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?? - posted on 09/11/2010 ( 47 moms have responded )

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I was watching Friends the other day and it was the episode where Ross made Emma laugh for the first time by singing Baby Got Back and then Ross and Rachel both sang it to her again to make her laugh again, only to have the whole gang walk in and look at them like they were crazy for singing that song to an infant.



When my son was still in my belly, my roommate was a club / bar manager, so I would often go the club before hours to play pool and listen to music while he would get ready for the night (I would leave before the music was cranked to the max). And I ALWAYS had music playing while I was pregnant. I listen to a mixture of music, mostly though, metal.



As an infant metal music would sooth my son. When his lil music player wasn't working, I would lay him down with my iPod playing above his head and it would put him to sleep faster than his music player would - Ozzy, Pantera, BLS, and the likes, sang my son to sleep many times. When he was about a year old, he had a favorite song Two Weeks by All That Remains and anytime it would come on he would laugh, clap, and boogie down. Still to this day, if that song comes on the play list, he's dancing.



I have childrens songs mixed into my play list that he likes too but for the most part, if he's dancing or pretending to sing along, it's to a metal song. And club songs, including Britney Spears, Timbaland and Rhianna. He head bangs, thrashes around and he dances like it's nobody's business when "Gabe's songs" come on.



His daddy had the song "Before I Forget" by Slipknot as his ring tone for the longest time and when that song comes on, he goes to his dads cell phone and says "HI DAD!" And I had the song "Clumsy" by Fergie as my ring tone for when his dad called my cell phone, so when that song comes on, he goes to my cell phone and says "HI DAD!"



Funny, as I'm typing this, Two Weeks just came on the play list.





I also hear / see toddlers and young children knowing the lyrics to Katy Perry, Rhianna, Eminem, even Snoop Dogg. And then I see some parents that BAN any music that isn't a nursery rhyme.



Does your child(ren) listen to music that isn't geared towards kids? Do you think there is music that is absolutely inappropriate for an infant or toddler or child to listen too?

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Charlie - posted on 09/16/2010

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Well Cooper loves TOOL and they listen to all the music we listen to as you can see by my profile pic not only do they listen to the likes of Pantera they wear their merch too LOL.

We have a very broad range of music from metal to psytrance to hip hop and acoustic chill or reggae .

Oh and Tool was the most mind bending concert Ive been to .

My son has a crush on Katy Perry every time he sees her he says "booobs" and dances .

Johnny - posted on 09/13/2010

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Ah, that just reminds me of a 6 year old who was in my daycamp who loved to rap Eminem:

Nowadays everybody wanna talk like they got somethin to say
But nothin comes out when they move their lips;
Just a bunch of gibberish
And motherfuckers act like they forgot about dre

That is not an attractive word ever, but is far more disturbing when coming from the mouth of an adorable little girl.

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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I also do not censor music and my kids aren't big fans of "kid's music". Here's some of what's on my 7 year old's Ipod:

The Black Keys
Big Sugar
Tim Hus
Jimi Hendrix
The Yeah Yeah Yeahs
Bob Marley
Eric Clapton
AC/DC (of course)
I Mother Earth
Neil Young
Metallica
Foo Fighters
Godsmack
Queens of the Stone Age
Dave Matthews Band
Stompin Tom

We love music at our house (my Itunes is up to 11,000 songs and counting) and I'm glad my daughter is enjoying it too.

Krista - posted on 09/13/2010

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I'd like to check out the kids' album that They Might Be Giants put out. I've always been a big fan of TMBG, and most of their songs are silly enough that kids would like them anyway, so it'd be interesting to hear.

