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Mary - posted on 01/20/2010
Not in a million years, unless I was in some horribly disfiguring accident. I have to be honest, I think plastic surgery as a concept to fix congenital disfigurements, such as cleft palates, or breast reconstruction after a mastectomy, or after something like horrific burns or catastophic accidents is a GOOD thing, and an integral part of the overall healing process. I'd also classify skin removal after massive weight loss in this category. But run-of-the-mill cosmetic surgeries? No, I think they are, for the most part, completely unecessary, and a needless risk. I find it sad that so many people are so unhappy with their physical appearance that they allow it to affect their self-esteem and sense of self-worth. What truly defines us as a person is our thoughts, actions and feelings...these are the qualities that help us to develop the realtionships that shape our lives, and in those REAL relationships, appearances become unimportant. Will my husband, child, family or friends love or like me more if my boobs are bigger or perkier? I doubt it. Would I eventually regret it if I spent thousands of dollars on a boob job, but then was struggling to fund my daughter's education 18 years from now? More than likely.
Jocelyn - posted on 02/01/2010
Ok first to all you fellow giant-breasted women! Go to www.bravissimo.com. I LOVE this site! They have beautiful bras up to a J, and they design shirts, jackets and dresses that are cut to fit boobs; you are either Curvy, Really Curvy, or Super Curvy :) And they have fab swimsuits with underwire!
Ok, now that I've gotten that out of my system, on to plastic surgery.
I'm not going to go into detail, I agree with what has already been said (medical, reconstructive, etc).
Everything in moderation (that's my motto for basically everything). Imo, do whatever you want to, but if you get more than (lets say 4) surgeries, for non-medical reasons, then you should have to take a psych test. I also don't believe in going into debt for plastic surgery. As soon as I am done nursing, I am planning a breast reduction. I would love to be down to a DD or maybe an E. And if I have the money I would love a tummy tuck to go with it!!! I also want to get my eyelids done (thanks mom for that lovely gene...) I also wouldn't do any surgery for anyone else. It would be for ME! If my hubby said, "hey, while they are doing your boobs, see if they can transfer some fat into your ass" he would get a kick in the nuts. (but he would have a point, I really don't have an ass...lmao)
Heather - posted on 02/09/2010
If you have the money to get some work done...I say go for it! There are a few things I would fix if suddenly money was no option! There are women (and men) who become addicted to plastic surgery and have severe body image issues, these people need help...but your average person who needs a few things done...totally ok in my book :)
Charlie - posted on 02/07/2010
No Sharon i think you have every right to express the way you feel as a woman who has had surgery an i say good for you , you did something for yourself and are a happier for it and you shouldnt have to apologize for being happy !
Sapphire - posted on 02/07/2010
I should probably apologize for the tone of my post. I was rather defensive and snappy. Sorry ladies :-) I did come across as quite the bitch! Plastic surgery and only children rank up there as sensitive subjects for me. OK....back to your regular programming.
I wouldn't mind getting my nose fixed. It's not hideous or anything but ever since receiving a massive nose crunching headbutt from my son during a meltdown I felt like my sinuses may have suffered a bit. They weren't great to begin with! I swear I sound like Chucky from the Rugrats cartoon!
If it's one thing, one feature that makes you feel uncomfortable, be it mental or physical, I don't see a real issue in fixing it. In no way should it be something that is rushed. I would like to think that if it's being done for anything other than medical reasons that the person receives some councilling and assessment to make sure that they are not suffering from any sort of body dysmorphic condition. It's a very dangerous road to go down if it's more than just one physical feature your unhappy with.
Sarah - posted on 02/07/2010
Personally, i wouldn't have have plastic surgery. The only thing that would cross my mind, would be a tummy tuck so i could have a flat tummy! Thing is, i know if i could be bothered to exercise and do sit up's or whatever, then my tummy would improve! I'm just lazy!!
I've no problem with women (or men) who have something done because it's making them unhappy. I think it's worrying tho when people have more and more and more done. If plastic surgery becomes the only way you can feel comfortable with who you are, then i think it's a concern. :)
Krista - posted on 02/07/2010
Actually, Sharon, I don't think it's bad that you had a breast augmentation. A lot of things really depend on a person's REASONS for having surgery, not the surgery itself.
If someone is genuinely unhappy with their nose, or their boobs, or their eyelids, then I have absolutely no issue with that person getting some work done.
What IS sad and pathetic, however, is when someone has other problems with her life that she blames on that particular feature, and thinks that if only she had bigger breasts, or a smaller nose, or a flatter stomach, that her life would be so much better and all of her problems would be solved.
So then the person has the surgery and surprise! The problems that she has with her life are still there. So then she thinks, "Well, if only my (insert body part) were (insert characteristic), things would be so much better." Lather, rinse, repeat.
THAT is what is sad -- when someone gets plastic surgery over and over and over to try to be "happy". But if you go in to it simply with the expectations that your body part (not your entire LIFE) will change, then sure...go for it.
