'matching' twin names, cute or tacky?

Merry - posted on 07/07/2011 ( 76 moms have responded )

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Do you think it's cute or tacky to name your twins matching names?

Examples:

Michael and Mikayla

Brian and Brianna

Jaylen and Jayla

Heaven and Nevaeh

Jada and Jade

Jayden and Jaylen

Oliver and Olivia

Jaden and Jada

Faith and Hope

London and Paris

Jayden and Kayden



These were taken from 2010 USA popular twins name database



Obviously lots of people like the matching names for twins since it's so commonly done, but personally I think it's tacky, cute for sure, but I think twins need separate identities and rhyming or matching names sort of turns them into a singular 'twin' person......





What do you all think?

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Sylvia - posted on 07/07/2011

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I'm not a fan, I'm afraid. I think twins have enough trouble getting other people to see them as individuals, without their parents saddling them with cutesy "matching" names. (This is not a new trend, BTW. A friend of mine is an identical twin; her name is Marie Elaine, and her twin's name is Mary Ellen, because their mom thought since they matched, they should have matching. They are in their 60s. They love each other, but they do not like having matching names.)

I also dislike the practice of giving all the siblings in a family matching names, or choosing names because they start with the same initials as the parents' names, and all of those kinds of things. I mean, I'm not going to go around publicly dissing people because they named their kids June, Joan, and Jill (like some cousins of my mom's) or Joyce, Joan, and Janice (like some cousins of my DH's), but I'll be honest, inside I'm thinking "Really? WHY would you do that to your kids?"

My feeling is that kids are people, not, like, collectible objects, and they deserve to be given names that don't make them feel like part of a collection. But that could just be me ;)

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Sherri, I think her point was that the twins physically looked alike and dressing them alike would be too confusing. Unlike your older two who you could tell apart by their physical differences. Maybe you could at least part your hypothetical twins' hair in different directions? ;)



With my husband's cousin's twins I always take note of what they are wearing so I won't call them the wrong name. Evie in blue..Bella's wearing yellow...Bella's in yella!



I just saw a picture on facebook of twins and they had monogrammed onsies on..."Asher not Eli" and the other said "Eli not Asher"....totally cute!

Minnie - posted on 07/08/2011

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I can't stand matching names. My husband's parents were so not creative.



Mathew

Meghan

Derrick and Darrel (the twins)

David.



Her mother was just as bad. Named Matt's twin uncles Eric and Aaron. Look different, but sound so similar.



*snore*

Erin - posted on 07/07/2011

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I think it's stupid, but I don't lose sleep over it lol. A mum who does Youtube vlogs just had her third baby and named her Peyson. Her two others are Jacelyn and Kacen. Stupid.

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Karen - posted on 07/13/2011

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This debate/discussion is interesting because I always thought I'd not use similar names/initials yet with boy/girl twins on the way I cannot get away from the idea that I "should" at least use the same initials. I have no clue why I think that way and am resisting it like crazy yet I still keep finding combinations that match. Stupid, I know. I don't want them to match! I want to name these babies as individuals! But the pull of having twins and doing the "twin" thing is so strong, lol!

I will admit that I have a few similar outfits for the babies and think they are adorable yet I won't continue that trend when they are older...at least I don't think I will. We'll see, lol.

Oh, worst twin name combination I've ever heard: Ed and Ned. I actually laughed when Ned told me his brother's name because I thought he was joking. Unfortunately, he wasn't.

Alison - posted on 07/13/2011

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I think it's silly when the names are really close together and unusual just so they'll match. I agree that parents should think about their kids' futures when they're naming them. I knew a family with the last name Dover and they would joke about naming kids Ben and Lean, but if anyone actually did that I would feel sorry for the kid. My husband and I are trying to name our kids with names that start with A or K, though. He and his brothers were all named with four letter first names and middle names starting with R. It's a pattern, but they still have very different names. I don't like that my friend's brother named their baby Parker when their last name is Walker, but whatever. Kids get made fun of by other kids for their names pretty much regardless.