Rosie - posted on 09/12/2010

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any and all music. i don't really care, whatever makes my kids get up and shake their booties, lol!
right now lucas LOVES chain of fools by aretha franklin, last week it was love the way you lie by eminem and rhianna. i've noticed my 10 year old following his fathers steps into metal land, lol! metallica is something that none of my kids can get enough of, they LOVE them some metallica.

as for music that is innapropriate, i don't ever feel there really is. music is music-columbine wasn't caused by marilyn manson, it was caused by lack of parental involvement, and bullying. as long as i'm involved in what my kids are doing, and listening to i will always feel confident that they won't turn into little heathens. :)

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?? - posted on 09/16/2010

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We have Siruis XM Radio and we usually have it on Octane, Boneyard, Alt Nation, Lithium or Liquid Metal channels - none of it is censored and it's everything from the past 50-60 years of rock and metal.

Gabe LOVES ollllllllllllld rock, when we put it on the hair nation channel, he LOVES it !

Lindsay - posted on 09/16/2010

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Liz, my daughter used to love the Let The Bodies Hit the Floor too. I think she liked the loudness of it. Though she'd try to sing it, "Let the boys hit the boat." haha

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My kids listen to pretty much everything I do, and I listen to a little bit of everything. They love Baby Got Back and a lot more that some would probably think inappropriate, but they almost never say the cuss words. The only music I avoid is Crazy Bitch (Buckcherry), Dr. Dre and Lady Gaga cuz that chick has issues.
My sons favorite songs are Let the Bodies Hit the Floor and Survival of the Sickest. My youngest daughter loves Cocaine Blues by Johnny Cash and my oldest girl loves The Storm by Garth Brooks.
I think its great to give kids a variety of music, it helps them express themselves and there moods.

Krista E.-They Might Be Giants kids album is great, my kids and my husband to turn on the mic and sing to it:)

ME - posted on 09/16/2010

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I listen to classic rock, and contemporary rock, some industrial metal/rock, some oldies, some classical, blues, jazz, and a little bit of hiphop...I don't think any music is inappropriate unless it's bad music...I don't think my son has ever heard a pop song when he was with me...when we are riding around in the car, if there's something on the radio Miles doesn't like, he says: "mommy, turn on a rocking song"...when i find one he likes he rocks out in his car seat...he's my guy ;-)

LaCi - posted on 09/16/2010

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My son listens to my music. Punk, indie rock, indie rap, some 80's, lots of 90's, less 60's and 70's, quite a bit of 40's and 50's (I get the craving most days). Chris used to try to stick an earbud in my bellybutton when I was pregnant. It was usually hurt, flogging molly, or sage francis.

We used to have a bunch of rock-a-bye cds that he would sleep to, he's destroyed most of them now. He loved the smashing pumpkins one. ;)

Anyway, he listens to what we listen to. ;D

Rebecca - posted on 09/15/2010

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My kids are 3yrs and 1yr and they both LOVE music. They dance to any music. A theme song to a show, music on the radio while we are driving or to their toys, they just flat out love it. If my son is throwing a fit i will ask if he want sot dance and he calms down and dances his butt off. I love that we can all dance and act like fools and then he says shake your bum mommy lol. LOVE it. We used to tell him this when he would first dance around 1.5yrs because he just moved his hands so to get him to move we would say to shake his bum, anyways lol. I am not bothered by the words of music and don't care what they dance to. Neither of my kids are repeating anything,yet, so until the day comes that they know what the words to songs are we will listen to what is on.

Lyndsay - posted on 09/14/2010

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When I was pregnant, I would lie in bed at night with my mp3 player and I would have one earphone over my ear and one earphone over my belly button... my baby used to kick like crazy!

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My kids listen to the music I listen to. I love Rod Stewart, Tom Petty, the Beattles, Van Morrison, Chris Botti, Josh Groban (NEW CD COMING OUT IN NOVEMBER!!! I'M SO EXCITED!!! lol), Lucia Micarelli, and a lot more. I listen to mostly 70's and 80's stuff, so my kids know a lot of songs that other kids their age don't know! lol...

Also, my almost 3 year-old is completely obsessed with the barbie movies right now and can sing any song from any of those movies, plus the songs from Mulan II, and any song from the Timkerbell movies... She's a music nut! :D

Sara - posted on 09/14/2010

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I agree with Teresa, no sexual references/violence/foul language for my little one!

