Mother's Day -Should husbands give gifts to wives also?

Dana - posted on 05/08/2011 ( 52 moms have responded )

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I've noticed that some men don't celebrate their wives as mothers on Mother's Day. What do you think, is it just a day for the kids to be appreciative or the husbands also?


What does you husband do? And do you respond in the same manner for Father's Day?

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Chloe - posted on 05/08/2011

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its not called BIOLOGICAL MOTHERS DAY....its a day when eveyone celebrates the mothers in thr lives including but not limited to step mothers, mothers to be, mothers who lost children, birth mothers, mothers who raised you, mothers who raise your kids and grandmothers etc too!!! how sad would it be if you didnt recognise in some way...ALL THE MOTHERS that affect your life for good.

Chloe - posted on 05/08/2011

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lol ok not eveything but you know what i mean...cooking cleaning washing baking etc. hey i would forfiet any recognition on mothers day if my husbands mum still feed and cleaned up after him!! haha

Tah - posted on 05/08/2011

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I don't think it should end when the kids are grown either. My parents have 7...youngest is 24 and when I talked to my daddy last week he was headed to get my mommy another piece of jewelry for mothers day...not because there are babies at home but because she is the mother of his children and grandmother to his 14 grandchildren so he celebrates her as such....

Krista - posted on 05/08/2011

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It's Mother's Day, not MY Mother's Day. You honour the mothers in your life, particularly the ones with whom you're the closest. And yes, I think that husbands should absolutely do something for their wives on Mother's Day. She pushed a baby, with the head the size of a coconut, out of her vagina (or alternately, went through SURGERY and got cut up from asshole to appetite) -- the least you can do is buy some fucking flowers!

Rosie - posted on 05/08/2011

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BIG FAT YES. without that mother , the man would not become a father, so i just don't get this whole attitude i've been hearing of lately. it reeks of selfishness, and laziness.

men who think that way bug the shit out of me.



my husband usually gets me a card and SOMETIMES a present like flowers or a little something. like one year he bought me a neat windchime, another year he made me a garden, things like that. the boys usually get me something they made in school. that's something i wish chad would foster more. i wish he would help the boys make their present for me, or get them involved when he's buying it.

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Yes. In my culture, we have always celebrated ALL mothers on Mother's Day, not just our own mothers.

Honestly, I think it's rather selfish for people to think that only their mother is worthy of recognition on this special day. What about mothers who've lost their children, mothers whose children are far away and cannot visit, or even call?

I get a gift from both my husband and my son. Once I became a mother, my mother also began giving me a gift, just as her mother started to recognize her on Mother's Day once I was born. We honor ALL mothers on Mother's Day, not just our own mother. The gift from Mother to Daughter is rarely storebought, usually my mother will give make a dish or sweet for me and attach one of my grandmother's recipes, or she will crochet something for me and attach the pattern. I bring gifts to 3 women who lost their little ones as well. I always feel like they are forgotten and it must be terribly painful to see all of these mothers being doted upon by their children while they mourn the loss of their own. I try to do something special for every mother that I see on Mother's Day--even if it is just handing her a flower or two picked from my garden.

Nancy - posted on 05/20/2013

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My husband doesn't get me anything for Mother's Day. He tells me I'm "not his mother." My kids live over a thousand miles away & receive telephone calls from them, that's all. My daughter is out of work but has sent me gifts in the past. It's pretty much up to me to make my day happy. I used to get gifts for my husband, I do make him his special meals & try to make it a good day for him.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 09/24/2012

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We both do for the other on mothers/father's day, and the kids each get us something as well. He started with the first mothers day that I was pregnant with our eldest, and I did with that year's father's day as well.

Momma - posted on 09/23/2012

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Yes, the father should recognize the Mother on Mother's Day. My husband gets me a card and a nice gift. Sometimes a dozen roses and others a nice supper.... We deserve to be remembered for everything we do, every year. However, with that, the Father does, too. ;)

Pamela - posted on 05/10/2011

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Heck yeah. The least he can do is take his wife, who has born his children, out to dinner (as mine so wisely does). In fact, my husband took both myself and a friend out for Mother's Day dinner - my friend was alone for the first time on Mother's Day and so we included her in. I think it's extremely important to celebrate one another - we take Dave out for Father's Day as well.

Nikkole - posted on 05/09/2011

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We mother's take care of our husband as much as we take care of our kids so HECK yea husband's should get there wifes something on mothers day, especially if the kids are too little to do things on there own!

Amber - posted on 05/09/2011

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Chad and I do nice things for each other on holidays and just for the hell of it throughout the year. We don't do it because we have to, but because it's a nice thing to do.
It's usually cooking and cleaning and small gifts. We try to pick specific things that are useful and nice for each other.

This year, I got to sleep in, all three meals made for me, he cleaned up, we spent the day shopping and at the park, and I got new cushions for the outdoor furniture. Last year he got the solar lighting he wanted. Practical splurges.