Sapphire - posted on 02/07/2010
Well I suppose in some of your opinions, I am sad, shallow and pathetic because I had a breast augmentation. My poor self-esteem and self-image over the fact that 10 year old girls had bigger breats than I did. The fact that I hated my body so much that it began to affect my sex life. The fact that bathing suits fell down becasue there was nothing to hold them up. The fact that I could not even fill up an AA cup padded bra. The fact that shirts just did not look nice on me. The fact that I felt like an inferior woman because I did not LOOK like a woman-yet I looked like a little girl.
I guess I am sad, pathetic and shallow for being proactive in finally taking the steps to make me feel good about myself. My only regret is not having an augmentation years ago. I love my new body and look. I feel sexy and vibrant. Unless you truly have been in my shoes, I do find some of your comments off base since you have not personally expereinced what I have as a flat chested woman. But, that's JMO and this is a debate board.
Kelsey - posted on 02/05/2010
I think its sad people are so consumed with the shallow things in life that they spend so much money and time on trying to look a certain way when they should be donating that money to charity, saving it for something that actually matters, etc. If you are amazings freakish looking and in no way can come to peace with yourself, then fine, but if your boobs are too little, your nose is too big, or your face is starting to sag a bit, grow up and learn about true happiness. Stop obsessing over stupid crap when there are zillions of other things to spend your money and time on. Realize that your boobs are sexy small, that your nose makes you different, in a good way, and your sagging skin is just your proof that you are a wiser person than you once were. Instead of putting your happiness on your appearance or the acceptance of others, try to find true happiness within yourself. Do something that is actually productive and that makes a positive impact on something other than your stupid looks.
Charlie - posted on 02/01/2010
As a large breasted woman i have always found beautiful bras you just have to look and be ready to pay a bit extra , lacy bras are a must have for me .
I agree with the tops made for big breasted gilrs though its annoying trying to find a top that fits especially when your waist it small .
When I was done breast feeding my first born and I dropped back down I went to Fredricks to get a bra because a friend highly recommended something there...I should have gotten an F but had to get a DD because they only carried like 3-5 of those and the cashier who sported a B was saying she was jealous because she's always wanted bigger breasts and blah blah while I can't find a bra that fits...not exactly sure what the benefit there was for me? Women of large breasts definitely need a better clothes line! Maybe something with some super elastic or something that can last longer then the regular crap :) As far as the plastic surgery I would simply reiterate everything that has already been said here
Krista - posted on 02/01/2010
Veronica, you're not wrong about there being a sad lack of good clothes/bras for the Colossal Cleavage Coalition. Especially PRETTY bras that are still supportive and comfortable. I used to have to order my bras from Sears, and they were all orthopedic beige, with inch-wide straps and four hooks in the back -- while my friends were all wearing cute, flowery, lacy, cottony little slingshots for bras. It sucked.
Veronica - posted on 01/20/2010
After reading through - i have to say, i really don't care either whether someone gets it done or not - i just dont prefer it - and there are some things that are rediculous. (anyone remember the hymen repair surgery? hahahaha cannot believe it still!)
I guess - although i could loose weight, and it took me a long time to go in public as an adult withOUT makup -- and my boobs could be smaller -- im on the other hand where ive been learning to accept my body, and the way it was designed. My teeth mashed together, and are messed up - when i expressed getting braces, my family said no - your smile is YOU - and they are right (think of celebrities that have impressionable smiles). So, ive basically learned how to accept me and my body - and Im happy.
But i realize not everyone is as willing - and have physical things that really bother them, and have always bothered them deeply - so i can see their pain (looking back to extreme makeover episodes, lol)
I also wonder about the message it really sends to people - my aunt got breast implants cause she was pretty flat -- the effect on her daughters is that now they are too flat also and think that they need implants too - and i think that is wrong because they were basically taught that having no breasts was wrong.
Im all over on this topic - as it really does come down to circumstance and personal choice. What floats your boat, floats your boat.
As for my fellow top-heavys -- perhaps instead of getting our boobs chopped off - maybe we can open a business and design and make bras and shirts for bigger breasted women! LOL I think its the bra that is the issue more than the shirt - because the bras do not support worth a crap, they are flimsy, and stretch out too fast, and then you are back to knee knockers again! hahahahaha Maybe we need to get all bigger chested women together to advocate for better clothes/bras for us.
ok - im outta here!
Michelle - posted on 01/20/2010
I don't think it's a big deal. Obviously you shouldn't go overboard or anything, and you shouldn't make your family go without something important just so you could have bigger boobs, but I fully intend to have plastic surgery (probably a breast enhancement and maybe something with my stomach depending on how it looks when I'm done having kids lol) when my financial position is better. I think that it's no different than wearing makeup or losing the last five pounds to an extent. We do it to look better and feel better about ourselves. Plastic surgery is just permanent.
