Prostitution

Sara - posted on 07/14/2009 ( 57 moms have responded )

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So, here's a topic we haven't debated yet!



I know we're from a variety of places in this group, so it should give an interesting perspective. Do you think prostitution should be legal? Do you think it should be regulated? Thoughts?

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Joy - posted on 07/25/2009

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Posted by Angie Caster (yesterday, 6:38 pm)

I think it should still be illegal. If we do legalize it, there will be advertisements and commercials. There are already commercials about condoms, enhancing your penis, phone sex/dating..etc. We need to think what is best for our children, granted I don't want my kids growing up naive to the world. BUT I don't want them to think that selling yourself as a sexual icon is ok!!!!! It would be ludicrous if my young daughter chose that as a profession. Woman there are other jobs out there...get an education or stock shelves, do anything other than selling yourself as a piece of meat!!!!! TAKE PRIDE IN YOURSELF!!!



They can take our "reply with quote" away....but they can NEVER take away our "copy and paste" lol



Anyhow, I wanted to address what Angie said. In a perfect world, would every prostitute suddenly wake up one morning and go "Holy crap I'm wasting my life!" and go work in a gas station? Maybe. In a perfect world, we would ALL have pride in ourselves. But we don't live in a perfect world. I think to keep prostitution illegal based on this kind of thinking is looking at things through "rose colored glasses". It would be nice if things like prostitution, drugs, rape, etc didn't exist. But the reality is that they do. I think we all need to live realistically and at least provide a safer atmosphere for these things to exist. It's kinda like how there are needle exchange programs for IV drug users. No one is saying it's ok to do IV drugs. But by providing clean needles, we're helping to stop the spread of several diseases. No one is saying that prostitution is what every little girl should aspire to. But by making it legal, we A) make it possible for it to be done in a "safer" manner (drug and disease testing, etc) and B) taxes.

?? - posted on 07/24/2009

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I'm in Canada.



According to Wikipedia



In Canada, prostitution itself (exchanging sex for money) is not illegal, but most activities surrounding it (such as operating a brothel, being found in a brothel, procuring or soliciting in a public place) are illegal, making it difficult to engage in prostitution without breaking any law.



Although Canada is a federation, the criminal law applies throughout the country, the laws are the same all over Canada.



Soliciting in a public place is illegal (automobiles are considered public space if they can be seen). Running, owning or occupying a brothel is also illegal.



Private communication (telephone, e-mail etc) for the purpose of prostitution is legal.



The exact number of Canadian prostitutes is not known. A survey from 2000 showed that 7% of Canadian men have paid for sex at least once in their life (compared to 18% of American men in 1994 and 15% of American men in 2004). It is however important to note that men might underreport such behaviours in surveys.

Sara - posted on 07/24/2009

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I think most of us are in the US and UK, Loureen.

Charlie - posted on 07/24/2009

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Where are you all from , where prostitution is illegal .
just wondering because its legal here in Australia , i actually didnt know it was illegal O/S .

JL - posted on 07/24/2009

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Jo...I agree!

?? - posted on 07/24/2009

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technically prostitution already has a legal and regulated venue -- it's called the pornography industry lol

Angie - posted on 07/24/2009

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I think it should still be illegal. If we do legalize it, there will be advertisements and commercials. There are already commercials about condoms, enhancing your penis, phone sex/dating..etc. We need to think what is best for our children, granted I don't want my kids growing up naive to the world. BUT I don't want them to think that selling yourself as a sexual icon is ok!!!!! It would be ludicrous if my young daughter chose that as a profession. Woman there are other jobs out there...get an education or stock shelves, do anything other than selling yourself as a piece of meat!!!!! TAKE PRIDE IN YOURSELF!!!

