Orgasmic Childbirth?!?!?(Video Included)

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I think orgasmic birth is wonderful and in no way gross or wrong or inappropriate, I don't even think it is weird, just well... wonderful and beautiful. Good on her. Every single woman's birth experience is individual and different this woman's just happened to be really positive and stimulating for her. Whether it happened by accident or on purpose, whatever... lucky lady! Her mind and body worked together in such a way that she was able to experience a sexual climax while birthing, so fantastic. I DO think that birth is kind of a sexual act, it took sex to get the baby there, unless you have a risk of premature labour or complications then sex is encouraged in pregnancy and sex is also recommended to bring on labour, so why shouldn't sexuality be a part of labour and birthing if the woman chooses so.

I don't necessarily think this was a 'pain-free' labour for this lady, just that she channelled the energy in a different way and experienced it in a unique manner. Pain is completely subjective and everyone has different tolerances and reactions.

As for making out during labour, this is actually a really effective way of aiding in progressing labour and assisting with stimulating and managing contractions. It works like so many breathing techniques to loosen the lips and therefore loosen and dilate the cervix and open up the woman's pelvis and vagina to prepare for delivery. It can also relax the woman, allowing labour to progress unhindered, it promotes the father's involvement in the labour and birth experience aiding in promoting his bonding with the baby, it strengthens the relationship between mother and father. Of course, these benefits are only a positive if the woman is open to and wants this kind of contact. But if it works for her and helps with her labour, then GREAT; if it leads to an orgasmic birth, then BONUS for her.

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2010

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To be honest, id choose pain over an orgasm during labour any day. I know some women cant help having an orgasm during labour but i definately wouldn't do it purposely.
Every woman is different in labour, some are quiet, some scream and some swear. At the time women do whatever they feel they need to vent the pain etc.
With my 1st i only has gas and air. But i also had the amazing support from my husband and my mum. My husband was constantly rubbing my back and telling me i was doin fantastic. We didnt kiss, as i couldnt think of anything else except my breathin exercises. And my son came out (no orgasm) no problems. I didnt scream, grunt, swear or anything. The midwives said i was the quietest woman they have had in a long time. With my second, i was all alone and scared. And my god, the pain was excruciating. I think my 2nd was so much more painful because i didnt have the support of anyone at all !! (The hospital didnt ring my husband in time so he missed everything ) I didnt even have time for any pain relief, but i soooo wanted an epidural it was that bad.
Each woman to their own on how they deal with the pain of child birth. I actually enjoyed it (afterwards) as it was such an intense pain but once your baby is here, the pain is forgotton. I got a buzz from being in labour, i loved it, no matter how painful it was. But i dont agree in women purposely having an orgasm during labour, it just doesnt seem right at all. I think if it had happened to me (accidently) i would have been mortified and felt so disgusted in myself. But as i said, each woman to their own. Deal with your pain however you want, but for me having an orgasm during labour is a no go

Christa - posted on 05/03/2010

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I just gave birth naturally 11 weeks ago today, and while I agree with the mind over matter and I was definitely able to minimize the pain, I wouldn't call it pain free and no offence to those who said they've had them, but I don't believe there is such a thing. But for the sake of argument let’s say women can actually do this, I agree with the others who have said it's weird or creepy. After orgasm you want to relish in it and enjoy your partner not cuddle with your baby. Maybe that's just me but I don't want arousal to be associated with my babies. Not to mention the room full of people. lol!

Emma - posted on 05/03/2010

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@ Christina
If you goggle it you will find this has happened to lots of woman who had never herd of it before,
It obviously seams to be the body's way of giving pain relief in some people i mean non of the woman where feverishly masturbating while in labour truing to get off on it.
One woman was kissing her husband another was getting her back rubbed, not too things normally orgasmic on there own.

I would hardly call it inappropriate if it just happens while your giving birth,
I mean lots of woman crap them self s while giving birth its involuntary.
I would say its a little wired just because we are not used to the idea,
I think calling another woman " molester-ish, and inappropriate" is a little judgemental especially as you did not watch the whole exert near the end the have a doctor explain Hho this can happen.

