Nursery Worker Admits Sex Abuse....

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009 ( 26 moms have responded )

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I honestly can not put into words how disgusted i am with this story... This woman was in a position where parents had no choice but to trust her... she had passed all checks that are needed to be able to work with children...... i honestly can not put into words what i truely want to say!!!!



http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/82841...

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Cathelijn - posted on 10/05/2009

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Like I posted before my daughter goes to nursery and this thread is making me feel like me sending her to nursery will guarantee her getting abused. I am sorry if it upsets anyone and it is depressing but a child can be abused anywhere! Unless your child does not go to school, never stays with family or friends, doesnt have any friends and stays in your sight 24/7 maybe then you can guarantee it not happening. I am not saying it is going to happen to every child, but my daughter going to nursery does not mean she will get abused..



I send my daughter to daycare because I HAVE to, I dont enjoy it but I don't think it is fair that other people try to make me feel bad about it because they have the luxury to stay at home with their child. I really wish I could stay home with her but for the moment she is fine there she enjoys it and learns a lot of thing that I probably wouldnt,do at home ( making jelly and letting your baby play with it, corn flour and water finger painting for 6 month olds, no way would I do that every day at home!!)



Lunatics are out there and unfortunatly they will find a way to get what they want at nursery or anywhere else...

?? - posted on 10/01/2009

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1 - shotgun.

2 - barn.

3 - dead.



Worthless creatures some people are. I honestly think these people should be taken out behind a barn and shot dead. Anyone who can harm an innocent child does not deserve to live. Anyone who is given the trust of parents to take care of their children.... and they break it - they should be snapped in half - like a twig. Disgusting, vile, worthless creatures.

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Charlie - posted on 10/05/2009

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It sucks that monsters like those people give us teachers at kindergartens / daycares / preschools a bad name and people feel they cant trust us to leave their children in our care .

Esther - posted on 10/05/2009

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I agree with Cathelijn. I'll go even further - I have to send my son to daycare too. However, I absolutely love his daycare. It is so clear to me how much he's getting out of the experience and how much he loves being there, that even if I won the $100M lottery today and I could afford to stay home, I truly don't think I would take him out. And I don't think I should have to feel like I have to have an excuse for sending him there. It's the right thing for me, it's the right thing for my husband, and most importantly it's the right thing for my son. That's all the excuse I need. As for the abuse risk, I think the risk of a child being abused (sexually or otherwise) in a daycare setting is fairly minimal (especially in a setting like my son's daycare) as there are ALWAYS other people around. There are sick people out there, there always have been and there always will be. There is no way to guarantee your child's safety for life. We all do the best we can to protect them and to give them what we think is the best possible environment for them to thrive.

Dawn - posted on 10/04/2009

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This is why I don't work. Not until the youngest is in school.



Also, one of the great things about prisoners. They don't like these people and guys that have life sentences will go and kill them. In a very nasty way. Its not like the lifers have to look forward to getting out.

Esther - posted on 10/04/2009

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Quoting Cathelijn:

My daughter goes to daycare, she loves it! My husband and I both have to work for the moment so we don't have much of a choice in regards of her going to daycare. What those animals have done is a sick sick thing not only will it make people think twice about sending their child to daycare it will also make people think twice about choosing the profession.. I just try to keep in mind that you can trust most people and not everyone is a dirty lunatic...



And often kids are abused by people their parents thought they could trust. Like relatives or close family friends. It's not always strangers.

Cathelijn - posted on 10/04/2009

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My daughter goes to daycare, she loves it! My husband and I both have to work for the moment so we don't have much of a choice in regards of her going to daycare. What those animals have done is a sick sick thing not only will it make people think twice about sending their child to daycare it will also make people think twice about choosing the profession.. I just try to keep in mind that you can trust most people and not everyone is a dirty lunatic...