Lynn - posted on 09/13/2010

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My son is in love with Lady Gaga and I don't really know how that happened cuz my husband & I don't listen to her stuff. He also likes stuff my hubby & I are into like Metallica(old stuff from before the Black album)LCD Soundsystem, Soul Coughing, Blondie, Gorillaz, etc.
As for music that isn't appropriate for kids to listen to: that Gangsta rap crap. Not my cup of tea anyways but I don't think a kid should be listening to stuff like 'F*ck dem b*tches & hoes'...blah blah blah.

Joann - posted on 09/13/2010

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i dont think it matters all music stimulates and gives a child an oppurunity to be creative,also allows the child to learn more things that most kids songs and rhymes dont. my lil angel use to have a favorite song by nelly ignition and every time it would play in the car she would press her hands as if she was honking.anyways music is music.

Jacquie - posted on 09/13/2010

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Yes- she did. And then she turned 8 and I realized that I had made a huge mistake. There is something sobering about a kid who sings about brushing her teeth with a bottle of Jack. I switched her to Kids Bop and Alvin and the Chipmunks

Dana - posted on 09/13/2010

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Jenny that's sweet that your daughter listens to Big Sugar, not too many people even know who they are.



We didn't set out to censor anything but, I guess we just naturally stopped playing most rap around Ethan. We listen to all kinds of music though. Matt is a blues guitar player so, blues tends to be our base a lot.

Ethan's favorite song of all times is Jason Mraz, I'm yours. That song saved us during his time of colic, then and still now he will stop crying at the first note of that song. His second favorite is Dropkick Murphys, Shipping off to Boston. He also loves the band Gogol Bordello. Which is only natural since Matt and I both have gypsy blood. ;)

Kylie - posted on 09/13/2010

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My kids listen to all music..from classical to rage to hi-5, when my oldest was 3 she would sing all the words (her version) to waking up in Vegas."Shut up and put your money where your mouth is" at the top her lungs in the shops got us some funny looks. Her favorite music is black eyed peas and paramore. I dont play emenin/50cent/dre/tool..or any music with the n or f word gets repeated when the kids are around. This morning she jumped in the car and started singing i wanna be a billionaire so fricken bad....eek i said you better not sing that one at school babe because fricken is a rude word and little people shouldn't say it. I do worry about some of the lyrics shes been exposed to.

?? - posted on 09/13/2010

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I would have died to see Tool :(

And Alice in Chains back with Layne :(
And Deftones with Chi :(

They'll still be awesome now, but it's just not the same without the original members !

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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Tool was pretty sweet. My partner caught the autographed drumskin that was tossed in the crowd. I was 8 months pregnant at the time so technically that was Jacob's first concert. His second was Queens of the Stone Age a few weeks later. The venue was changed from the Orpheum to a hockey rink in Burnaby. Since I was so pregnant and had floor seats they gave me the penalty box so I was safe. It was sweet because I could see over everyone's heads and had tons of room. 5th row center at the Orpheum would have been better though, stupid city worker strike.

Next up - Alice in Chains, Deftones and Mastadon (fucking A!) on Oct. 7th in Vancouver.

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Kelowna's concerts are pretty random, for sure. My first concert was in Kelowna - Korn, Powerman 5000 and Papa Roach... and that was back in like 98 or 99 lol Metallica was supposed to be there too but Hetfield had that water skiing accident and hurt his back (boo hoo)

My brother and sister live in Abbotsford and they go to concerts nearly every week... Mel works at the arena as a bartender so she gets deals on tickets alllllllll the time. She always says she will be stealing Gabriel when he's old enough to go on his own to go to concerts with her. Kinda pisses me off that she doesn't invite me but she'll invite my son ! lol

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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Oh of course you know that duh lol.

Now Kelowna just needs to get it's shit together and attract some good bands. Being an inbetween of Calgary and Vancouver I thought we'd have alot more tours coming through when the new arena opened.