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Tacky for sure! I don't even like same first initials. I don't have a problem with having a jr though. I have b/g twins Micah jr and Olivia.

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2011

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TACKY TACKY TACKY. Take it from a twin with cute matching names, it is so lame when parents do this to their twins. Twins are individuals and deserved to be treated as such even with their names. I am 33 years old and still give my mother shit for the cute twin names she gave me and my sister. :0)

Merry - posted on 07/13/2011

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Ya know I've never known a family to obsess over any letter other then j. Is j some special letter?
Lol there's the duggars , Jim bob Michelle, Josh Jana John-David Jill jessa jinger joseph Josiah joy-Anna Jedediah Jeremiah Jason James Justin Jackson Johan ah Jennifer jordyn and Josie.
Also I have a friend whose family is all j names too
Allen and Janine are dad and mom then there's Joel James, Jill Janine, and Julianne joy.
J names are all well and hood but I think it's a bit overboard to name all your kids with the same letter. But hey, not my business right!

Corinne - posted on 07/13/2011

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My Dads cousin had four kids and liked the letter J I guess, couple that with her husbands name and it became a gob-full - Jackie, Jimmy ( mum and dad), Jamie, Jordan, Jade and Jasmine - also known as 'The J's' /:-%

Merry - posted on 07/13/2011

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Haha that's awesome! I always wanted tons of kids too, but I never had a theme for their names, but I did want at one time to have all boys and name them Reuben Simeon Levi and Judah. From josephs brothers in the bible

Elfrieda - posted on 07/12/2011

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Just for you and your babynaming obsession, Laura, I'll confess to something.

Secretly, I'd like to have a bunch of kids and name them all matchy names. It was my very great pleasure to tell my sister all about this plan when I was pregnant, just to watch the horrified expression on her face. :) (I would never do this to innocent children, btw, but maybe to some innocent kittens?)

Okay, here's the plan. I would have three girls, and their names would be Holly, Ivy, and Ferne. If I had boys, their names would be Bram (short for both Abram which is my dad's name, and Bramble which is a bush), Barry (sounds like Berry), and Leif (sounds like Leaf, haha) These are all real names, but the evil genius comes in the combination of these names. Mwahaha!

But then the boy came out and I ruined it all by naming him Thomas. Oh, well. ;)

Merry - posted on 07/11/2011

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I'd prefer a baby bracelet over color coding, one of those baby safe ones with their name on it. So yeah you couldn't tell from a distance but I wouldn't like to have to stay in a color code so much. Then once they have hair I'd do different hair styles.....

Jenn - posted on 07/11/2011

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Twins in my daughter's preschool were color coded which helped the kids and the teachers tremendously! Twin babies I don't see often are always perfectly adorable in matching outfits but I can't tell them apart for the life of me. Color coding really is wisest :)

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Yeah, but Jenn... if people KNOW that you 'color code' your identical babies.... it makes it easier. ;) STILL people didn't know or forgot and....

Yeah, sorry. Like I said, pet peeve.... 9.5 year w/ it too. ;)

Jenn - posted on 07/11/2011

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I think it is cute when identical twins are dressed the same when they are babies...not like anyone could tell them apart even with different clothes :) Fraternal twins dressed matching but not exact is cute. Names....I don't know. They ARE individuals, after all, and they can always choose what they wear but not their name. However, twins have an incredible lifetime bond that ties them together no matter what the parents do. So my final answer is I don't know! Haha

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Exactly Sara. Everyone mixes up my girls ALL the time and it drives me nuts. THEY don't care (obviously, since they try to screw people up on purpose all the time), but since it's such a pet peeve of mine that no one else always knows who my kids are..... why the hell would I make it harder on people on purpose?! I think it's stupid to do that and always have... even before I HAD my own twins and just saw other people's twins.

Sherri - posted on 07/10/2011

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Teresa my older two who were 18mo apart were exactly matching at all times till they were school aged and would scream and cry if they weren't. They refused to wear different outfits. Have to say I would do it with twins as well.

