PIERCINGS

Charlie - posted on 08/10/2009 ( 47 moms have responded )

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what do you think about piercing a babies ears.

Personally i dont like , i think a person should choose those sorts of things for themselves .
Why not pierce a babies nose if your going to pierce their ears .
Dont get me wrong i actually LOVE piercings of all kinds and have had many but it was my choice .
Whats your opinion ?

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Jocelyn - posted on 08/13/2009

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haha omg, i pierced my own ears, my lip and my nipple in high school...and i also pierced my friends: 2 lips, 5 nipples, many ears and a belly button :) needless to say, if my kid wants something done, and if they have my stubbornness, i'll take them somewhere professional LOL

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2009

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I just love memories, I would rather share it with my daughter then have it to myself. Especially when you get them nice earings and make them feel all grown up my mom had my ears done at 6 months and Id rather remember it to be honest.

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2009

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See Loureen thats what I want with my daughter

What you remember, if I did it with her as a baby she would not remember. My favorite day with my parents was when I got my tongue pierced!! LOL But true!

Charlie - posted on 08/13/2009

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i got mine when i was 8 years old i had to wait because i asked when i was five , it was great we went out for lunch and made a special thing of it !!

Melissa - posted on 08/13/2009

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I like piercing but I could not do it to my baby however others do disagree and choose to do it. It is pretty but to me it just would be nice for it to be a mother daughter moment later on...

Deanne - posted on 08/12/2009

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Now I'd definitely prefer my daughter not being one of those girls & already having her ears done ;-)

Charlie - posted on 08/12/2009

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we all huddled in the library with our pins and lighters and did each others in year 7.

Deanne - posted on 08/12/2009

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hahaha Traci! I pierced my own belly button too cos mum wouldn't let me get it done. & my own ears!
If my kids want something pierced I'd definitely take them to a professional so they don't do a 'Deanne' LOL

Traci - posted on 08/12/2009

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I got both of my girl's ears done around the age of 5 months. We both thought it was cute and I'm glad I did it back then. When I was little my mom waited until I was three and I gave her hell trying to clean and change them. She had to let them close up. I see both sides of the argument, but I think it's easier on the parents and the daughter when they do it young. Neither one of my girls have ever messed with them. That'll be all as far as piercings go in my household, though. Once they leave they can do what they want, but I am not having teens running around with tattoos and piercings. lol



My husband had his tongue pierced mid way through our senior year of high school. Luckily, his dad didn't find out until the day he dropped him off at our college! And my dumb teenage thing I did was to pierce my own belly button with a safety pin and needle. So dumb! I couldn't get the ring in, so I stuck a pencil eraser on both ends of the needle so that way my friend could help me at school the next day, but she ended up being absent and so I let it close up. So dumb....

JL - posted on 08/12/2009

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Ok Joy I am jealous because I did not wear earings in my third hole for a month and they closed up and I had them peirced 10 years ago.Pissed me off because I went to put these little diamond studs my hubby got me from Egypt in them but the damn things were closed up and I don't want to go get them pierced again to much trouble with the whole getting in a car and driving somewhere...man I sound lazy.

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Personally I don't care one way or another when I see baby girls with their ears pierced. I mean, it's not like I look at them and get all "OH, that POOR BABY" or anything. I think it's up to the parents. Some people do it because of cultural reasons, some do it just because they want to and they think it looks cute. Either way, it's not my baby so I don't judge. Now, that being said, if I had a girl, I would wait and let her decide later. Like Jenn, it was a big deal when I turned 12 and my aunt took me to have them pierced. Sorta like a right of passage or something. My son, when he's around 12, if he wants his ears pierced, I'd probably let him as long as it's a mutual decision that Daddy and I agree on. Oh, and for those of you who say that the holes will close if they don't want them later? Not true always. I have had two holes in each ear since I was 14 (first holes at 12, second holes at 14) and they do not close. I can count on one hand the number of times I've worn earrings in the last 15 years and the holes are still there. When I got married in April, I hadn't had earrings in my ears in probably 5 years and I had no problems getting them in for the wedding.

Chantel - posted on 08/12/2009

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I got Breanna's done when she was 2 months old. I don't regret it. I'll do it again if I have another girl. I don't think my adorable little girl looks stupid or tacky thank you very much. Not liking something is a personal opinion and thats fine but saying babies with pierced ears look stupid is just rude.



Sorry if I took this too personally but I am so sick of people saying my baby looks tacky or stupid just because her ears are pierced. She's adorable.