La - posted on 01/20/2010
I think it's a personal decision and I don't care who gets it or who doesn't. I do think people look ridiculous when they go over board and I have never been a fan of people getting their lips or cheeks done....they all have that awkward cat like look afterward, but if they like the way it turns out then good for them. If money wasn't an issue I'd like to get my boobs done. I've always been REALLY small chested (A cup) except when I was breastfeeding (C cup) and I really think a small C looked more proportionate on me. However, it has been nice being able to run and exercise without wearing a heavy duty sports bra and back pain all these years so I'm fine without them too.
I think it depends on the reason for the surgery in question, really. I'm sure that you're more talking about surgery that is mostly needless and fixes insecurities-but even reconstructive surgeries to help burn victims, car crash survivors, and various other tragic instances are still considered plastic surgery. I can totally understand wanting to have plastic surgery to regain as much of a sense of "normalcy" as possible. I don't think that anyone who is disfigured should feel like they *have* to have plastic surgery-because in general those scars are badges of courage. But I can understand why they need and want to have plastic surgery in many instances.
I think that, on the flip side, there are often women (and men) who think that having plastic surgery will suddenly make them happy with themselves. Now, a good plastic surgeon will require the patient in question to go through some classes and counseling sessions to ensure that they don't have those kinds of expectations-and to prepare them for the recovery process. But there are surgeons who don't do that, and there are also people who just tell the surgeons what they want to hear in order to get the surgery.
That said, I'd like to have a breast reduction one day, which is considered to be plastic surgery. My DD boobs have given me back trouble since I was about 20. and they make finding shirts more difficult. But I don't think I'll suddenly feel differently about my body if I have smaller breasts.
Anyway I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm fine with it as long as the person goes into the surgery without unrealistic expectations of what it will do...Although I don't like the whole Joan Rivers, Janice Dickinson, more plastic than skin look.
Lindsay - posted on 01/20/2010
If I had the extra money and it wouldn't affect our financial state I would get a breast lift and a tummy tuck. Do I think it would make Josh like/love me more? Absolutely not but I would be happy with it. I don't think I could ever alter any facial features though. Obviously there are people that take it to the extreme but I see nothing wrong with a little "touch up"! =)
Sara - posted on 01/20/2010
Well, I think it's a personal choice. I don't see an issue of having something done to help you feel better about yourself, such as the removal of extra skin after the loss of a great amount of weight and things like that. But, I think there is a definite line you can cross where it becomes too much...however, that's my opinion. People are free to make choices for themselves about what they think is appropriate for them. I just find people like Joan Rivers kind of scary. Plus, it's major surgery most of the time and thus there's no guarantee that something bad won't happen. When my sister was in nursing school she had a patient who was the 37 year old mother of 3 who had liposuction and got a massive infection. She developed necrotizing fascitis and died from sepsis. All that to get rid of some cellulite? I think people don't understand the ramifications, thinking that plastic surgery is so commonplace.
Veronica - posted on 01/20/2010
I agree a lot with Mary - for medical reasons or disfigurements from accidents, etc. Nose jobs/chin, extremely large breast enlargements, etc. etc. are rediculous to me. I watch all these women (and men, but not as much, at least you dont see or hear as much) they will never know what they will look like when they age, they will never get back their same face ever again, they will always remain fake an plastic - and its quite disturbing really!
I undertsand breast reduction - as i mull over this one myself -- mainly because of back and neck pain - otherwise im fine with having big breasts! lol but for the smaller ladies - why would they wish for that? Especially ladies that go DDD or that one that went what...F orFFF or something chaotic!! That is seriously rediculous.
A small nip and tuck may not be such an issue - but a complete all over change - i think is going over board. And the whole ass implants too! what the hell is that all about? it looks horrible, and just makes absolute no sense!!
So - to conclude - never in a million years (well, not cosmetic no - medically yea if i needed to repair my face after an accident, etc.), and i dont understand at all why women (and men) subject their bodies to that crap. You know what I wonder about? What happens to all the parts when a person dies? Do they remove the breasts, chin implant, butt fillers, etc.? Or is it left there- and millions of years from now when the graves are excavated skeletons will fall out with plastic crap all over them?? hahaha
crazy crazy crazy
Krista - posted on 01/20/2010
I think people should still look like themselves. That being said, if some wealthy person offered to pay for it, you can bet your bippy I'd be getting this big ol' Buddha belly lipo'd in a New York minute.
Disclaimer: I have had plastic surgery, but it was a breast reduction, done for medical reasons, not aesthetic ones.
I wouldn't do it. There are other things I'd rather spend my money on. And besides, my husband is happy with the way I am. ;)
Now, I don't have a problem with women who want to get the "mommy makeover" boob lift and tummy tuck or maybe fix one thing they are insecure with.
But as we speak I'm watching Heidi Montag on Good Morning America. She had 10 plastic surgeries in one day. 10 IN ONE DAY!!!! That is way too much. And I think she was more beautiful before. I think plastic surgeons should recognize that people like that have a problem that is much deeper than a simple insecurity over the size of her nose. Maybe people should be required to be interviewed by a psycologist before undergoing plastic surgery to make sure their reasons for plastic surgery are valid and there is no underlying mental issue.
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