Tah - posted on 03/04/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Now i posted this in another group, but i'll do it here as well...
All my moms raising boys...are we raising them to be independent and able to have sustain a purposeful relationship in the future or are we raising them to be under our apron strings?
I know he's our lil man and our boo boo butt, but i know plenty of women and see it in post on COM everyday where little jesse doesn't grow up to know that when he has a family that his wife and kids come first. I mean one husband was willing to divorce his wife for his mama even though the mama was in the wrong.
How involved with their relationships should we be. I am getting my 13 year old ready for the world, he has to be responsible, learn to cook, clean, do laundry, all the things he will need to know when he is on campus, then a single guy in his 20's and even after he marries his wife, no guarentee she will be Holly homemaker. I am teaching him how to be respectful, care for his family and that when he gets married, he can call me to talk as always, but i will not be getting in the middle of any disputes unless someone is in danger. He also knows he can't run home every other week because she makes him mad and i am not going to be doing any spot checks to make sure the house is clean and the kids are ok. When i see my grandbabies i will love them and if something worries me i will address it no doubt.
I have no desire to be the M-I-L from hell causing a rift in his household. So i was wondering what our views are and getting honest, are we raising our son's to be mama's boys who will cling to us or are we rasing independent men?.
To my moms who have grown sons, being honest are you the m-i-l from hell or are you supporting from a distance, in other words, will your daughter-in-law be starting a post about you and your son on here tommorrow?