Porn Has Personally Destroyed my Family !

Debra Leah Holmes - posted on 08/04/2012 ( 18 moms have responded )

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I wanted to start this discussion on a 4 letter Word that
will be my Enemy untill i take my last breath
because it has personally destroyed one of my family members
and has torn a path of distruction in my family for
30 years!

the problem with this i call entity of Evil
is not the Porn its self , its is what is attached to it
people think porn is just nudity and sex , but deep down below the surface it is something more sinister that you ever imagined .

It destroyed my beloved uncle at age 33
took a normal child that was raised by a good Christian mother
and punched a tiny hole in him untill it grew into monster that
eventually killed him :(

i know there is a question behind every motive and what promps people to go this far ?
for my uncle it was first abuse as a small child
molested at a early age and physically and mentally abused by his step father it finally took a toll on him
by age 19 he told his mother " either i leave home and get away from step dad or i will kill him " he seen the abuse and it spread not just to john but his mother ! he seen her get hit , slapped , and beat up constantly , verbally as well .

He left finally for the Army to get wawy from his step dad
the scars were already there and seeper than imagined
his hate and anger only made it easier for Satan to knock on his vulnerable door and with open arms he took all that pain and anger and hurt and exchanged it with his soul to be a STAR of Hollywood !

He was spotted in a road side toilet on the way to California
buy some guy that noticed how Huge he was and not just in hight
and there is where it started .
Because John was a freak they called him and he was different
he felt quite insecure
but isn't funny how something so evil can dangle as a carrot and create a illusion of a HERO ! ?

Of all the money and fame and the fortune he had , all the women he bed by the thousands , all the drugs and hig life
had led him down a path of distruction
and in the End the sin caught up with him

His Christian Mother who prayed and cried more tears than a mother should ever have to cry prayed that Some Day He would remember what she tried to instill in him when he was a little boy
the times she walked him down a dirt road on a sunday , no shoes on nhis feet and they sat in Chrursh to listen to the Gospel of Jesus

she never stopped prayed

one day he knocked on her door
and she knew right then GOD interviened
"mom " he said i have to tell you something
"i am dying of aids "

2 years later

she would be wheeling her 80 lb son in a wheelchair
body so thin you could see every last bone in his frame

2 weeks before she took him in his wheelchair
and they went outside to get some sun
she was humming Amazing Grace

John remembered the song
and they sang it together

but it was too late for John
his life would be cut short from the sin life he led
age 33

it was not the PORN that killed my uncle
it was the SIN

Porn is the mask of Sin
it will rip and tear at the very fiber of your family
it will subltly come in first as just a picture in the mind
then a image on the computer
then a movie
and so on

it carries addiction , of drugs , abuse , pain , disease but will
dangle fame , fortune and like a genie in a lamp if you rub it will give you anything your hearts desire at your command

but ! ... the one thing it wants
in exchange for the World and all the pleasures

YOUR SOUL !

I wanted to share this with you
in the hopes that someone will read this and know that that little bit of porn you let in your house is NOT a little bit !

GET it out of your house , off your computer
its a disease that will KILL you if you let it
dont let this happen to you like it did to my
Uncle john !

in case you wandered who i am talking about
his name was Johhny Wadd
AKA John c Curtis Holmes
Famous porn star
dead at age 33

all i can do now it leave this story in the hopes i can keep people away from Porn ..
if reached just one person then i have at least
helped one soul NOT to be lost

GOD bless you
and keep you in HIS care

Deborah Leah Holmes ( Niece ) Gallehawk

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/04/2012

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WHOA! Hold up here! Sorry about your uncle. That is truly sad.

BUT, PORN did not take his life. His step father and "Christian" mother did. He was sexually abused and THAT is what drives kids and teenagers to a less than steller life. NOT porn. His "Christain" mother did not put a stop to his abuse. How so sweet and "christian" of her. The "SIN" you talk about was the molesting of a young innocent child. It was so bad that he was willing to KILL his step father to make it stop.

Don't blame porn. Blame the stepfather.

Denikka - posted on 08/04/2012

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I'm with Little Miss.
Your uncle was failed by the people he relied on most. His parents.
The only true evil in the story that you told is this poor man's evil stepfather who abused him. His mother isn't much better in my books.
You don't know that his AIDs came from the porn industry. It could have come from some other person he slept with. Hell, even those people who are in long term monogamous relationships can gets HIV or AIDs if their partner cheats. No fault on them, but they still suffer from it.
The porn industry, especially now, actually has pretty high standards when it comes to using disease free actors and actresses. I can say that they are probably less likely to have a disease than someone you meet in a bar or online or whatever. They are tested regularly, which the average Joe is not.
Porn, just like almost anything else, can definitely be enjoyed in a healthy manner. But anything taken to an extreme is a negative thing. Porn is no more evil than video games or anything else.
Place the blame where it belongs. With the asshole your poor uncle had to call his stepfather and his mother (I use the term loosely) who chose to be blind and not protect her child.

