Erin - posted on 03/01/2011 ( 49 moms have responded )
So Milla turned 2 on Feb 9, and day potty trained the same week. It was completely child-led. In reality, she had been ready for a couple of months, but because she was so young I just took it very casually and slowly.
Anyway, she was still holding her poo to do it in her nappy right before bedtime during the first week. That was no issue as I was happy for her to take it gradually, and it's not like she was dropping logs all over the house. Then she started doing them on the potty during the second week, and did not like it one bit. At first, I thought it was the difference in sensation between doing it into an enclosed space while standing up, versus into the potty while sitting. I just reassured and encouraged her, and praised her when she did it. But then she started totally freaking out after she saw it in the potty.
Which led to the poo strike. It started about a week and a half ago. She will literally clench her cheeks, cross her legs, and hold it in. Until yesterday, she had only been twice in 9 days. She screams and cries because after holding it for so many days (3-4 days) it was dry, hard and huge. So then she was not only afraid of the poo itself, but remembering that the last couple hurt. She would tell me her bottom hurt, but that she didn't want to do a poo. She would scream for me to help her. It was highly traumatic for both of us!
I started her on a natural stool softener last Thursday and it did nothing to solve the problem. She already drinks lots of water and plenty of fruit. My Mum took her to see the children's health nurse and she suggested putting her back in pull ups until this issue resolved (which doesn't thrill me). I was starting to completely stress out yesterday (with visions of an impacted colon and trip to hospital) and after speaking with one of the nurses I work with, went ahead and gave her glycerine suppositories and a children's laxative.
The first suppository didn't work. But after the first dose of laxative, the second suppository and about 15mins of hysterical screaming, she did a poo in the Pull Up. It was large, but not hard and dry like the other ones. So I know it wasn't that she couldn't go, just that she didn't want to.
Later last night she did another poo, but this time in the potty. This one was formed but totally soft and didn't look like it required much effort to do. But again, once she saw it she flipped out saying to take it away.
On the pharmacist's advice, I have continued the laxatives today (no suppositories though). I have followed the directions to leave her in a Pull Up (and all that has happened is that she wees in them). She clearly needed to do a poo this morning, but started running around whinging and wriggling to hold it in.
Having the Pull Ups on is not helping! She doesn't want to wear them, and it's just confusing her. And I don't know what else to do! I am trying to reassure her that poos are good, that she'll feel better afterwards etc. But she is barely 2, and very stubborn. I have heard lots of stories of kids getting poo issues during or immediately after potty-training for various reasons, so I figured someone here had probably been through it and will have some words of wisdom. Help please :)