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yea I know it's your daughters. I've noticed the music you listen too along with your baby girl, I'm assuming Jacob will be listening to the same lol



Gabe will be 2 in October, so I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up in Kelowna or other places at the same concerts as Jacob lol obviously, when they're older, not anytime soon :p

Jenny - posted on 09/13/2010

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Actually that's my daughter's Ipod lol.

My son is 2 and will headbang to pretty much anything. He LOVES watching his dad play guitar.

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Jessica and Jenny, I think our boys could end up going to concerts together if we all lived in the same place lol

Actually, Jenny, our sons probably WILL end up at the same concerts at some point lol

Sharon - posted on 09/13/2010

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I never censored music. But most of our music comes from the radio which is sort of censored for bad words.

My kids are keenly interested in the lyrics and we google them all the time. Which leads to discussions about "what does he mean when he says 'come on get high with me'?" oy. But better they hear it from me than from their friends.

With cellphones as mp3s, ipods, mp3s your kids with the censored music - not happening. Oh sure while your kid is 4 yrs old, yeah, but once they hit elementary school - POOF. Your illusion of censorship is gone. Your control over your children is gone. And all it leads to is your child leading a secret life and putting all their own interpretations on what they hear.

I have NEVER heard a kid say "yeah my mom doesn't want me to listen to that."

My neighbors are ultra conservative christians. I love them. They're sweet. We've got goblins and witches and carved pumpkins up every halloween and they're throwing a 'non-halloween' party for their church youth group. Well they did. Until their kids went to the darkside. They've pretty much disowned their daughter for doing things they don't approve of. Thats all they'll say. Their son has been in & out of legal trouble, and it all started with them sneaking off to learn about those things their parents were hiding from them.

I dunno if the kids are really "bad" or if they're just not perfectly christian like their parents want. I do know the boy was arrested and at least paid a short visit to juvy, he had to do volunteer work etc.

The parents are, in my opinion, real christians, they don't gossip, they live by what they preach and I like them. But in regards to their kids they were more than a little nuts to think their private schools would protect their kids from the bigger world.

I'm fortunate to like current popular music - well most of it, lol. I consider my christian but not a perfect one. My husband considers himself catholic, not even gonna go there but lets call him christian minded too.

Not to mention my experiences in highschool with my christian friends. Same things as my neighbors but to a lesser extent. I went to public highschool but my best friends went to private christian highschools. I always respected their beliefs and we listened to their music when we hung out but I had other music. But other friends were more interested in getting them to listen current music and things went downhill from there.

Jessica - posted on 09/13/2010

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Nope, my son listens to everything and anything with me. Like you a lot of my music is heavy metal, Slipknot, MM, Mudvayne and the likes. My son could give a mosher run for his money. It's soooo funny.

Johnny - posted on 09/12/2010

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We try to listen to all types of music. Kids music sometimes, my daughter absolutely loves Jack Johnson's Curious George album and anything Raffi. But I will not put up with bad kids music. She's got Mazzy Star, Europe (my kid LOVES the Final Countdown) and Deadmau5 on her playlist, along with Sharon, Lois & Bram, Fred Penner, and Pete Seeger. I can not stomach Charlotte Diamond or stuff from Yo Gabba Gabba, The Wiggles, or Veggie Tales though.

We listen to classical, jazz, world, new age, and folk. But lots of rock too. We don't play a lot of music that has particularly child-inappropriate lyrics, so we don't worry too much about it. We do have some Eminem and Snoop Dogg, but I wouldn't play all their music in her presence (ever).

Her & my husband's "song" is Ben Harper's Steal My Kisses, and her and I both love Weighty Ghost by Wintersleep. She always presses repeat to hear it again and I do not mind :-)

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I try to keep our radio in the car set to a family-friendly station (it has Contemporary Christian music and some mainstream music that has a more positive vibe). My husband changes it sometimes- that's fine, but once a curse word comes in the song or I find it to be inappropriate for little ears, I change it back.