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Although it's certainly not my place to make a judgement call on what people name their babies, I do know one set of siblings (not twins) who were given what their parents considered "cute" names when they were babies but those kids were so embarassed by those "cute" names as adults that they changed their names as adults. I can't remember the original names as I didn't know these people as babies. They are contemporaries of mine (mid 50s)

So my suggestion would be, when you're thinking of names, think of these little babies as adults - what's cute for a baby can be downright embarassing as an adult!

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100% exactly matching all the time, Sherri? Yeah... if I had done that I never would've known who was who. lol They had a lot of matching clothes in different colors, but until they were having an input in outfits... WE only ever bought them one completely identical set of clothes and it was only cuz we really liked the outfit and there WAS only one color..... ;)

Suzie - posted on 07/10/2011

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my family named the first five of six with names starting with s then they named the last one with a t name scott and tim were twins but it just seamed wrong

Sherri - posted on 07/09/2011

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My older two were exact matching outfits till they were in school. My 12yr old and 5 yr old still like to get matching outfits a lot. If I had twins they 100% would be exactly matching all the time. At least till they had an opinion about it.

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If i end up with another girl....you better believe they will have matching outfits. I dress myself to match my daughter all the time! I think its cute :P

I do like matching names. I think they are cute. However If i had twins, they would not have matching names...i would confuse them all the time.

Jenn - posted on 07/09/2011

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Yeah, I actually said that I wouldn't dress my girls the same because I wanted them to be their own individual. Yeah whatever! LOL!!!! I totally dress them the same a lot, or at least coordinating. Sometimes they wear things that are totally different as well though. It is kind of cute when they're still this little - when they get older they can have more say in what they wear. My Mum used to dress me and my sister the same sometimes and we were 2 1/2 year apart!

LadyJane - posted on 07/08/2011

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I've always loved matching outfits. Even today me and my mom actually would get the exact same shirts, coats, etc.

I don't see a problem with it at all and I would never call it tacky.

Originally my mom was going to name my brothers Gene and Dean after Gene Autry and Jimmie Dean but that didn't work out that way. She did actually end up naming her next baby Gene Joseph but he died 5 hours after he was born.

Becky - posted on 07/08/2011

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I buy my boys matching or coordinating outfits. Not all the time though, mostly for family pictures or holidays, like Christmas and Easter. My mom likes buying matching outfits for all the grandkids for pictures. Dh really doesn't like it. I don't mind it because it's for once in a while. I wouldn't dress them the same every day, even if they were twins.

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@Laura...Their names are Lee, Katie, Logan, Keri, Landon, and the grandkids are Kennedi, Lee, Bailey....L,K,L,K,L,K,L,B

I like coordinating my girls outfits (profile pic). My three year old loves to 'match' her baby sister. I don't necessarily like for them to exactly match, but coordinating is cute IMO.

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In my opinion, tacky! And I hate matching outfits! Let them be individuals.

Still, that's only my opinion. I don't have, nor do I wish to have, any input into the naming of people's babies.

LadyJane - posted on 07/08/2011

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I love matching names, and I definitely would dress them up the same. However, I would not "make up" a name to match, I'd make sure it was a valid match like my twin brothers were... They were named (Richard and Robert) but we called them Ricky and Robby. They never wore teh exact same clothes once they started 3rd grade, but they did dress the same for their school pictures on purpose. I might choose different colors for their clothes but they'd be the same until they decide they want different styles. A friend of the family named her kids Brandy Andy and Candy and none were born on the same day. Now that I wouldn't do unless they were all born on the same day and it was names I really really liked, but it's highly doubtful. But I will make them compliment each other.

Had twin classmates whose name were James and Yvonne. Their middle names were exactly the same but their first names still had a complimentary feel to it.

I'd definitely choose names that blend well together. They will still develop their own personalities regardless of what they're named.

Jenn - posted on 07/08/2011

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I'm not into rhyming names or names that all start with the same letter - twins or no twins. My twins are named Shelby and Elizabeth - not matching at all!

