Nudity in the Home?

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How do you feel about being nude in front of your children? Is nudity at your home private & personal, or out in the open? Of course, the age of your children plays into a huge factor. There comes a certain point when maturing kids don't need to see a naked parent and need privacy.



Nudity at home is not an issue now. It's very natural for us to be naked-or at least for me have on panties. While my husband and I are not 'nudists', we don't necessarily feel a strong need for privacy/modesty when dressing or taking a shower. But we have taught our son that using the toilet is a very different issue that requires privacy. My 4 year old son likes being naked around the house, if we're having one of those lounging around the house days.

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Joanna - posted on 04/15/2010

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I have a very relaxed stance on nudity at home. We will continue to embrace our nudity in the household until our child(ren) start to show signs, or voice, that they are uncomfortable with it. And we make sure to let our daughter (only 2 1/2) know that it's okay to be naked inside your house, but it's not okay to take your clothes off in public or in front of strangers, etc.

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MY sons are 11, 9 and 3 years old, im not modest at all about nudity at home, i leave my bedroom door open when i dress, i dont lock the door when im in the bath and when i was breastfeeding my son i would do it in front of them no worries. My sons dont worry about it they have no worries about walking into the bathroom to talk to me about something if im in the bath etc. They are modest themselves though and i respect their privacy i knock before i walk in their rooms and i stay out of the bathroom unless they ask me to come in. If they ever said i was making them uncomfortable i would stop straight away though.

Savannah - posted on 06/16/2009

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I am a very shy and modest person. My husband and I have been together for 5 years and the only times he has seen me naked in bright light is when he sneaks up on me. I am not as shy around my boys because they don't really care, but I always have underwear and bra on. My oldest is two and he is becoming very interested in my boobs (I think its from seeing his dad) and it does make me uncomfortable. But, like I said, I am a very shy person. I don't see anything wrong with nudity at home, I just can't do it, myself.

Shayna - posted on 03/07/2010

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I don't feel uncomfortable with nudity at home around my 3 year old son. Mind you I don't flaunt around, just if I'm getting dressed or out of the shower. Our son LOVES to be naked, he will run around the house naked all day long if we let him lol. He knows that I'm a girl because I have "bubbies" & he is a boy because he has a "wiener". That stuff does not make me uncomfortable in the least. I'm sure when he is older it will no longer happen, but for now his mind is pure innocence and he has no care in the world.

Jocelyn - posted on 03/01/2010

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I walk around in underwear and a bra all the time (and the only reason I wear a bra is because of my massive boobs and once I get my reduction I will gladly go topless :P lmao) My hubby walks around either in boxers or nothing. We walk to the shower naked, and my son sees us get dressed, things like that. I actually had a group bath with my son and my daughter the other night (son is 3 yrs daughter is 4 months).

Of course when my kids get older, I won't be parading around the house topless lol. But for now, while they are young, I see no reason to cover up.

Our family is fairly open, comfortable with nudity at home, and it's not unusual for a friend to be over and be lounging around in almost nothing with us. As long as you are comfortable with nudity at home, I see no problem with it. Of course I'll teach my kids that there are times when nudity is not appropriate, but I hope I raise them to not be ashamed of their bodies.

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Sunny - posted on 03/07/2010

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Im always home nude lol! I have a 3 yr old son who is at home with me all day, he knows the boy and girl body parts and my partner and i both still shower with him. Once he starts getting embarrassed ill put some more clothes on :)

Irene - posted on 03/04/2010

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I have one daughter. I am naked I would say 80% of the time in the house. I am simply uncomfortable in clothing and comfortable with nudity at home. My daughter tends to like being naked too. But of course she does, she's only 2.



However if I had a son, I wouldn't be naked. I wouldn't feel it was appropriate. Same way my hubby doesn't feel its appropriate for him to be naked in front of our daughter.

Lisamarie - posted on 03/04/2010

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My 3 yr old is always naked when we're home alone, she's potty training and goes herself and just leaves her clothes in the bathroom! I try to cover up at home, especially the lower body as I've taught her that hers is a private place and so is mummies. I too have seen my mother nakes on many occasions whilst living at home and never saw a problem with it. I'm not too worried about walking to the toilet in morning in my bra. I'm quite self consious so not really one to show off my body a lot. :)

Johnny - posted on 03/03/2010

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I'm not much of a "naked" person, probably because I get cold easily. But I don't worry at all about my daughter seeing me naked. I have always seen my mother naked after a shower or getting dressed and have thought nothing of it. In fact, seeing her and other real women naked at the pool etc. probably gave me a more healthy sense of what real women's bodies look like instead of assuming that we all must look like models in magazines. So I will happily allow my daughter to see the naked female form and for any son I might have to be exposed to the same thing with men. My hubby and I are a little perplexed about how old is too old for our daughter to see him naked though. I vaguely remember seeing my dad naked when I was a tiny kid, and although I'm not that bothered by it, we don't want to go past the "right time" with our daughter.