Sarah - posted on 08/12/2009

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I'm not a fan, for me i think around 12 is a good age. It's a nice mummy and daughter thing to do when they're older!
I just don't see the point in it really. I guess people say it looks cute and stuff, but i think their ears are cute just how they are! haha! :)

Savannah - posted on 08/12/2009

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I think they look cute, but I would wait until my child asked to have it done. I have boys so that isn't going to be an issue, but if I ever had a girl, I would wait. My neice just got hers done. She's 3 and she really wanted it. It looks so cute!

Jodi - posted on 08/12/2009

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I am not a fan of getting them done young. I had my ears pierced for my 8th birthday (and back in the late 70's that was a big deal) and I still remember how often they got infected because I really wasn't old enough to look after it myself. My mum and I have talked about it since (as adults and mums) and I think perhaps if they ask for it around the age of 10, that would be ok.

On that note, however, I am also not a fan of sleepers or hanging earrings on a child - they could be dangerous. They get caught too easily.

I am personally waiting for my daughter to ask, and even then, it will be negotiated. My son, well, that's not an issue. His school doesn't allow it (he is at a boys school, and no jewellery unless it is a necklace with a cross :)

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It hurts less when they are adults because they understand what pain is. So this justification for peicing babies in a non-starter in my opinion.

I have considered doing it to my 4yo boy for protection because I heard you could place a detection chip in them (a new debate in it's own right). But I couldn't bring myself to be seen out in public with a pierced boy. Sorry to offend if anyone has done this to a boy, but NO! I don't want my boy wearing jewlery. Should I buy him some soverign rings and a big chain too? How tacky would that look? Yet people do it anyway and think it looks good. *vent*

Deanne - posted on 08/11/2009

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Wow, heaps of people feel strongly about this! I hope you don't regurgitate when you see my daughter with her ears pierced!! Or dob me into the police for abusing or mutilating my daughter!
As for the stick ons, they are a major choking hazard. If you use those, that could be classed as some kind of parental negligence!
I've had loads of friends that were glad their mother's pierced their ears when they were young..... then loads of friends who've ended up almost looking like dumbo because they were non stop touching them or walked around with one ear done because the first one hurt.
When babies are younger, the less it hurts.
I have seen numerous baby boys with one ear done.
If I class it as a family tradition to get them done early, should you be able to criticize me & my daughter for having her ears pierced? Does it affect you? Do we really care? Big plan NO :-P

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I had Molly's done at 4 months. I did my research and had them done at a very reputable place. I don't think they are tacky...I think they are friggin cute and tiny!
I get the whole wanting your child to be able to make the choice for themselves argument, but am still not sure why it is such a huge deal for people. Even Grandma, who was hestitant about it, thinks they are cute! Personal choice I guess.

Minnie - posted on 08/11/2009

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I hate it when mothers pierce their infants' ears. It's all for vanity- what happened to the little girl's personal bodily integrity?

Yeah, I like piercings too, but let the person consent!

Charlie - posted on 08/11/2009

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there was a debate going on in another community about letting a 12 year old get her nose pierced , it got me thinking why is it so acceptable to get a babies ears pierced but a 12 year old who is at least mature enough to ask permission for a nose piercing is not acceptable .

I would much rather let the 12 year old get her nose done then do a babies ears !

Esther - posted on 08/11/2009

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We still have a royal family in Holland and they recently aired an interview with the heir to the thrown (Prince Willem-Alexander) and his wife (Princess Maxima) and daughters. They asked one of the little girls what she wanted to be when she grew up. Her answer? A princess. It seems to be universal. Even among those who don't even know they already are princesses living in a palace ;)

JL - posted on 08/11/2009

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Yes..my daughter is like my polar opposite. I was a tomboy and tried to avoid the princess stuff with her but she is drawn too it and loves all that girly stuff. She is 6 so do I deny her what she wants or do I say ok if you want to be girly then have at it. I did the latter so most of the time she is in a dress that is pink..it is what she prefers..to be a princess. Oh Well..she is her own person.

ME - posted on 08/11/2009

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I won't be getting my children's ears pierced...It can be their decision anytime after they can afford to do it for themselves. I have 5 piercings, and have no prob with them, but I had them all done myself after I was 18...

Jessica - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have 2 daughters, they are 5 and 22mths. My 5 year old got her ears pierced for her 4th b-day and she has taken great care of them. My 22mth old will be able to make that decision when she gets older as well. I don't think its right to pierce a babies ears but to each his own. I have 2 boys as well and piercings will not be allowed.



On a side note with the whole princess thing, I was the same way I fought it tooth and nail and lost out to a higher power my 3 yr old :). I never called her a princess, never bought her fru-fru frilly things but to my dismay it was in her blood to be 100% girly. I don't wear make-up, I don't get dressed up and I don't make a fuss over my hair so I know she didn't get her prissy gene from me:). My 22mth old is following in her footsteps and all I can do is try to create a balance between the princess she thinks she is and the real world, I think I'm doing a pretty good job because she is a very sweet and caring little girl.

