Laura Zoey - posted on 03/04/2011 ( 100 moms have responded )
I'm watching a dr phil rerun on Oprah network. It's about these men who claim they shouldn't be responsible for a child they created if they didn't want to be a father.
One story is a man who supposedly made it clear to his gf that he did not want to be a dad, she said she was on birth control so no problem. They have sex, she conceives, he said right away I want nothing to do with it. She takes him to court for child support, he is ruled to pay. He fights back to get his 'rights' upheld that he didn't want to be a dad, and he made it clear, and it was her choice to have the baby and he shouldn't be responsible.
Another story was a couple who had married and had two kids when they found out the man had fathered a child right before they met. Two years after the child was born was the first time the father was told about the baby. The old gf wanted money, but didn't want hm yo be involved with the baby, or toddler I guess by then! The father claims he shouldn't have to pay because it was two years before he was told, and it was a one night thing.
What do you think the laws should do ith men who fathered a child, but don't want the baby?
Should there be a time limit on the mother to inform the dad? Should the dad be allowed to sign off rights in the first weeks or months of the pregnancy? If he isn't told for years should he be free of responsibility? What about a man who wants the child but the woman wants an abortion? Or the dad wants the child to be adopted but the woman wants to keep it and wants him to pay her?
Obviously men and women have different roles in parenting, but should they have closer to same rights? What's the law like in other countries? This is all in America btw.