Brooke - posted on 05/14/2010

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WEIRD! I'm sorry but no! Lol. I never want the words child and orgasm in the same sentence. I had my daughter naturally and it was painful but it wasn't that bad. I will have all my children naturally unless I'm medically unable ie it will endanger my child's or my life. The hospital that I delivered at let me walk around I sat in the tub in the bathroom twice, I moved here and there and anywhere I wanted until I was dilated to 8 then I had to stay bc things were going pretty quickly. It was nice and I had a wonderful experience! The only time they won't let you move around is if you have an epi (obviously) or you are high risk ie high blood pressure and things like that.

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Meghan - posted on 06/19/2010

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How is a baby coming out the same as a penis going in??? I want to meet the man that has a 20.5 inch 7 lbs 9 oz penis with apendages and a dodgeball sized head!

Elisabeth - posted on 06/17/2010

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I've had two natural births and they most certainly were not orgasmic! Although I don't think I would like it to be orgasmic because it would just seem wierd/creepy. I'll prob be persecuted for this one but I beleive a women was meant to feel pain during labor, as a way to prove how strong she is as a women (to herself not to others, maybe her husband if she feels that way), but thats just my opinion as I felt I didn't want painreleif during labor to prove to myself that I can do this. However I don't think it's wrong for other women to want orgasim or drugs during childbirth, just not for me. Although after watching the vid it did make me think it would of been nice to kiss my husband more during labor, might have to try that (kissing, not orgasim!) next time.

Nicole - posted on 06/16/2010

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omg there would be alot more babies out there if that was the case lol i have three kids and only had pain relief with the first the other two were pain free,but in saying that i had fairly easy child births.

Zoe - posted on 06/15/2010

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i would rather have the pain. in no way would i want birth to be a sexual thing at all i'm with esther on this one

Karissa - posted on 05/14/2010

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I have to say also, having a baby is supposed to be the happiest moment of your life...

Karissa - posted on 05/14/2010

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I've heard about this before, although it never happened for me, I don't see why it can't happen. I think you can convert any pain into a positive and maybe not so painful experience.

Emma - posted on 05/06/2010

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you can see my pic now (had the security set wrong) and hand on heart i had not 1 but 2 pain free, my monthly cramp's are painful having my kids was a breeze, the doctors where telling me when i was having contractions as i could not feel them, I was expecting pain i wanted every drug none to man but was 10 Cm when i waked in to hospital ( i only went is as i was sweating and my hubby insisted we get me checked out) so was to late for anything with my first kid, No one was more shocked than i was trust me. I had never herd of a pain free birth ever in till i had one

Christa - posted on 05/05/2010

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It says I don't have permission to view it. But honestly I'm not going to believe it until I see it with my own eyes. Not a video etc, first hand. It's just not something I can believe. I believe you can manage the pain, but to describe it "pain free" the same as I'm sitting here pain free, I just don't believe it. Sorry.

Esther - posted on 05/04/2010

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I don't know - I'm still kind of with Christina on this. It feels inappropriate to me too. If I had a choice, I'd choose pain.

Kate CP - posted on 05/04/2010

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Obviously, Christina, you've never seen a German Scheiße film. :P

C. - posted on 05/04/2010

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I certainly would not classify the birth process in and of itself, sexual in the least. I don't know about you, but I pushed.. By bearing down on my stomach.. B/c I felt like I had to take the biggest poo of my life! Feeling like you have to take a bowel movement.. I would hardly call that a sexual experience.

Johnny - posted on 05/04/2010

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I don't know what organs some of you used to birth, but I used my sex organs to do it. Which I think makes it "sexual". We're not talking about getting busy or watching porn but the natural and beautiful progression of the human sexual process. Giving birth vaginally is a sexual experience, unless you get a c-section, you just can't avoid it. Intercourse is not the only kind of "sexual" experience. And trust me, I'm not saying this because my birth was any way near like that woman's. Getting it on was the furthest thing from my mind.

Erin - posted on 05/03/2010

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I did Jenn ;))

Look I understand the concept of orgasm during childbirth is foreign, at best, and completely outside the realms of possibility, at worst. But it is hardly perverted, or child molestation :-s It is NOT having an orgasm WITH the child... it is a natural result in some natural births. It's not like these women have vibrators and porn. And the baby is still inside, so if this is wrong or gross or disgusting, doesn't that make all sex while pregnant also wrong, gross and disgusting?