Sharon - posted on 08/11/2009

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Honestly I don't see what there is to criticise?

If your child changes their mind - they are free to let them close up.

Samantha - posted on 08/11/2009

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I got my daughters ears pierced on Valentine's day. If she doesn't like them, she can remove them.



Having her ears pierced doesn't mean I am going to get her nose pierced or tattooed. It is a simple ear piercing. I have been criticized so much for getting them pierced.



Why does it matter that I chose to do it? I think it is every parents personal choice. Some people don't like them, some people like them.



Everyone is different! If everyone did everything the same the world would be a boring place!

Lindsay - posted on 08/11/2009

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I have a daughter that I did the frilly dresses and the bows and headbands (our headbands were soft and left no indention=) ) and yes there were big bows on there. I went back and forth on getting her ears pierced. I decided to wait but I don't think any parent is cruel for getting it done. I got my ears pierced in Kindergarten and whenever Madeline asks (when not if because she is a priss pot and I made her that way) we will go make a special day of it. I'm not a big fan of boys with their ears pierced but if Cooper came to me and asked I would have to say yes. I was the baby and the only girl in my family and got so sick of the "but you're a girl" double standard. I'll try my hardest not to do that to my kids. Any other piercing will just be a case by case basis, nothing set in stone. I will not be responsible for my child getting a tattoo that they would have to live with the rest of their life, so if they want one, they will wait until they are 18 and can sign and pay for themselves! =)

Jocelyn - posted on 08/11/2009

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i will be waiting for (any child of mine) until he/she is old enough to ask for it, and then only if i feel that they are responsible enough to handle cleaning them. I don't have anything against piercings (i have a lot and want more!) i would NEVER take my kid to a place like Clairs or a drug store to get pierced tho, the guns that they use cannot be sterilized properly and the risk of transferring a blood disease is higher (vs going to a professional shop, where yes, they do pierce children's ears) and actually by they time they will be old enough, I could probably do them myself! (i want to learn, dh is a tattoo artist and wants to open his own shop, but wants a piercer as well, aka, me apparently lol).
although I must add that I do think that babies with pierced ears CAN look cute, but that's about the extent of it, I don't really think it's fair (i got my ears pierced when i was 5, and i totally remember everything about that day, it made me feel so grown up!)

Angie - posted on 08/11/2009

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Why not take them in for their first tattoo? :) Although its different...ears can close up...I think when my daughter is old enough to know what she is doing and how to take care of it...is what we are going to do....There is always those stick ons!

Esther - posted on 08/11/2009

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I haven't read the other posts yet, but I have a son and he's not getting a thing pierced until he's 18 and has moved out of my house - hahaha. If I had a girl, I would wait until she was old enough to ask.

Krista - posted on 08/11/2009

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Ugghh...I can't stand those headbands either! I've seen some with flowers that are bigger than the baby's head!



I agree with you Lisa, I don't have girls either (yet!!) but I can't stand the whole "little princess" thing that parents do with daughters. My kids will never own a shirt that says "princess" or "spoiled" or "high maintenance." You might think it's cute when she's 2, but then when you have a spoiled, snotty teenager you can't understand why lol!

JL - posted on 08/11/2009

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My daughter also had a baby bracelet she wore sometimes. It has become a tradition in my family that my grandmother's sister makes a beaded name bracelet for each of the baby girls. My daughter had one like me and all my cousins and she wore it on some occassions but not all the time. I also have a freind and in her family it is tradition they baby girls get a cross necklace after being baptized and then when they get older they get a new one when they go through confirmation. They don't where the necklace all the time when they are babies but on some occassions. I have my baby bracelet and my daughters put away in a keepsake box, because they really means something special especially now that my grandmother's sister is dying of cancer. The next generations of baby girls may not be getting a handmade bracelet from her but one of my aunts has decided she will carry on the tradition when she passes. So I can understand some of the reasoning behind why some parents put jewelry on their babies.

I can understand and respect the opinions against peircings but I do have to say that I would not equate it to mutilation as I have read on some of the COM posts. My pediatrician equated the pinching of a piercing with that of getting a vaccination and from what my daughter experienced I must say the vaccinations far exceeded the ear peircings. My daughter did not cry she barely moved but whenever she has gotten a shot she screams bloody murder.

We all have different opinions and ideas heck I find the headband bows as sometimes tacky on babies because they leave those indintation marks on their heads I feel like they have to be uncomfortable with having that thing shoved on to your head so I personally chose to not use those on my daughter.