Ava - posted on 10/02/2009

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I don't trust anybody with my child except one or two people that I *KNOW* I can trust. Her nana, who has already had three kids of her own and I ask -them- how she parents, and she does it -around them- and her husband, and my mother herself. I would not drop my daughter off at any babysitter or nursery keeper because I absolutely would not trust a stranger with my child. Period.

Heidi - posted on 10/02/2009

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After becoming a mom I decided to change my direction into what I wanted to do. so I decided to do what was best for me and my boys. I opened a licensed daycare in my home. That way I know my kids are safe, and I get the hoys of raising them rather then someone else. You never who you can trust and my boys are my life and I will do whatever it takes to keep them safe. What those people(monsters as I like to call them) should be put away for the rest of there lives. The parents of those kids must feel awful because I am sure they blame themselves. As parents we have to find trust and friendship with the people that will be caring for our kids, and sometimes all the checks with the police, or childrens aid might not be enough. Like I always tell the parents of the kids in my care, "go with your gut" and "if your child or children say anything look into it" Kids don't usually lie.

Esther - posted on 10/02/2009

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Quoting Christa:

That is why I work from home. There was NOWAY I was going to put my girl in daycare. Some sicko like that could ruin their entire life. It's truly sickening that these type of people get jobs at daycares all over and it doesn't seem like we can ever prevent it all. Although Ester, that webcam thing is great, I would pay extra for that.



lol - I do pay extra for that. $50 a month. But it's worth it to me.

Louise - posted on 10/02/2009

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No loureen i i don't think thats twisted at all... its not enough in my mind. The fact that thep children in the pictures can not be identifyed as none of the pictures contained their faces only adds to the pain all the parents are going through, cause they don't know if their child was one of the abused...

And jeannette i am the exact same, i wouldn't think twice about killing for my kids to protect them, and like you say those things involved are lucky my kids aren't involved either!!

Charlie - posted on 10/01/2009

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That is absolutely disgusting i cant believe the abuse of trust and disregard for another human being .

Would i be totally twisted to suggest their eyes be sewn shut , fingers cut off and genitals castrated hmmmm??

Jeannette - posted on 10/01/2009

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I was terrified someone would abuse my children. I sincerely believe that everyone involved is damn lucky that my kids weren't involved. I try to be level headed, but when it comes to my kids, I am willing to go berzerk, and shooting is not out of the question.

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009

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i'll have to have a look into nurserys that offer that where we'll be moving... thanks for informing me of that.

Esther - posted on 10/01/2009

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lol - the first few days I watched him every minute of the day. It got less and less. Now I just check in once or twice a day to see what he's up to. A bit more when he's transitioning from one class to another. However, all of our relatives live overseas so his grandparents don't get to see him as much as they'd like and to make up for that a little, they just watch the webcam all day long. So I'm pretty sure there is always some set of eyes making sure everything is going well there.

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009

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i didn't know there were places that had webcams!! what a fantastic idea!! though i'd prob never stop watching it.

Esther - posted on 10/01/2009

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This is why I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE the fact that my son's daycare has a webcam. It makes you want to throw up.

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009

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my eldest son has been to nursery.. and he loved it, my cousin worked at the same nursery he went to so i was comfortable with him going. we have recently taken him out as we'll be moving soon.. but this has seriously made me doubt that he or my yongest will be going to nursery at all!!!

Sharon - posted on 10/01/2009

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When I needed to go to work when my son was little I begged all my friends to watch my son at my house. Lucky for me a lot of them were between jobs. And the little I was able to pay was ok with them. hahaha I remember getting one of my old guy highschool friends to watch my son. Such a sweetheart! Anyway.... I was at work and he called the baby was crying and he couldn't stop him, I called my mom and she went over - together they tried EVERYTHING, lol... awww poor baby had one of my hairs wrapped around his little testicles.....



Anyway - I did that because I was so afraid of strangers.

Louise - posted on 10/01/2009

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these are the people you trust to keep you children safe when you have to go out and work to provide for them!!! i am so angry!!!

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