Mel - posted on 07/23/2009

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i know they do enjoy being in controll. but what i mean is them being sexually frustrated leads them to be worse if they are not getting anything, cause when they do they get really apologetic and are sorry they did it, its just they get turned on in the moment and dont mean to be as force ful as they have. well in some cases anyway others are full on criminals and do it to have power over people and hurt people or because they watch too much porn. anyways dont want to dicuss this topic anymore its a horrible one x

Melissa - posted on 07/23/2009

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I agree with Amie also rapists usually are rapists as they enjoy hurting people being in control and they have no respect for women.

Amie - posted on 07/23/2009

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Personally I find it disgusting. If it was legal maybe it would be a lot cleaner though. I dunno. There's always a few that slip through the cracks regardless though.

As for rape... ya well that has nothing to do with a guy being sexually frustrated and has to do totally with dominance over another unwilling human being. Creating excuses for men who do this is completely wrong. There is no good reason and any man who does such a thing should be castrated and tossed into the general pop in prison. Fuckers.

Melissa - posted on 07/23/2009

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No ofence Melissa but men CAN and should help themselves they do not need to rape and there is no excuse for it. If they cant help themself they should be locked up for life, please do not make excuses for them as they do well on there own. Also there are other ways to please yourself sexually, no need for rape no matter what circumstance.

Mel - posted on 07/23/2009

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Deanne is right, is should be legal I didnt know there were alot of places where it wasnt legal. For all those males who think they need sex, I mean otherwise they will go around raping people. its so so common guys get too sexually frustrated and cant help themselves. it needs to be legal if there are places where it is not.

Deanne - posted on 07/21/2009

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In Western Australia it is legal & regulated. Doesn't bother me at all. I sure am not teaching my kids that there is a brothel if they need it!
I know of some who have used their services & they are very professional about it all & follow out all the required practices (keeping clean etc)....
I think it's better than these horny guys to rape etc

Iris - posted on 07/17/2009

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Probably because both...or all participants get paid. It's not circumstances where a costumer is paying for a sexual favor....that would be my guess.

Esther - posted on 07/17/2009

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Question - Why is porn legal and prostitution illegal? Isn't it both paid sex?

Savannah - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Mary:

While on a personal level I find the concept of prostitution abhorent and pathetic (for both the prostitute AND her client), I am also a realist. This has been around since the dawn of man, and objections to the morality of it aren't going to make it cease to exist, and obviously, neither is making it illegal. Therefore, I'm all for making in legal, regulated and controlled. I think it would benefit all those partaking in this if STD testing, use of barrier methods, and a "controlled" environment would all be advantageous to both sides. Not naiive....there would still remain those individuals operating outside the law, but I do think that it would help to reduce the disease, abuse, violence and mortality currently asssociated with prostitution. Note that I said REDUCE, and not eliminate.



Absolutely agree 100%.  Couldn't have said it better myself.

Mary - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Iris Björg:

Mary, this does make sense to me. As legalizing might be the only way to get some control over some aspects of prostitution like STD's and physical abuse, and I agree on that. But what about human trafficking? If prostitution would be legalized wouldn't we be making it easier on those slimy creatures?


I doubt it.  The sad fact is, these horrendous practices ALREADY exist, with or without the legalization of prostitution.  Just today, on my am news, there was a story of a 25 y/o man listing teen prostitutes on Craigslist...this was occurring in my small hometown!!!  The perverts and sadists of the world will always be out there, and they will always have to operate under the radar.  I don't think the legalization of "normal" prostituion will change that.  If anything, it would put that practice under the control of other gov't agencies (Dept of Labor/health & Human Services, etc) and hopefully free up the police and other law enforcement officials to target the more perverted and depraved offenders.  I'd rather have them going after the child porn sickos than wasting their resources busting the pathetic hubby or nerdy teen looking for a cheap, but relatively harmless thrill.

