Amanda - posted on 12/07/2010 ( 87 moms have responded )
First and foremost, I am not posting this to offend anyone. Please know that. I am just curious to see what other moms would say.
Okay so I have a son who will be 7 this month. I also have 3 daughters, 4, almost 3 and almost 2.
What would you do if you're child came up to you and said that they were gay.
My uncle who is my mothers older brother, and is her bestfriend, came out to my grandparents during his jr yr in highschool, and told them that he was gay. My grandpa walked out of the room without saying a word. My grandma sat in silence. She knew that he could of been considering he always failed P.E and was in love with art, music and cleanliness, but she just told herself that he was a softer kind of guy. She didn't know what to say so the first thing she said was that they were Catholic and he should reconsider his decision.
My uncle couldn't "change" his decision. He was born gay. I've had long talks to him about this, and he told me that he knew from the moment he could know. And that he pretended to be interested in girls, and guy stuff but he just couldn't do it. He knew people would gawk and talk badly since they were die hard catholics, and came from a very proper family.
Through the years, my grandpa has learned to accept my uncle for he is, but would not welcome his husband. (He got married in Canada a few yrs before my grandpa passed). My grandma on the other hand came around much sooner, and adored his husband and was happy that he was happy.
Anyway after that LONG personal story, what would be your opinion. Would you be angry? Hateful? Feel like a failure? Would you be loving, and supportive. Would it take you awhile to adapt?
* If my son or daughter told me they were gay, I'd smile and tell them it doesn't matter what they are. I love them just the way they are. I'll always be there for my kids, to defend them, to love them, and to be there no matter what. Whether my son brings home a husband every yr or my daughter a wife. I want what's best for them and that's my opinion!!!!