And yes, I do think that there is music that is just highly inappropriate for children.. Music with nothing but cussing, music with sexually explicit lyrics and music that talks about violence- gang and otherwise.

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My daughter is 20mths and sings Katie perry's hot&cold and beyonce's all the single ladies..she also does the dance lol..my kids love singing and dancing..my first loved guns n roses big time.

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Ethan loves music, as soon as he hears music whatever it may be he starts clapping or dancing. I spent a lot of time listening to music when I was pg as I spent a lot of time in my car driving for my job (I went to gigs and allsorts while I was pg).

His favourite music is Bear necessities from the Jungle Book it always stops him crying and has since he was a couple of weeks old, and he loves my retro dance music (I have a raver gqtm). He has a Disney CD of songs from their films but only because I love them too :-)

I don't censor what I'm listening to though as I have an ecclectic taste and love music from classical to heavy rock and pop and dance etc and feel that Ethan should be exposed to it because I cannot censor my taste until he grows up I would go mad - if I hear a song I like I will listen to it regardless.

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Awww Jo both my LO's love BLS too ^_^ Jordan sings Way Beyond Empty to Brooklynn to put her to sleep. He also sings Jeff Healy songs to her. I sing Sweet Child of Mine, Stand By Me, Some Day, and anything from Rent (I'm waiting for the day that one of my kids come home after getting in trouble for singing La Vie Boheme; mutual masturbation anyone? lol)
I think that songs with tons of swearing (or some subject matter, like killing someone) are generally not appropriate, but genre doesn't matter to our family. I do have one Wiggles album, and Snacktime (by the Barenaked Ladies). We were driving and my iPod played Garth Brooks, Ozzy, The Wiggles, and then a song from Wicked Broadway. :S It was quite random lol.

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Kati, that video is friggin' adorable. WHERE did they get that soother....SO CUTE! I LOVE SKULLS and Roxanne has the same car seat. haha!

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We listen mostly to country and childrens music, mainly because I'm trying to relive my youth. I know all the words to Raffi's "Baby Beluga" and I LOVE it BUT that being said, I'm not opposed to other types of music. I definitely don't want to shelter her.

Lindsay - posted on 09/12/2010

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My kids have always listened to whatever I had on though once they started talking, I paid more attention to what I was playing...I learned my lesson to put away the Buck Cherry for awhile after Madeline starting singing along to "Crazy Bitch" in the car at about 17 months. =S Now I mostly just keep it on the radio in the car and everything is censored anyway so it's no big deal. Beyond the kids having the kid's music on the kid TV shows, they aren't really exposed to it. I won't be running out to buy a wiggles cd but I won't turn it off if they are watching/dancing to it either.

Madeline's favorite music currently consists of Red Hot Chili Peppers, Sublime's "It's so nice", Selena Gomez, and Justin Timberlake. Cooper loves BOB, Lady Gaga, and Staind.

Carolee - posted on 09/12/2010

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Metallica was my son's lullaby. I would put in the black album whenever he cried, and it would put him to sleep by the time we got to "Unforgiven"... he was calm by time "Enter Sandman" was over.

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Our kid has never been exposed to children's music to tell the truth. He went to sleep when we played ACDC or Wham when he was a newborn we'd put an ipod and speakers in his bassinet or drive around playing wake me up before you go go and he'd love it but other types of music he did not like so much and would scream.

Krista - posted on 09/12/2010

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We play what we like in the house for now. Once Sam starts getting more verbal and picking up more words, we'll probably (temporarily) set aside anything with really blatant cursing or violent/misogynistic lyrics. And I do find it kind of tacky when you see toddlers singing along to really sexual songs.

