Sal - posted on 08/04/2011 ( 111 moms have responded )
yesterday i saw some celebreties takling about smacking....the one point that was made was that parents only smack when they lose control of the situation....
while i agree that is true in some cases, i have seen it happen and i know that sometimes a smack makes the parent feel they have done something to manage the situation, and are more smacking out of anger than to decipline the child (and i think these are the parents who feel guilt after a smack)
But i don't think this is nessersarily the case i know it isn't for me, i do smack occationally, (anyone who has followed smacking threads here knows my theory) but i never do it out of anger or frustration, and it is always becasue i feel it is the most effective response to a situation where i feel the child continuing their action will cause them harm and they just aren't listening or understanding (playing with the open fire, running on the road, hand up to the stove) and also a time where the child only not continuing the act becasue they are scred to get smacked just doesn;t bother me as long as they are safe...
so what do you think, is it a lose of control or are you controled? and if you feel you would only smack if you ,lose control, why can;t controlled parents smack when they feel it is approriate just becasue you can't keep it controlled?