I don't think they should be obligated to, but I can't understand why anybody wouldn't want to. We do this all year long, not just on holidays. It's common to see cards or small gifts on the counter or for one of us to pick up extra chores and let our partner sleep. Appreciating each other goes a long way in keeping our relationship healthy and loving.....

Dana - posted on 05/09/2011

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Oh that's a big bummer, Tyrae! :(
I hope he gets it together for next year!

Tyrae - posted on 05/09/2011

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I think it's the mans job to do something special until the kids are old enough to do something/make something. But, alas, my hubby decided he didn't want to do anything (our daughter is 5 months old and it was my first mothers day :( )

Desiree - posted on 05/09/2011

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Hell no! my Birthday often ends up on Motherday.... Better my husband doesn't forget.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/09/2011

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We get a little something for each other and then make brunch. Yesterday I got some nice decaf coffee beans (been craving. but I can't drink regular due to a heart issue) and a cozy new blanket that matches our new sectional. Last year I got him a book and then I got a nice print of a pic of him and Freja and framed it for his office. He makes me waffles with strawberries and whipped cream and I make baked french toast.

Maybe this will change when my kids are old enough to do more, but I don't think so. It's fun to do nice things for each other.

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Joanna- That's awesome that you still have that nice of a relationship after you've separated. Incredible. Sounds like there is still alot of love there.

Firebird - posted on 05/09/2011

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My dad always spoils my mom on mothers day. She does the same for him on father's day. When I was with my ex, I'd wake up every mother's day to breakfast in bed. Now that we've broken up, he *still* spoils me, flowers, cards, gifts, and either breakfast or dinner out with our daughter. And when father's day rolls around he gets spoiled too.

This year however, he had to work, so my mother's day dinner will be a little delayed.

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We show each other everyday our appreciation for one another in small ways.Just its nice on mothers day/fathers day to go all out.I think he deserves it&he feels the same for me.I guess its just what you feel is right for your own family.I don't think theres anything wrong if you don't do it either.Each to there own.:-)

Mel - posted on 05/09/2011

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yeah its just a given thing with everyone I know that you have to buy your husband or wife a mother/fathers day gift. There was one yr I couldnt the first year because I had no income at all, and the comments from my inlaws were incredible! My hubby isnt the lovey dovey type though for any occasion. On my birthday (since its april 28th) he will go out with the kids and get 2 presents one for my bday and mothers day and give them to me when he gets home. This yr I got my bday and mothers day pres 2 days ago hes useless lol

Sarah - posted on 05/09/2011

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My husband doesn't really make a fuss of me on Mother's Day......he doesn't make a fuss of his own Mother either.

He goes with the kids and buys me a card from them both and some flowers or something, but that's it.

Doesn't really bother me too much........it's just the way it's always been. We don't do much different on Father's Day, or Valentines Day either.

I think he should show his appreciation every day not just on a day that the card companies have decided! hehehe! ;)

Casey - posted on 05/09/2011

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Our kids are to little to go and buy us gifts so it's up to Steve to buy me a mothers day gift and me to buy him one and on the cards we always put from Dylan and Mummy or on mine he puts from Dylan and Daddy.

Vegemite - posted on 05/08/2011

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Hell yeah husband/partner needs to spoil their kids mother on mother's day. My husband usually does but i said that i wasn't feeling up to it and just wanted to be left alone. Umm he ended up sleeping on the lounge and i was left running after the kids. So pissed and he knows it. So now he's planning a weekend away for me minus kids. YEAH!
I pamper him on Fathers day

Tah - posted on 05/08/2011

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Ya mean it's mothers day and he gets the gift...I won't be telling him that, he may get some silly idea in his head for next year...lol

Jenn - posted on 05/08/2011

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@Tah - tell your husband he's wrong - mine already got some tonight. ;)

Mrs. - posted on 05/08/2011

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My fiance said his father never did growing up because he said their mom wasn't his mom. They are now divorced.



My fiance made me brunch, got me a card and now, after taking care of our sick daughter all day, is going to watch a movie with me.



Thank God his Dad screwed the pooch so badly. Now he knows it would be a bad idea to follow ole Da's example.

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For Mother's Day my hubby gives me flowers and a sweet card. And He helps the kids make breakfast in bed for me. And I do the same for him on Father's Day.

Bonnie - posted on 05/08/2011

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I think it is only right to do something. I'm not saying go all out, but something to show his love and appreciation.

Stifler's - posted on 05/08/2011

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Yes, husbands/boyfriends should give cards showing their appreciation. So should wives/girlfriends on Father's day. My husband lets me choose my own present in case he gets something I hate and buys a card and writes love Logan and Daddy in it. I buy him stuff for father's day, usually alcohol but this year he's getting new clothes and an angle grinder.

Tah - posted on 05/08/2011

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I told my husband there are husbands who don't and his eyes got big followed by...