Mary - posted on 08/05/2012

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Ummm.....John Holmes was probably the most famous porn star in history. I can't claim to have ever seen anything he was in, or even to be a big fan of porn, but he was a pretty well-known, iconic figure in the genre. Much has been written about him over the years, and there have even been documentaries about his life. He was just about a household name in the 70's and early 80's, not so much because everyone watched porn, and to this day, people reference him when talking about penis size: "Well, he was no John Homes, but..."

I agree with the others, though...in my eyes, the greatest "sin" here is that his mother focused a little to much on praying, and not enough on getting her son away from an abusive situation. God helps those who help themselves...

Firebird - posted on 08/05/2012

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I call bullshit. John Holmes joined the army at 16 - not 19, and he died at 43, not 33. If my uncle died, I'd damn well remember how old he was when it happened.

Jaime - posted on 08/05/2012

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According to Wikipedia, John C. Holmes died on March 13, 1988 at the age of 43.....not 33.

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/06/2012

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*****MoD Alert******

There is way to much fishiness about this post. I am locking it down.

~DM MoD Little Miss~

Patricia - posted on 08/05/2012

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as i am sitting here crying over this post it is so sad porn has all but destroyed my relationship with my husband and i am not sure it will survie yet it is totally banned from my house

Tracey - posted on 08/05/2012

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I know child abuse victims, and adult male & female sexual assault victims who have overcome their past and now have happy marriages, children and jobs. They refused to let what happened to them hold them back, they locked that darkness in a box and threw away the key.

Child abuse did not kill your uncle.
Porn did not kill your uncle.
Assuming he caught AIDS through his job, it was sharing bodily fluids without taking precautions that killed him. Nothing to do with God, nothing to do with the man downstairs.

MeMe - posted on 08/05/2012

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I know plenty of people that watch porn as a COUPLE and it allows them to have extra fun in THEIR bedroom. These are great people and they have no evil in their lives. Porn does NOT bring evil. People bring evil. Then again, you have to believe in God to feel it is a sin.

Mr John Holmes, ended up with this life because of his childhood. Not because of the porn. If he had not done porn, he would have still been messed up.

Tina - posted on 08/05/2012

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Although I hate porn it certainly can be damaging as it can start off with curiosity and turn into more. I have seen it damage people. But I agree that his mother failed him. Had she put a stop to it when he told her things might have turned out different. He may not have turned to porn in the first place. He may have stayed home with his mum not left for the army which people do when they don't care if they live or die any more. Possible entered a real job. I understand your pain but It is a parents responsibility to protect their child and this was his step father. We know the mothers been with at least 2 guys. There would have been no shame in leaving this man. could have left this man. By all means you're entitled to your beliefs that's fine. But she had the knowledge and means to stop it but she didn't. If anything that would have made him feel very unimportant. Anyone who knows of abusive situation at least has an obligation to report it. He was an abused wondering soul because no one cared enough to say this isn't on this has to stop and this isn't ok, it's not acceptable. He may or may not have still been tempted by the porn business but generally a person who is abused finds ways to try and make themselves feel better or numb by turning to sex, drugs and porn. He may have been doing the act of sex and drugs but his hearts true desire would have been to be valued and important.

Dove - posted on 08/04/2012

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Good point Little Miss. I totally blew past the end of her post, so didn't notice that... I was actually wondering what porn had to do with the story until I realized the guy was IN porn... from the comments. Must learn to focus better. lol

Yeah, porn is evil, but if you want to know who I'm talking about.... here's his name, so look him up... ?? Personally I think just his first name would've been sufficient to go with the rest of the story.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/04/2012

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I find it very odd that you posted his porn name and his real name. like you want us to look him up or something.

Dove - posted on 08/04/2012

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Ditto 'Little Miss' and Denikka... the creep that abused him and the mother that didn't protect her son ruined your uncle's life.



Now, I'm morally opposed to porn anyway, but you can not entirely blame porn on what happened to your uncle. Many, many people watch porn every day and do not go on to abuse anyone and/or destroy their lives.

Chaya - posted on 08/04/2012

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Porn was one aspect of the problem. I'm sure there are some you're not even aware of

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