allow it, he didnt grow right and they felt that I had already been traumatised enough. I felt what you would feel in labour, the urge to push, water breaking, baby dropping, cramping etc. I had the hospital chaplain come to talk to us to offer support and someone to talk to, and I had a nurse come and sit and cry with me as she gave me an autospy consent form(Still makes me tear up to think of that and the look on her face)
So it got me thinking is a miscarriage or the loss of a baby harder as time goes on? What are your thoughts?