Mary - posted on 07/17/2009

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Quoting Traci


How does owning a gun have anything to do with morality?  Do you really believe that is immoral?  You can disagree with something without it being immoral, right?  Please elaborate :)






Don't want to derail this into a debate about gun ownership, so I'll try to be brief.  The only purpose of a gun is to inflict damage on another living creature.  By owning a gun, it is MY opinion that you are, in essence, saying that you are "okay" with utilizing that weapon for it's intended purpose, and I find that mindset morally objectionable.  No, I'm not talking about military or law enforcement or a HUNTING rifle (although not keen on that, either), but the average citizen has no NEED for gun.  I particulary find it appalling to keep guns in a home with children...that's taking a risk to their safety that I cannot begin to understand.  Wish I lived in a country where this was illegal, but since I don't, I do want there to be laws and restrictions in place that offer some small measure of protection to me and society.

Iris - posted on 07/17/2009

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Mary, this does make sense to me. As legalizing might be the only way to get some control over some aspects of prostitution like STD's and physical abuse, and I agree on that. But what about human trafficking? If prostitution would be legalized wouldn't we be making it easier on those slimy creatures?

. - posted on 07/16/2009

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Here, in New Zealand prositution is legal.

The way I see it, she, the prostitute, is providing a service and getting payed for it. There for I believe she should pay taxes on what she earns.

I've had to pay taxes my whole working life there for I don't see why a prostitute shouldn't.

If prostitution was illegal, then they (prostitutes)would still find ways around it.



It is very sad to see women who choose this as a job. They risk their lives doing when they are doing. We have alot of prostitutes in my city who are murdered each year.

A close high school friend of mine, her ex murdered one in a city parking lot.

Mallory Manning was murdered and dumped into the Avon river. Her murderer has yet to be caught.



I think in some what ways, making it legal makes it a little bit safer in some ways.

They can report clients etc to the police, where's before hand they weren't able to etc.

Not that it makes much difference at all.

Traci - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Mary:



I don't think that anyone on here who is in favor of legalizing prostitution is saying that it is MORALLY ok, nor is that the message that legalizing it sends. Morality is a personal thing...who is to say, with absolute certainty, that there code of morals is "right"? For example, I believe that there is absolutely NO reason or justification for the average law-abiding citizen to NEED a gun. Morally, I believe that these are weapons that serve no purpose other than to to maim or kill another living being, and should be banned outright. That's my personal belief, and I can guarantee you that there will never be one in my home, but, that doesn't insure that all my neighbors won't have one...they have a different set of morals. So, I am in favor of regulations and restrictions on gun ownership that are in place to protect ME,and society, from what I perceive as their "wrong" behavior. Does that make sense?


How does owning a gun have anything to do with morality?  Do you really believe that is immoral?  You can disagree with something without it being immoral, right?  Please elaborate :)

Mary - posted on 07/16/2009

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Legalizing prostitution would not make it more available than it already is...trust me, it's already out there, it's just that most of us haven't had a need or desire to find out just accessible it is in our community. I think, in some ways, legalizing it would make it easier for our law enforcemnt officials to target and penalize the more violent and perverted offenders. I tend to think of it along the same lines as the needle exchange programs that started after AIDS became such a huge issue in the late 80's. No one was saying that recreational drug use was ok...but I don't think that heroin junkies should die from AIDs b/c of thier addiction, nor did society want to foot the enormous medical costs (and risks) associated with the hordes of junkies being inflicted with the HIV virus, as well as the fact that they were infecting non-drug addicts as well.



I don't think that anyone on here who is in favor of legalizing prostitution is saying that it is MORALLY ok, nor is that the message that legalizing it sends. Morality is a personal thing...who is to say, with absolute certainty, that there code of morals is "right"? For example, I believe that there is absolutely NO reason or justification for the average law-abiding citizen to NEED a gun. Morally, I believe that these are weapons that serve no purpose other than to to maim or kill another living being, and should be banned outright. That's my personal belief, and I can guarantee you that there will never be one in my home, but, that doesn't insure that all my neighbors won't have one...they have a different set of morals. So, I am in favor of regulations and restrictions on gun ownership that are in place to protect ME,and society, from what I perceive as their "wrong" behavior. Does that make sense?