~Jennifer - posted on 05/03/2010

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Well, I would assume that the added lubrication might be a plus during delivery........



(unless she has multiple O's and the baby experiences the "shot out of a cannon"- style birth)



(c'mon, you know you all laughed at the mental picture)



=)

C. - posted on 05/03/2010

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@Carol.. No, Carol.. I have heard of pain-free births. That has nothing to do with it. It's the fact that orgasms do not belong when giving birth, IMO.. Orgasms come from a sexual experience and why on Earth would someone want to engage in a sexual experience with their child? That's what I don't get. That's why I think it's disgusting. There may be a time or two where a woman has experienced this by accident, sure I get that.. But I don't get doing it on purpose. I believe that there is a time and a place for orgasms and IMO, it isn't in the delivery room.



@Kate.. And Kate, good for that judge taking that woman's baby away.. That was just sick on her part.



@Fiona.. If a woman wants to progress her labor, can't she just ask for a little privacy, get stimulated (either by her partner or herself) before contractions really start and then she wouldn't 'need' an orgasm during birth..

Kate CP - posted on 05/03/2010

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Well. Isn't that something. I don't think it's gross or wrong, just weird. However, I remember hearing a while back (like years and years) that a girl in Australia I think (?) was wanting to film her birth as part of a porno. Judge denied it and took away the baby as soon as it was born. THAT is wrong, IMO.

Johnny - posted on 05/03/2010

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LMAO @ "coercing an orgasm". I think if this is possible that woman should be teaching courses or writing books.

It may be creepy and weird to think about, because our society has constructed childbirth as necessarily painful and unpleasant (and mine sure was) but that is not the universal truth for all women. If you think of how the baby exits, in some women it may indeed trigger orgasm by pressing against the g-spot and the clitoris (likely very dependent on anatomical alignment). As much as we don't feel comfortably thinking of it in that way, vaginal childbirth is a sexual experience and part of sexual reproduction. Nothing about that is perverted, it is the beautiful end result of sexual relations and many couples relish the experience bringing them closer together.

Krista - posted on 05/03/2010

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I would have to have been the most hardcore masochist on the PLANET to have gotten my jollies out of my childbirth experience. Pitocin = agony = not feeling so sexy, kthxbai.

Caitlin - posted on 05/03/2010

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Jo.. that's jsut creepy, but most likely true.. Very disturbing mental picture. I wish my births were that easy, both times I was hooked up to the fetal monitors and on my back in bed because they were both inductions, and higher risk. The second one I wasn't allowed to walk around because of the risk for a prolasped cord (my water had broken, but the babys head was still too high). I was hoping to go for the natural way both times, but that didn't end up happening either time. I cant imagine having an orgasmic birth experience, but I think the pain can't be all that bad if we decide to do it more than once, so we're tough, we can do it..

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Jenna Jamison will have a pain free vagina birth, her twins will walk right out. As for the orgasmic aspect, she's so used to faking it she'll probably moan just cause that's what she's used to doing when her legs are spread and there's something in her vag.

Emma - posted on 05/03/2010

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All i am saying is to cast aspersions on to people without, Firstly watching the in tire clip or having any other knowledge on the subject, is Rash at best.
You are entitled to your opinion i just think an opinion should be based on all information.

C. - posted on 05/03/2010

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That's the thing, though, Emma.. Making out while you're in labor? That to me makes it sound like it was done on purpose.. And THAT is why I think it's wrong. I suppose if it did happen by accident, then there's nothing that could have been done to prevent it.. But I don't think it was really done by accident (that's just how it seems to ME, anyway). I just don't buy it. I can get not screaming in labor.. I never screamed while pushing or anything.. Maybe a little during the last few contractions before pushing and when the nurse kept bugging me about an epidural (I only screamed at her b/c it was about the 15th time she had asked me in about an hour and a half), but that's about it.