" I may not know why they aren't getting her something, but I know what he won't be getting this week"...lol

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My son is only 6 years old, so obviously, my husband is shopping, but J helps his dad pick out all of my gifts and helps make breakfast and clean up. He also made a card and a little book mark with a flower made from his finger prints on it for me. John always helps him make something special for me, last year I got a heart shaped box that he decorated.

John gave me a book I've been wanting and a new necklace with a heart charm that has the word "mommy" engraved on the rim and a little diamond in the "o". It has J's name and birthday on the other side of the rim. I love it because they put a lot of thought into it.

I always get a home made gift from J, a practical gift from John, and a piece of jewelry they picked out together.

Tah - posted on 05/08/2011

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Am i the mother of your kids??....or kids that you consider your??...do the kids work and can they go buy gifts themselves?do you like sleeping in this bed??...okay then.



Today..I had breakfast in bed with flowers, gifts, cards, house cleaned including carpets scrubbed by hands. Now he's making dinner grilled salmon, pasta, veggies and a glass of wine and I had no kid duty today..I took them to the park, just cause I wanted to..lol...and yes he gets similar treatment...I think it shows appreciation of the person you are raising children with.

Kylie - posted on 05/08/2011

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Of course! they should give gifts, make breakfast, clean up, entertain the kids..anything to show appreciation.
I wouldn't stay with a man who didn't want to show me love and appreciation.

Dana - posted on 05/08/2011

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Yeah, I'm with you Loureen. We see it (Mother's Day and Father's Day) as a day to celebrate each other being an awesome parent to our children. Hell, even my dad called me today to wish me a happy Mother's Day because he thinks I'm a great mother to his grandchildren.

Charlie - posted on 05/08/2011

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I make a fuss over him on fathers day because I appreaciate the amazing job he does as a daddy , it is a day of appreaciation for everyone hell I even get my Nanna a present on mothers day for being awesome .

Jenn - posted on 05/08/2011

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He does it on the kids behalf right now because they're too small to do something themselves, but he doesn't get me anything from him, and on Father's Day I don't get him anything from me. To me it's right up there with "push presents".

Charlie - posted on 05/08/2011

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I didnt squeeze a 10 lbs and an 11lbs pound child out my vagina for him not to show his appreaciation for me as the mother of HIS children .

Bondlets - posted on 05/08/2011

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I have asked/told my dh to not get me gifts for Mother's Day. If our dc want to do something he helps but that's it.

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I would feel a little wierd if my hubby got me a gift for mothers day - I am NOT his mother! However, if he had not helped Ethan to get me a card and a little prezzy, I was very happy with my flowers that Ethan picked from the florist, I would have been very upset. When Ethan is older I would hope he wants to get me or make me something off his own back.

For fathers day I help Ethan get/ make daddy something, when he is old enough he will do it himself :-)

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My partner shows his appreciation..As he tells me how happy he is, i am the mother of his children..my man cooks that day..well something special as he loves to cook for us anyway.He takes me&the girls off somewhere nice.



I love to go to an old country manor with amazing gardens.I went there a lot as a child as my dad did a lot of the garden layouts.So i generally go there mothers day.

I wasn't there in years,so about 2years ago, he surprised me on mothers day.He took us there and it brought me back to when i was my oldest daughters age.It was my place of peace and wonder as a child.So beautiful.Its been the norm since to go there every mothers day.



He buys me flowers, card&chocs.That's along with my girls cards they make, with special mom poems in them.Oh I'm spoilt.I always return the same for fathers day.:-)

Jenn - posted on 05/08/2011

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I don't think it is necessary, in theory, but my heart would be sad if he didn't since he always has! :) My husband usually gets me flowers or a plant (gardenia this year!) and the kids help him make breakfast for me. I try to make it more about the kids celebrating Mom or Dad on those type of holidays but recognition from one's spouse is always appreciated!

Dana - posted on 05/08/2011

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Btw, we're planning an impromptu visit to the Zoo. The day turned out beautifully for us! Gifts and cards can wait until later, our Zoo just opened the largest elephant exhibit in the US too! :)

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I haven't gone through 11 pregnancies for my efforts to be overlooked! I've earned *at least* one day per year devoted to telling me how awesome I am. :D

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Yes, we both do something for each other. I get a card from my husband and from my son. I usually get a gift card for a massage or pedicure, or something along the lines of relaxation for me. For father's Day I usually get him some kind of hiking/camping gear plus cards.

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I think a smart husband does. I think smart wives should reciprocate on Father's Day.

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The clock's tickin'...he better hurry his butt home so we can go do something fun and that better include a few gift cards and flowers! ; )

Dana - posted on 05/08/2011

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Kaleigh, does your husband give you a card for Mother's Day? Once the kids are older and can take it on their own, will your husband still acknowledge the day in regards to you?

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I think its the dad's job to do something special for mother's day until the kids can do it themselves, theres a stage where the little ones might want to do something special but they're too young dad should be the one to help them. The same goes for father's day. We don't really do the gift thing I got breakfast and bed and a glorious sleep-in till 12, the older our kids get the more my hunni can involve them in doing something nice and then eventually it will be up to them :)

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