Iris - posted on 07/16/2009

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I'm very torn on this one. While legalizing prostitution might rid of some problems I also see it creating many new once, such as organized prostitution, advertisements and general acceptance towards prostitution. If it would be legalized we're basically saying that we agree with it. I can understand the argument of STD's but isn't the majority of these women/men supporting there drug addiction? Can they be responsible enough to make regular health care visits? I don't know how it would work but if that is the only reason for legalizing prostitution then I think that's only going to fix a tiny fraction of the problem. There are always going to be prostitutes standing on the curb offering cheaper 'service' than the ones in the brothels and there are always going to be plenty of men willing to gamble their health for cheaper price. I just don't know......

Cathy - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Christa:



I just think if you make it legal then people are going to create businesses around it.  You'll be able to go into the phone book and look them up and easily find them.  I think now the general public really doesn't know how/where to find one.  I sure as heck don't.





Yes, people will make businesses out of it ... but its naive to believe they aren't already. With the regulations in place only a limited few would have licenses to operate and they would be closely monitored. Put in place laws to restrict how they advertise. If someone wants to find them I sure they'll have no problems regardless, but it may put a stop to curb crawling.

Jenny - posted on 07/16/2009

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People have been creating business around it for thousands of years. Let's make them safe businesses. We can already order escorts out of our phone book. Prostitutes are very easily avilable.

Cathy - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Allison:

Also, I would be concerened (as someone else mentioned) that a young adult man would go to a brothel because it's legal and readily available where he would never consider picking up a prostitute.. .though he may be inclined to pick up a drunk stranger at the bar. So, I guess I'm all over the place on this one.


While I'd rather my son's grow up knowing neither is exceptable behaviour. If they were that desperate for sex I'd rather the went with a clean and prepared prostitute who is in control of her own faculties than some drunk girl without a clue what she was doing. Thats why there is such a grey area around the whole issue of rape when a girl is drunk. Was it consentual or was she too drunk to know? Atleast with a prostitute you know!

Cathy - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Christa:

I guess I don't understand the argument that it isn't going anywhere so let's legalize it and make it more available. Isn't the idea to make it less common?


I don't think the idea is to make it more available but rather to control it within the law. Aspects of it should still remain illegal eg. soliciting on street corners. The purpose of regulating prostitution is that the person buying, goes to a licensed brothel, where everything is done to maintain safety for both parties. The intention is discouraging roadside pick ups, where there is a danger of a woman get beaten and murdered (noone deserves this even a prostitute) or for a man getting some sort of STI or STD for them to pass on to there unsuspecting wife.



We are the ones who should be responsible for teaching our children morality and respect for themselves and the opposite sex not the law.

Anastasia - posted on 07/16/2009

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Quoting Traci:

I don't see how legalizing prostitution would lower child prostitution.


I agree. i see no postive impsct coming from legalising prostitution for anything Child Sex related. I think that a man or woman with the impulse to molest/fiddle/rape a child or underage person (16yo 4 Aus)  and act on it, is not going to be satisfied by paying for sex from an adult man or woman.


 

Allison - posted on 07/16/2009

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I'm split on this one. It is legal in NV and I would argue that it's there for those who are into that sort of thing and the rest likely ignore it. I don't believe that by making it legal we are going to see influx of people visiting a whore house (and that's what it is, isn't it?) that wouldn't normaly pick up a prostitute or the drunk girl at the bar. All the dirty birdies can get it at the same nest for all I care. However, I also agree with Traci in that by regulating it, we are lulling ourselves into a false sense of safety. I couldn't agree more with the 'Customer number two' remark. Absolutey so true. Bottom line is if a man wants to get some, he's gonna get some, somewhere and somehow. Regulation could potentially make it a little safer but more so for women, as it would get them off the street and out of 'harms way' in it's most extreme form. (pimps and drugs and freaks with control issues) but all the regulation in the world isn't going to help customer no. 2 and all the people he ends up with subsequently. Also, there will still be the group that doesn't want to pay taxes on their income and will still use a pimp and a streetcorner. There is always going to be that woman who knowingly has a disease and would never be allowed to work at a brothel and she will choose the street corner as well. And I'm sure there will always be that man who goes to the street corner because it's cheaper than the regulated brothel. Anything that is legal still has a place in the back alley or the black market. Let's not kid ourselves.
Also, I would be concerened (as someone else mentioned) that a young adult man would go to a brothel because it's legal and readily available where he would never consider picking up a prostitute.. .though he may be inclined to pick up a drunk stranger at the bar. So, I guess I'm all over the place on this one.