Ok I skipped to 5 minutes and 35 seconds.. The woman did it on purpose! If you watch the woman's face, she is coercing an orgasm, it's not just happening spontaneously. That is why I find it to be sick. Call me judgmental all you want, I seriously just don't buy all this stuff and if that makes me judgmental, then so be it..

C. - posted on 05/03/2010

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Alright, seriously.. I couldn't get past 3 minutes and 20 seconds of that video. That is creepy, disgusting, inappropriate.. Childbirth is NOT supposed to be a sexual experience! I just find that highly inappropriate..

Does anyone else find it inappropriate? I mean, it seems like it's the baby stimulating the mother, and to me that seems almost molester-ish.

I don't have a problem if someone wants a pain-free birth and gets it.. But I think when it involves a baby and you have an 'orgasmic birth', that's just beyond sick.

Emma - posted on 05/03/2010

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Well i had two 100% natural births and both where pain free except a little pine when the head came out, So i can believe the mental side of things if you believe its going to hurt it will
I had never herd of "silent labour in till i had one, so i suppose its possible to have an orgasmic labour, im sure its caught a few woman off guard if this has happened to them and they had never herd of it,
I just goggled this and my goodness there are lots of people who have had this happen, and most where rather shocked as they never knew this happened...
i doubt you could force your self to have a silent labour or an orgasmic one even if you tried to,

Emma - posted on 05/03/2010

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Well i had two 100% natural births and both where pain free except a little pine when the head came out, So i can believe the mental side of things if you believe its going to hurt it will
I had never herd of "silent labour in till i had one, so i suppose its possible to have an orgasmic labour, im sure its caught a few woman off guard if this has happened to them and they had never herd of it,
i doubt you could force your self to have a silent labour or an orgasmic one even if you tried to,

Tawny - posted on 03/10/2010

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Im sorry but that is just really WRONG!! My husband making out with me during labor is just not going to happen I just want the child out and it sure is not an orgasmic pleasure. Just like before I was pregnant with my first child I couldn't get over having sex further in the pregnancy because I just had the image that my poor child in the womb was getting poked in the head with a penis ( dick head) of course I got over it.. and I knew that couldn't happen ...But still the thought did pass thru my mind... I have a very vivid imagination... :) My pregnancy was not bad at all just of course not orgasmic...

Dana - posted on 03/10/2010

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She's a faker of orgasms. lol I could see it feeling good if your g spot was being hit but during the *whole* labor. I call BS. I'm sure if I was in a hot tub making out with my man I could try and get down a little but, to sit there and have a full blown orgasm with camera's and people around...I don't know...maybe it's how it's edited. It seems like a bad porno.

Mary - posted on 03/10/2010

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Yeah, I'm with you on that Sara...and I think John would have been a little freaked by it as well!

Not sure I'd want to be the nurse for that either....

Sara - posted on 03/10/2010

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Also though, I can't help but think I'd be a little embarrassed if I had an orgasm in front of a room of people, it's such an intimate thing. i realize that modesty goes out the window when you're birthing a baby, but I'd look back on it with a little embarrassment if I'm being honest...

Mary - posted on 03/10/2010

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I agree with Jocelyn in that the feeling of her head coming out was INCREDIBLE. (My epidural ceased funtioning shortly before delivery, and I declined a top-off ) But not what I would even remotely call orgasmic. It was a good feeling...sort of hard to put into words, though. I wonder if it had more to do with my emotions, though, as a opposed to the physical sensation?

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I certainly don't recall anything like that with any of my 3 kids, but it sounds great! I didn't need pain relief for any of my labours, so I think I was lucky in that regard, but didn't have the orgasm. Damn!

Jocelyn - posted on 03/05/2010

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My second labor was relatively pain free, and I can see how women could have orgasms. Endorphins flowing, and g-spot stimulation. I was once told that that was the purpose of the g-spot, to help make birth more pleasurable so women will have more than one kid. My second birth was almost pleasurable (but an orgasm sure would have been nice lol!). I used hypnobirthing and breathing techniques and I was very quite relaxed thru the whole thing. I didn't scream, I barely even spoke. It took a lot of focus (I lost focus once, and omg the pain was horrible lol but as soon as I regained my focus the pain stopped). The mind is your greatest drug (so to say) and if you are totally relaxed and having your g-spot stimulated and such, why wouldn't some women orgasm?

