Tara - posted on 10/13/2011 ( 73 moms have responded )
When talking to your kids about puberty do you/would you/will you discuss masturbation with them? Boys and Girls?
In what context?
How much detail will you be comfortable giving?
Will it be a different sort of talk for your girls than for your boys?
I talk to all my kids about masturbation before they hit puberty, as in "It's ok to touch yourself in your private places, but it's something you do in a private place".
When they are older and hit puberty the talk is more personal. It takes on a different level of self awareness and self appreciation especially for girls.
Often boys are told or are expected to masturbate as part of being a boy... built in toys and all..
But girls are not usually thought of as sexual beings that way. They are often thought of as "waiting" for sexuality to happen to them, from some external influence.
I want my girls to know that self pleasuring is not only okay, but can be a rewarding way to deal with the longings of puberty and early relationships. It's much safer and allows a girl to discover things about her own body that she likes etc.