Sara - posted on 07/16/2009

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I don't think that prostitution should be more available, but I think putting some kind of regulation on it may help other problems centered around this now illegal activity. I mean, maybe if it were regulated then it would help to cut down on violence towards women, maybe it would help to eliminate the underage sex slave trade...I honestly doubt it will ever be legal in the US, but I have to agree with Jenifer that I view laws as a social contract and not a moral contract for our society. I think you can't legislate morality, and you shouldn't try to.

Sarah - posted on 07/16/2009

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I don't really have any strong views on it to be honest. It's been around pretty much forever and i guess it will always be around.
I'm not sure legalising it would make much difference to be honest, once something is legal, it doesn't mean there aren't still problems (like drinking is legal and the amount of money the NHS wastes patching people up after drunken fights, or the cost to the council on repairs from damages on the street caused by drinkers)

I think in a lot of areas (forgive me if i'm wrong) tho it's illegal, the police 'turn a blind eye'.

I just think it's sad that some women find themselves in that situation. I may be generalising a bit here, but it often seems to be girls who have met some bloke, whose got them hooked on drugs and then tells them off a way they could 'earn' the money. They're literally just 'working' to fund the drug habit that the pimp gave them in the first place. I know that's not always the case tho. :)

Jenifer - posted on 07/15/2009

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I suppose I don't think legality and morality necessarily have anything to do with each other. There are lots of things that are legal - adultery, for one - that are not moral. I see the law as more of a social contract, designed to protect society from harm, but necessarily to dictate how we should live. Personally, I think prostitution is gross, but I don't see it going away any time soon.

Charlie - posted on 07/15/2009

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prostitution has been legal in NSW for quite a while now , i get what you mean Traci it is gross i couldnt do it , it is however one of the oldest professions in the world , i dont know any of the women that do it as a career , but my assumption is they are women with issues who could do with re-education and a hand up in life , i just dont see Prostitution ever going away .i do know they even have their own unions here in Australia . just as a point of interest.

Traci - posted on 07/15/2009

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I was thinking the same thing, Christa...where has all the morality gone??? So depressing....



They can do all the testing they want on those women, but you can't tell me that a test is going to protect the "second customer of the day" Get what I mean??? GROSS!!!!

Jenifer - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Traci:



Quoting Mary:

I doubt that legalizing prostitution would necessarily equate to diminishing the social stigma of it. Strippers/exotic dancers are legal, but most girls raised in stable, loving homes where they are instilled with morality and self respect do not aspire to be one! Smoking is still legal, and you cannot tell me that the social stigma attached to that has not increased drastically over the past decade. Most smokers who huddle outside of their office entrance do feel ashamed of their habit, and are aware of the risks associated with it, but still continue to indulge. I think if you questioned most people who paid a stranger to have sex with them, they would tell you that they know it's not quite "right", and they probably feel some degree of shame, and yet, they still do it. I just don't believe that legalizing prostitution will change that.

IMO, legalizing the world's only profession could make it safer for all parties involved, including the unsuspecting spouse who is at risk for contracting chlamydia (or worse) from her husband's dirty little secret. Again, I acknowledge that legalizing prostitution will not eradicate this, but it should decrease all of the negative PHYSICAL side effects associated with it.