Jess - posted on 03/03/2010

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My daughter is only 7 months old, so she doesn't care about nudity at home or anywhere else! She loves being naked though its funny how her behavour changes once those clothes come off. I walk around in a shirt in underpants most of the time, i don't get dressed unless we are going out or someone is coming over. I don't think that will change until my daughter is a lot older, maybe school age. Its comfy and I don't think I'm exposing anything. I do the nudey run from the shower to my walk in robe all the time.... I might stop that a little sooner though !

Charlie - posted on 03/03/2010

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Well i still shower with my 15 almost 16 month old son so no its not an issue , i actually enjoy walking around the house in my undies .

Krista - posted on 03/03/2010

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I have no issues with my boy seeing me nekkid, but he's only 6 months old, so he doesn't care. I have no idea how I'll be about it when he's older. I'm relatively modest, so while I don't think I'll shriek and make a fuss if he does see me nude, I'll still be closing my bedroom door while changing. Modest, but not spazzed-out about nudity at home, basically.

Sharon - posted on 03/02/2010

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I don't mind being nude around my daughter. My boys never see me in less than a bikini attire though.

Mathilda - posted on 03/01/2010

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Our house is a bit divided my husband is pretty much naked most of the time. We also talked this before our son was born which has helped a lot.

I am not so comfortable with nudity at home but I wish I were. I took showers with my mom as a child and growing up I took baths with my siblings and it was fun!.

My son seems to have a field day running around naked ha ha! And I encourage it I want him to be able to be comfortable with and without clothes. He spent most of this first year in a diaper.

I alternate between baths and taking a shower with mom and dad or just one of us, and he can't quite walk just yet so we have to hold him but that skin to skin contact seems to make him calm and relaxed.

As he gets older it will be up to his level of comfortableness if he wants to wear clothes cool if he wants to run around the house naked or in his underwear till hes whatever age thats fine with me too.

Tiffany - posted on 03/01/2010

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Our daughter is almost 5 and our son just turned 1. So we are still in the relaxed stage of nudity at home I suppose. Our children take baths/showers with us when we need to save time, they see us when we dress or get ready for bed. I know there will be a time when that can't go on any longer because our children will be "grossed out" by mom and dad but for now I just hope to give them a positive body image. Our daughter is still in the habit of stripping down to underwear(with or without a shirt) when she comes home from school...she gets comfy and it is fine by us. She knows the only rule is that she must have clothes on when company comes over as well as she has to keep them on when spending the night at her grandparents or cousins house.

Sarah - posted on 06/17/2009

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I've never bathed with my kids, not really because i find it uncomfortable, but our first flat didn't have a bath, so we bathed my daughter in the kitchen sink!! I did try and have a shower with her once but i nearly dropped her!! So i didn't try again!
When we finally moved, she was too old to want mummy in the bath really, and then my youngest came along so they share a bath....no room for me!! :)

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Quoting Catherine:

If you make a big deal out of nudity one way or another, a child is going to end up getting slightly damaged by it. My boys see me naked when i'm taking a bath or shower, or when I'm getting dressed. It's perfectly natural and I'm not going to throw them out of the bathroom or try desperately to cover up incase they see something different. They don't care. I think as they get older they'll decide for themselves that they don't want to see that, at which time they'll learn not to walk in on me in those situations. I won't force nudity on my children (no nudist beaches) but I'm not going to teach them it's bad either, think that can attribute to body issues as they get older.



I agree completely with Catherine's post.  My son is only 19 months old but I agree that he will decide one day for himself when he doesn't want to see Mommy  naked anymore.  We still shower together a few times a week too and it's one of our most special times.   

Jessica - posted on 06/16/2009

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I think before I had kids I was much more modest. We don't run around naked but if someone walks in when we're changing or showering it's really not a big deal. I have noticed that my 7 yr old is getting to a point where he likes his privacy in the shower but it's not a steady occurence yet. I think nudity is only a bad thing when it's made dirty. My 3yr old has recently become attached to my breasts, he tells me "I like your booboos mom" it's hard not to laugh. Our kids are modest or as modest as kids go I guess but being naked around each other is not forbidden.

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I think boys just love 'flapping in the breeze'! Every now and then my son is so involved in playing outside in the backyard that he'll pee out back. We have an enclosed block wall fence that is private. But we also teach him to put underpants or shorts on someone is at the door. I wouldn't take him to a nudie beach at all. IMO, that's an adult decision. Kids need to learn that their body is nothing to be ashamed of, but at a beach with all those naked bodies in front of you, I can imagine how unnatural that may be.

