polygamy

Nicole - posted on 01/27/2011 ( 27 moms have responded )

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Is it possible to have an uncomplicated, polygamous relationship?

In my opinion, it's not possible to have an uncomplicated relationship period! More people = more chaos.

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Let's see. More than one woman means someone has to claim the kitchen. Oh and parenting styles are different so you have more of those in the house. Women are naturally territorial so we also have that. (ok not all but most.) Oh, and I promise you if you mess with my kitchen, my kids, my house, my laundry, my arranging things, my ideas and my husband I will rip your throat out and hand it to you.
Yes, I think you are right. Polygamy is not for me. I am far to dominant of a female and WAY to territorial. :) LOL

Johnny - posted on 01/28/2011

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I think that as long as the adults handle themselves in a careful, mature fashion that does not place any drama upon the kids, then they'd be fine. It's all in what you are used to. Children growing up around abusive spouses or a great deal of domestic acrimony are the ones who will struggle, regardless of family composition.

Polyamory is definitely not for me though. I might find other men attractive, and my husband and I are open about stuff like that, but I am very happy just being the two of us forever. I could not imagine trying to love two people as "partners" at once, but that's just me.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/28/2011

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I think it is possible, but it would not be right for me. I never learned to share in kindergarten.

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Sally - posted on 09/11/2012

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I'd rather have a polyandrous relationship, but then the men would be all jealous and grumpy. At least I could send them off to work though.

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I think it is perfectly possible with the right people. I myself would welcome a plural relationship but it's very difficult finding men who share my opinions.

Marie - posted on 09/09/2012

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What about one woman, two men situation? Has anyone any experience with that situation?

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2011

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Yea, im not sure how that plays out -- but it would never be for me - Im a selfish bitch with my husband and kids - I wouldnt want another woman touching my husband, nor having my kids calling another woman, mom --- Im territorial too (@Deanna, lol) dont mess with me, dont mess with my husband, dont mess with my kids - GOT IT! lol

~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/28/2011

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The idean makes me cringe, it makes me very uncomfortable. I don't see how people in long term relationships like this come out the other end ok...especially the kids.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/28/2011

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I was a girlfriend to a couple in high school as well lol. Worked great for me ;)
I believe that it IS possible to have a long lasting, stable polygamous relationship, but uncomplicated? Nope lol. I'm pretty sure there's no such thing as an "uncomplicated" relationship.

Nicole - posted on 01/28/2011

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I have been in an open marriage and many open relationships and from my experience, the children sometimes call the other women mom but only because they hear her kids call her mom, and that is usually gently corrected.

I guess I used the wrong term, I know I did. I didn't mean one man having many wives but I don't know the term for what I mean. I mean a few people in a commited relationship to eachother, rather than many people in a relationship with one person.

Jackie - posted on 01/28/2011

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I wonder if the children would call all of the women Mom? And if so, which women is the be-all-end-all in decision making when it comes to the children? The bio mom or the first wife? I think there would have to be ALOT of compromise and there would have to be so much compromise that eventually somebody is going to have to give up something that they truly feel strongly about to keep the peace in the household. Wouldn't the 3rd wife have alot less say in the household than the first or even the second?

Uh uh, not me. I'd be stepping on all kinds of toes.

LaCi - posted on 01/28/2011

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All relationships are complicated. It may be complicated in different ways, and if may be more complicated for some people. Still a matter of personal preference though.

Lady Heather - posted on 01/28/2011

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We thought about taking a second wife so that she could go to work and make money for us while I stayed home or I could go to work and she could stay home and she wouldn't have to be paid. But we don't want an actual relationship or anything. So I guess what we're really looking for is some sort of servant who is willing to work for room and board. She has to like animals because then she can take care of the dogs while we are on holiday.

Rosie - posted on 01/28/2011

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i think it's completely possible. some people just have the right personality for it.
i don't so it would never work for me, or even most people. butr yes there are some that would be perfectly fine with it.

Mrs. - posted on 01/27/2011

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Personally, I would actually dig the idea of having several husbands. Think about the earning potential! I could hire a nanny to help me out with that kinda cash. Not to mention the variety. For me, this would be ideal. If only, my fiance had a twin or something.

Nikkole - posted on 01/27/2011

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EVERY relationship/marriage has problems but i think for myself i couldn't handle listening to others bitch about my husband or sharing him with other women or having 20 kids in the same house lol i would go CRAZY!! I mean if you have more than one wife you are ONLY leagaly married to the first wife as the second and third and so on i wouldn't be to thrilled about that! But i think some people could do it and be happy but what affect does that have on there children if any?

Bonnie - posted on 01/27/2011

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Yeah I would also say stable just because most have experience with polygamous relationships already. No relationship is uncomplicated.

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ive dated a guy and a girl in high school....
they didnt like each other...worked out great for me though...LOL

Sharon - posted on 01/27/2011

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Oh that one I don't know.

But if you're willing to be another womans' subordinate and do her scut work and be the third wife, I'm guessing you'd put up with any thing.

Johnny - posted on 01/27/2011

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Well, it's not possible to have an uncomplicated monogamous relationship, so I can't imagine that it happens for polygamous people. I support the legalization of polygamy though, but I hope that it can help to prevent situations where women are treated as chattel.

Mrs. - posted on 01/27/2011

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Um, I'm not sure I'd want an uncomplicated relationship. Wouldn't that rob you of a rich complex relationship with one or many partners? Too much self created drama is one thing...a non-complex relationship sounds boring.

I have known people who have arrangements with one of more partners. Sometimes it works perfect for them, sometimes not. As always, it depends on the individuals.

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Its possible for people to have a stable polygamous relationship...no relationship is uncomplicated...lol

Jenny - posted on 01/27/2011

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No relationship is uncomplicated. I think consenting adults should be free to form relationships with whomever they'd like. It's really none of our business unless it's places like Bountiful, BC where the girls are married off as teens.That's not consent.

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