I think you could then make the same arguement for drugs then.  Why don't we manufacture and regulate the drugs so that people know they are getting untainted heroin, coke, crack, meth, etc?  If we put drug labels on there, people would know what the proper doseage of their "high" would be, so no more OD's!!! 






 






Obviously, I don't agree with legalization, just trying to say it's the same thing.  Kinda like telling your kids, Well, it's okay if you have a party here and get drunk, because you're going to drink anyway and at least I know you are being safe about it...





I'd favor legalization and regulation of prostitution but not drugs, because I think its hard to ignore the serious impact that illicit drugs can have on health, even if we could prevent ODs. I think having people strung out on drugs is a danger to society as well, and I want it limited as much as possible. I don't think that sex (even with a prostitute) carries the same risks to the general public. I don't see the two as similar at all. (Of course, I think I'm probably in the minority among liberals in wanting to see stricter drug laws.)

ME - posted on 07/15/2009

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I was going to stay out of this one...but I'll just say that I think prostitution in every way is incredibly degrading to women, especially in the US where it is very dangerous and totally unregulated...it sickens me completely and perpetuates the stereotype that all men are sex fiends and all women are objects to be owned, used, bought or sold. I think that we are actually all a lot better than this, despite evidence to the contrary...that said, I am afraid, that like most other human vices, this one is unlikely to go away on its own...Regulating it, and taking the money out of it for the pimps who "own" these women might be a good step in cleaning it up...but I would prefer if we could educate these women, and provide them with job training and medical care so they don't need to do this work. Getting prostitutes off the streets, and into work where they could learn that they are actually strong, intelligent, good human beings would certainly solve the problem.

Charlie - posted on 07/15/2009

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ciggarettes kill more people per year than Alcohol , murder , illegal drugs and car accidents ,off topic i know but an interesting fact !

Charlie - posted on 07/15/2009

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making it illegal would only put the women who continue to do it in much more danger as well as the clients , there would be no health screens , as for husbands cheating on wives with hookers ( i read somewhere earlier ) i am sorry to say there was a problem with the relationship BEFORE he went looking for sex else where . if it were made illegal ( its legal in Australia ) then husbands who were sneaking out to have sex would be more likely to pass on an STD as illegal prostitutes aren't subjected to health checks . just my thoughts on it .

Traci - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Mary:

I doubt that legalizing prostitution would necessarily equate to diminishing the social stigma of it. Strippers/exotic dancers are legal, but most girls raised in stable, loving homes where they are instilled with morality and self respect do not aspire to be one! Smoking is still legal, and you cannot tell me that the social stigma attached to that has not increased drastically over the past decade. Most smokers who huddle outside of their office entrance do feel ashamed of their habit, and are aware of the risks associated with it, but still continue to indulge. I think if you questioned most people who paid a stranger to have sex with them, they would tell you that they know it's not quite "right", and they probably feel some degree of shame, and yet, they still do it. I just don't believe that legalizing prostitution will change that.

IMO, legalizing the world's only profession could make it safer for all parties involved, including the unsuspecting spouse who is at risk for contracting chlamydia (or worse) from her husband's dirty little secret. Again, I acknowledge that legalizing prostitution will not eradicate this, but it should decrease all of the negative PHYSICAL side effects associated with it.



I think you could then make the same arguement for drugs then.  Why don't we manufacture and regulate the drugs so that people know they are getting untainted heroin, coke, crack, meth, etc?  If we put drug labels on there, people would know what the proper doseage of their "high" would be, so no more OD's!!! 



 



Obviously, I don't agree with legalization, just trying to say it's the same thing.  Kinda like telling your kids, Well, it's okay if you have a party here and get drunk, because you're going to drink anyway and at least I know you are being safe about it...



 



 



 



 

Traci - posted on 07/15/2009

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I don't see how legalizing prostitution would lower child prostitution.

Charlie - posted on 07/15/2009

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it should be legal and regulated , hey its going to happen anyway !