Kimberly - posted on 03/05/2010

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I did have my daughter with no drugs b/c my entire labor was only 2 hrs...I can't say any part of it was anything near orgasm! I wish! lol However I do remember an amazing feeling when she came out---but probably just extreme relief that the pain was over!! Interesting video though! There is something to be said about feeling every sensation of labor from start to finish--there are no words for it!

Jess - posted on 03/05/2010

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Im with Esther ! I certainly know I wouldnt want my mother having an orgasm as I passed through the birth canal..... creepy !!! Not only are we now meant to give birth while looking amazing, without any screaming and heaven forbid you want drugs lots and lots of drugs.... but now we should enjoy it and orgasm ! Most women can't even orgasm while having sex !



My labour hurt, I screamed, I evil eyed nurses who dared make requests of me. I yelled at my midwife, I begged for drugs and did I mention I screamed ? Thats labour !!! Then I walked myself out of the delivery suit feeling very proud of myself !

Jodi - posted on 03/03/2010

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OK, I'm not going to go as far as to say the whole orgasmic birth thing sits right with me, because I cannot honestly see how.



However, the video definitely raises some very good points, such as how hospitals have treated birth. When I had my son (12 years ago), I was strapped to a fetal monitor, flat on my back, and it was a painful and stressful experience. I was in a tiny little room, and yes, I spent some of that time in a warm shower in the corner, then they just transferred me to a delivery room when I was ready to go.



When I had my daughter (5 years ago), it was a totally different experience. I still went to hospital, but I was in a private hospital, in a huge delivery suite. It had a huge bathroom, and I had the choice of showers, baths, you name it. I had a ball in the room, a television, a bed that bend any way I wanted it to, so if I wanted to give birth squatting, I could (in the end I did give birth while on my back, because it hit suddenly while I was being checked for my dilation, and 2 pushes later.....). I was even allowed to leave the hospital grounds, walk in the gardens, etc. Honestly, it was much more relaxing, mostly it was just my husband with me, and with meditation and deep breathing, totally drug free. I will not say it was painless, but there was no screaming (just the grunting when I pushed), no swearing, no cursing. I was actually very relaxed.



So the point that birth has been medicalised is, I think, a very valid one. That is not to say it is a bad thing. I do think modern medicine is a necessity in childbirth in many cases, but I do think my experience with my youngest is an experience that should be available to everyone in a hospital. I had all the freedom in the world and was not treated as someone who needed medical attention, but the doctors, midwives, and operating rooms were only moments away if I needed them for any reason.

Rosie - posted on 03/03/2010

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sorry, but there was no way that i could've blocked the pain of labor, let alone make it a pleasureable experience where i could achieve orgasm.

Erin - posted on 03/03/2010

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I tend to agree guys. Yeah, it's weird, but sure beats the alternative! I like the idea of defining the sensations of labour as 'surges' rather than contractions or pain. And the science of why orgasm is possible during birth kind of makes sense (the contractions, the hormones etc). But I still can't get my head around it simply because you're still pushing a baby out of your vagina :-p

Jessica - posted on 03/03/2010

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lol that is definatly different. I'm due with my first little one on May 22nd and truth be told if I'm with Carol. I don't care if it's creepy, if I could give birth and feel that pleasure over pain, I would!

Johnny - posted on 03/02/2010

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Weird. But honestly, if given the choice between that and real labor pain, I'd choose the orgasm. I can deal with creepy.

Esther - posted on 03/02/2010

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It almost feels inappropriate. I don't know, I think I'd probably prefer the pain.

Sharon - posted on 03/02/2010

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::: sshhhh ::: I don't mind a little pain during sex but uh - um on the scale of giving birth = orgasm? OMG I don't fkn think so.

Erin - posted on 03/02/2010

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See, I've heard of people genuinely having pain-free natural births (my Aunt was one), but this is on a whole new level.

Sharon - posted on 03/02/2010

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Sorry - I can't believe someone is that addicted to pain.. ick.



Seriously - no man can ever compete with that. Its creepy.

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