Kate - posted on 06/15/2009

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Haha I love that your son likes to be naked. I want to preserve that stage for daughter as long as possible. Not that I want her to be a nudist, in fact I want her to be modest in public, but I don't want her to be embarrassed of her body. I want her to know that no matter what shape or size she is, she is beautiful. It's also just so freeing for them to run around (the home) naked. I think it builds confidence, as long as they know that it's not to be presented to strangers. I don't want her playing "doctor" with the boy next door.
My husband and I walk around the house naked all the time. I think once my daughter starts repeating things that she sees and begins to take more notice, my husband will wear shorts before he gets out of the bathroom after a shower. When we have a boy, I'll cover up more when he reaches that stage.

Cathelijn - posted on 06/15/2009

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My daughter is only 6 months so I dont have this issue yet but I think that privacy is a big thing but you dont want your children growing up thinking their nakedness is something to be ashamed off. My parents used to walk around naked all the time they even forced us to go to a naked beach with them! We always hated it ( we wore our swimmingsuits anyway) my dad until this day has no shame borderline nudist I think! He never feels ashamed getting naked on public beaches or pools.. People act really shocked when I tell them but it is my dad nothing weird is goin on he just doesnt see it as anything weird or to be ashamed off he says everyone has the same atributes.. That said I would like my kids to respect mine and their own privacy I think it is all about respect and understandin what might be comfortable for me might not be for my daughter! believe me! to be dragged to a nudist beach at around 13 has scarred my sister for life :-)

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2009

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i don't really feel that uncomfortable being naked around my girls, tho i don't do it very often. my husband however has never been naked around them, he feel quite uncomfortable with that.

i definately think going to the toilet is a private moment!! one of our toilets doesn't have a lock, and i get quite annoyed if my eldest bursts in on me! tho when we're out we often use the same cubicle!

i think it's all about what you feel comfortable doing. :)

Sunny - posted on 03/07/2010

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Im always home nude lol! I have a 3 yr old son who is at home with me all day, he knows the boy and girl body parts and my partner and i both still shower with him. Once he starts getting embarrassed ill put some more clothes on :)

Irene - posted on 03/04/2010

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I have one daughter. I am naked I would say 80% of the time in the house. I am simply uncomfortable in clothing and comfortable with nudity at home. My daughter tends to like being naked too. But of course she does, she's only 2.



However if I had a son, I wouldn't be naked. I wouldn't feel it was appropriate. Same way my hubby doesn't feel its appropriate for him to be naked in front of our daughter.

Jess - posted on 03/03/2010

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My daughter is only 7 months old, so she doesn't care about nudity at home or anywhere else! She loves being naked though its funny how her behavour changes once those clothes come off. I walk around in a shirt in underpants most of the time, i don't get dressed unless we are going out or someone is coming over. I don't think that will change until my daughter is a lot older, maybe school age. Its comfy and I don't think I'm exposing anything. I do the nudey run from the shower to my walk in robe all the time.... I might stop that a little sooner though !

Krista - posted on 03/03/2010

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I have no issues with my boy seeing me nekkid, but he's only 6 months old, so he doesn't care. I have no idea how I'll be about it when he's older. I'm relatively modest, so while I don't think I'll shriek and make a fuss if he does see me nude, I'll still be closing my bedroom door while changing. Modest, but not spazzed-out about nudity at home, basically.

Mathilda - posted on 03/01/2010

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Our house is a bit divided my husband is pretty much naked most of the time. We also talked this before our son was born which has helped a lot.

I am not so comfortable with nudity at home but I wish I were. I took showers with my mom as a child and growing up I took baths with my siblings and it was fun!.

My son seems to have a field day running around naked ha ha! And I encourage it I want him to be able to be comfortable with and without clothes. He spent most of this first year in a diaper.

I alternate between baths and taking a shower with mom and dad or just one of us, and he can't quite walk just yet so we have to hold him but that skin to skin contact seems to make him calm and relaxed.

As he gets older it will be up to his level of comfortableness if he wants to wear clothes cool if he wants to run around the house naked or in his underwear till hes whatever age thats fine with me too.

Tiffany - posted on 03/01/2010

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Our daughter is almost 5 and our son just turned 1. So we are still in the relaxed stage of nudity at home I suppose. Our children take baths/showers with us when we need to save time, they see us when we dress or get ready for bed. I know there will be a time when that can't go on any longer because our children will be "grossed out" by mom and dad but for now I just hope to give them a positive body image. Our daughter is still in the habit of stripping down to underwear(with or without a shirt) when she comes home from school...she gets comfy and it is fine by us. She knows the only rule is that she must have clothes on when company comes over as well as she has to keep them on when spending the night at her grandparents or cousins house.

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If you make a big deal out of home nudity one way or another, a child is going to end up getting slightly damaged by it. My boys see me naked when i'm taking a bath or shower, or when I'm getting dressed. It's perfectly natural and I'm not going to throw them out of the bathroom or try desperately to cover up incase they see something different. They don't care. I think as they get older they'll decide for themselves that they don't want to see that, at which time they'll learn not to walk in on me in those situations. I won't force nudity on my children (no nudist beaches) but I'm not going to teach them that nudity at home is bad either, think that can attribute to body issues as they get older.

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