Other than that though, I have no intention of only exposing him to "kid's" music. I'd go insane. In the car the other day, we were listening to Soundgarden, and he was smiling and laughing. There's a lot of good, normal adult music out there that is perfectly fine for kids. Heck, I'm listening to Blondie right now. :)

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I think its totally fine to play music for babies/toddlers that isn't nursery rhymes. I do think once they are old enough to know what words mean you want to stay away from stuff with swear words, obvious sexual references, etc.


Kieran (15 months) loves any kind of music! He dances- bops up and down, waves his arms back and forth, even shrugs his little shoulders. We do sing him some baby songs- You Are My Sunshine, My Bonny Lies Over the Ocean, Old MacDonald. But for the most part he listens to what we do- and likes it!

Especially Irish/Scottish music. One of the songs DH sings to him at night before bed is an Irish song- can't remember the name of it now. Yes, 99% of them are about drinking lol but he doesn't get that now- he just likes the music.

When he was a baby and we were in the car he used to "sing" along to Adam Lambert whenever I'd llisten to his cd.

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When I was pregnant I was listening to a lot of Daft Punk and Opeth, mixed with some trip hop and Muse or Radiohead. Once Tor was born I started playing classical music in the house to help him settle. The result: he crashes as soon as I put him in the car, regardless of what is playing. If he wakes up, he just chills. On longer trips, if he's fussing, I'll throw on some Debussy or Mozart and he settles pretty quick. Personally, "kid's" music is one of the most insufferable things I can think of, and I have no intention of conditioning him to like it. Most little guys just seem to just like a good beat - my nephews have Lady Gaga dance parties where they completely go off and dance so hard. Once kids reach the verbal phase, definitely watch the language content of your tunes, but seriously, allowing only Barney or Sesame Street would make me completely insane.

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When I had my first son nearly 19 years ago I used to watch a soap called Neighbours and when he was born as soon as the music came on he would look towards the tv. In fact I recorded the programme and just played the music to him if he was in a screaming fit. My other son loved any music and settled easily with the radio on and my daughter who is 22 months I got smart and sang to her every day when I was pregnant the same song and whenever she is upset I sing the same song to her and it soothes her instantly so this does work. The song was an old fashioned one called Daisy Daisy Give Me Your Answer Do.

Joanna - posted on 09/11/2010

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Paige prefers anything that's featured on Yo Gabba Gabba, whether it's the annoying Party in my Tummy song, or some stuff I like like Aquabats "Pool Party." However some of her favorite songs are: "Strangers in the Night" by Cake, "Dancing in the Moonlight" by Toploader, "Shake it Up" by the Cars, "Better in Time" by Leona Lewis, and "New Soul" by Yael Naim. So her tastes are pretty ecclectic like mine. When she was a newborn I'd try singing nursery rhymes to her only to realize I didn't know the words, so I sang all the songs I could that I knew every word to. As a baby I found that "Always Be My Baby" (originally by Mariah Carey, but I sang the version David Cook did on American Idol), "Ain't No Sunshine" by Al Green, and "Don't Know Why" by Norah Jones, all really soothed her when she was fussy. I'd sing those 3 songs over and over again while walking back and forth on my patio for hours when she had colic - the neighbors probably thought I was nuts (and tone deaf, which I am, but my daughter didn't know it, haha).

Now she just likes what she likes. In fact we were at the table painting last night and our neighbors pulled up under our condo window blasting some super heavy death metal, and she said "listen mama, pretty music!" Silly kids!

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Eliza hears what we listen to, but like Teresa, it's pretty tame. Like TV, music should be monitored for age appropriateness. It's not the genre that bothers me at all. It's the words that come out of babes mouths that bother me.

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95% (or more) of the music we play is Country or Christian Contemporary. I'm not sure my son even knows any 'kid songs'. I don't actually think Country is 'appropriate' for kids, but thankfully all the sex and alcohol references go mostly over their heads. Though my girls did ask how Tequilla makes someones clothes fall off..... lol Anyway, I'm not comfortable w/ kids listening to music w/ foul language or obvious sex or violence references, but I don't/won't listen to that stuff either so it's not a problem in this house. ;)

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