Jinglebones - posted on 08/11/2009

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I currently live in a french community and everyone pierces their baby girls' ears. I have boys, so I guess it is none of my business, but I would not do it. I think it is their body and they should be able to make their own choices about what to do to it. I think it is bad enough we dress our babies like little stuffed animals or clowns when they do not know any better (hah). Just another one of those "my little princess" moves parents make with their little girls. I am sooo glad I have boys...

Anastasia - posted on 08/11/2009

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I think it's silly to pierce a babies ears because you think it looks cute. I disagree with it, just like I disagree with circumcisions. It's their choice as an individual not ours.

Sharon - posted on 08/11/2009

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hhmm I did it because 1. as a kid I hated having to wait to get my ears pierced. 2. my poor little baby was just this chubby pink and white bald ball, who despite the frilly dresses was frequently called a boy, so I got her ears pierced. She was still called a boy. OY.

Krista - posted on 08/11/2009

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Maybe I don't get it because I don't have a daughter...but I think it's a bit strange to put jewelry on babies. I think some moms get it done so that their little girls aren't mistaken for boys, but I don't think it looks attractive at all. I kind of view it in the same vein as circumcision...unnecessary pain for a little baby, and something that an adult, or at least an older child, can choose for themselves. Another reason that I would never do it to my (hypothetical) daughter is that my body seems to reject piercings...lots of pain and infections no matter how well I cleaned them! I'd hate for my daughter to have the same reaction.

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My personal opinion is that it looks tacky. I just think a baby should be as they were created, for as long as possible. No need to rush the growing up process as far as I'm concerned. Besides, they are so cute as is, I don't think they need any additional 'decoration' from us. I have no plans to have my baby's ears pierced until she has the capacity to ask to have them done and has the ability to care for them on her own.

JL - posted on 08/11/2009

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My daughter got her ears pierced right after she turned one by a pediatrician. Some pediatricians have the equipment to do it and they will because it is safer. At first I did not want to do it but then I did it because I had my done as a baby so I thought what was the big deal. She did not cry and never messed with them and now she loves the fact that she has her ears peirced and she told me the other day that she feels bad for her freinds who have to wait till they are older. Now she has been asking for more since I have several she wants her ears pierced again for a second hole but I told her like my mom told me that she has to wait till she is 16 for a second piercing and anything else after that she can do when she is 18. I got my second piercing in my ear when I was 16 and then got my cartilage and my third hole when I was 18 along with my first tattoo. Plus I figured that if growing up she did not want her ears peirced all she had to do was let the holes close up.

Sara - posted on 08/11/2009

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I would not pierce my daugher's ears, I would wait until she was old enough to decide for herself but more importantly care for them herself.

However, I really don't understand why it has become such a huge deal on some of the main pages. People equate it to disfigurement. When I see a little baby with their ears pierced I admit that I think it looks stupid, but I don't think doing it makes you an unfit parent or anything...

Deanne - posted on 08/10/2009

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See this is what has been tearing me up inside!!! I got my daughters ears pierced just before her first birthday because they're less likely to get an infection because they don't touch them, they heal very very fast & because I just wanted them done :-)
She cried for about 1 minute & hasn't had one problem with them at all once...
Then..... I was having the good old debate about circumcision & mid sentence, realised what I was saying & how hypocritical I felt. My debate was 'if he wants himself altered, he can do it himself' but then I pierced my daughters ears??? So yes, I regret making HER choice to get them done.
The only thing I am glad about is that most little girls want them done but some end up only getting one done (like ME! wuss!!) or chronic infections from touching them too much. But that's a big IF....
Confusing everybody yet?

Johnny - posted on 08/10/2009

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Oh, and the same goes for if I ever have a boy - no gender discrimination here ;)

Johnny - posted on 08/10/2009

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I think they look pretty... but I don't really agree with piercing a baby. I can't say exactly why, but I sort of feel that they should be choosing it for themselves. Although I generally suspect they'll choose it anyway, so it's not really a big deal and I'm not bothered by moms who choose to do so. In my case, I plan to use it as a treat when my daughter gets older. Sort of something I can hold over her head, Like, "if you're good, you can get your ears pierced when your 12" kind of thing. And I wouldn't want to try to clean Little Miss Squirmy's ears. Just combing her hair is hard enough.

~Jennifer - posted on 08/10/2009

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I'm waiting until my daughter (or son, if he wants one) asks for it. My mom took me to get mine done and made a big deal out of it. Dinner, shopping and ear piercing....... It's one of my best 'grown up girl' memories.

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