Esther - posted on 09/25/2009 ( 19 moms have responded )
I was watching Dr Phil yesterday and there was a woman on there who decided that after she and her husband got a divorce, SHE would be the one to move out & give custody to her (ex) husband. She did so because she wanted to write a book (about the daughter she lost to cancer when she was 3 a few years before that) and travel the world and she thought her daughters would have a more stable life staying in the home they knew with their father, and she wanted time to focus on her own happiness. Initially she stayed in the same area, later she moved accross the country. She kept in touch with her kids regularly and when she lived far away, she would fly back to see them every other weekend (unless she was traveling I suppose). The girls would also stay with her for the summer and they would alternate holidays. A fairly typical visitation arrangement, except the mom was the one to move out.
What do you all think? I have to be honest, as a mom, I just cannot imagine not being in my son's life every day of his life and choosing travel or a career over my son (although I am a working mom so I'm sure some people already feel I'm chosing my career - I think of it as a job - over my son).