Veronica - posted on 02/08/2011 ( 108 moms have responded )
So, I guess I was really hurt by this, I even posted it on FB - but posed it as one of my friends, because I didnt want specific people to know what I was talking about -- but wanted to know what you think. What is your opinion.
Ok, So last April (as most of you know) I had my sixth baby -- healthy little boy. Prior to his arrival, (like I did with all my children) I was making my arrangements for babysitters when I would go into labor, and then I usually have some family that will hang out or offer help to me, when I would get home from the hospital (whether it would be to help me with laundry, give the kids a bath, or cook a meal). Now, I am not helpless, and I wasnt super sick with any of my babies (although i did have infections with three of them postpartum) -- but you know how it is, you are tired, you are worn out, and you are still in some pain. I wasnt in unbearable pain where I couldnt do anything either. HOWEVER, it was very nice of my family to come and help out, giving me an extra hand, I felt very fortunate that they were their, it lessened my duties for a few days, and I was able to get rest and focus on the new baby, and cuddles with the rest of my kids.
SO to get to the point of this post --- one person, my own sister, told me to give her a call if I needed her; I thought that was nice of her, and kept her as an option if I needed anything. Well, my mom was going to come over and help me out, but had prior obligations and took it upon herself to find out if my sister could fill in and help -- to which my sister replied: "They should have thought about this before they had six kids -- if they cant handle it, then they shouldnt have had that many kids then."
I was completely shocked and hurt by the statement. I wasn't asking her to come and become the mother, housekeeper, and cook in my household -- it was simply some extra help, while I was still "recovering" from having a baby. Even when I had my first baby - my mom helped by making a big casserole, so I didnt have to cook for a couple of days, she did a little bit of laundry, and helped clean up a little bit. I didnt expect her to, but she knew it would help. And that is just how its always been - someone would stay with my kids at home, while i was in the hospital for a couple of days -- and then they would help with a few things for about a week or two.
Do you agree with her, or do you think she was being a *bleep* for a sister? I thought it was heartless and calous of her to say --- especially after she said she would help out! That made it worse.
(ok this was all over the place, but i hope you get my point here)