Momof1 - posted on 07/08/2011

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I don't think "matching" names are tacky, unless like one twin has a "normal" name and the other has a name almost made up to match the first's name. If that makes sense. My friend named hers: Kara and Brea. I honestly don't know what I would do if I had twins. For one, the hubby and I would have to agree, which would be hard for boys, because we could only agree on one boys name, so we are out of luck if we have another boy.

Honestly though, I might think about it, but I don't think I would end up matching the names unless the two names we both agreed on happened to match.

Elfrieda - posted on 07/08/2011

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I wouldn't do it, in fact I think all "matching" names are a bit lame. Growing up we never said the names of one set of cousins, three sisters Vonda Vickie and Veronica. We just called them The Vees.

One pattern that I actually find kind of clever were this couple, the husband's name started with A, he married Betty, and they had three kids: Charles, Dwayne, and Elaine. Of course, they should have gone on to have 21 more kids, ending with Xander, Yolanda, and Zorro. :)

Corinne - posted on 07/08/2011

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Tacky, tacky, tacky. There's a couple of girls at school with my daughter and there called Alisha and Aliyah, think it's worse on them as they're not identical. I also know identical boys called Archie and Charlie. We have twins in our family and none of them have matching names, probably why I think it's odd.

September - posted on 07/08/2011

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Really I could care less what people name their children. Personally I would not name MY twins with matching names, but can't say matching twin names are tacky, some are actually cute imo.

Rosie - posted on 07/08/2011

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yeah my boys all have different sounding names and i still mix them all up, lol.their middle names are the same though...first one is michael, second middle name always starts with an A. :)

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Ashley... when the girls were little I had matching outfits in different colors for them that they wore SOME of the time on the same day, but not always. Now though.... they INSIST on buying the exact same clothes. They don't always wear them on the same day because one or the other doesn't want to, but they also have 'same-y's' days. They actually LIKE it when people don't know who is who. lol

Merry - posted on 07/08/2011

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I knew twin guys named Eric and Derek and they were identical so we never knew who was who so we just pronounced their names slurred and it passed for either one :P

Sherri - posted on 07/08/2011

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I don't think it is cute or tacky, I do however, think it is extremely hard on those addressing them. Their names forever more will be confused with the other, especially being so close.

I went to school with identical twin girls Doreen and Darleen they were forever called the reverse because their names were so similar, they HATED it with a passion.

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In school i had friends who were twin girls.The don't have matching names or were never dressed the same.When the got older they did.The just automatically wanted to be the same.The had the same fashion sense.The were the outfit in different colours.At our ball the wore the same dress but again in there own favourite color.There so close.One knows when the other is not well.If one is sick the other will refuse to come to school.She did one day and she could not rest knowing her sister was sick at home.Sweet.

Merry - posted on 07/08/2011

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A family I've known forever has a unintentional pattern.
John Terri Josh David Jake Dan aside from mom Terri it's all j and d names!

Merry - posted on 07/08/2011

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Yeah Dana you cought me :) I'm OBSESSED with names. I have been for years, no one knows how crazy I am.
Sara Hopkins, what are the names of those pastors kids?

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I hate the word TACKY SO MUCH.

I think what ever the parents choose for there twin babies is perfect not tacky.Who cares if they match.I think its cute.

I am sure the love the matching names or else the would not pick them.Its not a case of matching them and not liking them.That would be silly.

Nikki - posted on 07/08/2011

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These are kind of tacky..I don't have a problem with same initials but rhyming and stuff is a little crazy

Lady Heather - posted on 07/07/2011

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I was going to call the next kid Linnea (lin-ay-a) because that was my husband's grandmother's name and I love it but Freja and Linnea makes me laugh. If I ever had to say their names together I'd get the giggles. So Annelie it is. Uses most of the same letters anyways.

Sal - posted on 07/07/2011

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i think it is more important to have names you love rather than matching names, maybe just think would i choose these names for 2 seerate births then, if they then match or rhyme so be it

Firebird - posted on 07/07/2011

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Very tacky. My dad has twin cousins named Beatrice and Leatrice. Starting them with the same letter isn't so bad though, my cousin's twins are name Kaydence and Kenya. Just as long as the names don't sound alike!

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