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i think it should be legal ! Look at the former Governor of New York he like call girls!

Esther - posted on 07/15/2009

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Well, it probably won't come as a surprise to anyone, being Dutch and all, that I think it should be legal and regulated. I don't think making it legal will drive anyone into prostitution. I do think making it legal and regulated could help reduce child prostitution, trafficking, spread of diseases etc.

Sara - posted on 07/15/2009

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My thoughts exactly Mary!

Mary - posted on 07/15/2009

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oops...can't type and play with the girl at the same time well...meant to say OLDEST profession, not "only"...dear God, can you imagine?? (I would make a horrible hooker, lol!)

Mary - posted on 07/15/2009

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I doubt that legalizing prostitution would necessarily equate to diminishing the social stigma of it. Strippers/exotic dancers are legal, but most girls raised in stable, loving homes where they are instilled with morality and self respect do not aspire to be one! Smoking is still legal, and you cannot tell me that the social stigma attached to that has not increased drastically over the past decade. Most smokers who huddle outside of their office entrance do feel ashamed of their habit, and are aware of the risks associated with it, but still continue to indulge. I think if you questioned most people who paid a stranger to have sex with them, they would tell you that they know it's not quite "right", and they probably feel some degree of shame, and yet, they still do it. I just don't believe that legalizing prostitution will change that.



IMO, legalizing the world's only profession could make it safer for all parties involved, including the unsuspecting spouse who is at risk for contracting chlamydia (or worse) from her husband's dirty little secret. Again, I acknowledge that legalizing prostitution will not eradicate this, but it should decrease all of the negative PHYSICAL side effects associated with it.

Cathy - posted on 07/15/2009

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Quoting Traci:

I think whenever you legalize something, you take away it's stigma. I don't think anybody here would say that prostitution is a positive thing, so why would we work to take away the stigma of it?

Also, how would all those wives find out their creep of a husband was out getting hookers if the cops weren't calling her to come bail him out of jail? Just a thought...


What about the wives who find out their husbands have been doing the dirty on them when they get diagnosed with clymidia on gonarehea?

Anastasia - posted on 07/14/2009

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i live in townsville, north queensland, australia... we have a legal brothel called 'australian maid(?)', i've been told from my a relative of mine whos boyfriend loves his sex, that the men (maybe woman aswell, i don't know to much about it) go in and have to strip off and be examined and stuff like that, and the employees don't have to sleep with you if they don't want to...it's their choice...theres rules and regulations and stuff. I remember when it was on the news years back, that there was a big hubbub about it, but now everyone knows its there and nobody cares.

i think that if man is a rapist it doesn't matter if there is legal cash ass...he will do it anyway...for the thrill or the control or whatever fuels them sick bastards. i also think rapists come in all forms...strangers, relatives, friends, partners and husbands and that it's not just the sickos, a man can be perfectly rational and still commit such deeds. For our brothel here, i think it is more likely that our husbands will go there and that the bad dudes will just keep on with their criminal matters.

so, i don't think it should be legal, i really don't think that, here, it reduces much except standards. i agree with Christa Gs post about the children and destructive behaviour. i do think it is good that the men are screened and things are controlled.

a year or two ago, in our town a high school friend of mines little sister was kidnaped raped, beaten and murdered and not all in that particular order....some people won't change, it is in them and having a brothel or not makes not matter.

i think i need to add that this was not always my view that i used to think it was fine and it was an acceptable ...but as i've gotten older my views have changed, being shaped by life experienced of mine and those around me.

Traci - posted on 07/14/2009

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I think whenever you legalize something, you take away it's stigma. I don't think anybody here would say that prostitution is a positive thing, so why would we work to take away the stigma of it?



Also, how would all those wives find out their creep of a husband was out getting hookers if the cops weren't calling her to come bail him out of jail? Just a thought...

JL - posted on 07/14/2009

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I agree with exactly what Mary said.....legalize, regulate, and reduce.