Tam - posted on 12/19/2011 ( 19 moms have responded )
So, here comes what I have just found out is a rather debated question.
If you are pregnant, and unemployed, when do you tell your prospective employers of the impending baby?
This actually relates well to me. I will be losing my job in less than a month. I will be just over six months pregnant. I happen to be one of the lucky ones who doesn't really look pregnant, even though it's an advanced pregnancy.
I also have a job interview on Tuesday. During my phone interview the HR manager seemed very enthusiastic and wanted to get me in for an in-person interview with the hiring managers pretty fast. I didn't mention the pregnancy during the conversation, but I think I will probably do so towards the end of the interview with the hiring managers.
Here's the thing. It's not legally required to mention a pregnancy, nor is it legal for interviewers to inquire. It's also incredibly hard to prove discrimination in this job market - all they have to say is that there was another more qualified applicant.
I've read a lot of opinions and they seem about 80% in favor of not telling until there is a concrete offer of employment. However, I don't think that I can personally keep it a secret. I think that if I were to mention it after the hiring process, I would be seen as untrustworthy at best, and at worst, a purveyor of falsehoods. It might put me under the microscope for termination if my future employers decide they're pissed enough.
So, what do you think? To tell, or not to tell?