. - posted on 09/01/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
Okay, my sister is 5 years younger then me and so ismy brother by 6 years.
My siblings have had a much easier up bringing then me. Technically they are my step siblings (same mum,diff dad, im donor concieved).
My parents were extremely stricked on me, I never got to experiance what my sister and brother got to for example school road patrol, hanging out on the weekends/after school with friends.
I had to stay at home, raise my brother and sister when our parents were absent (for example when i was legal age for babysitting, they would leave at 9am and return late night 12pm-1am on the weekends never telling us they had planned to go out. In the mean time i had to clean the house, siblings would fight constantly so i had to clean up their mess otherwise id get introuble.
When ever they missed behaive- it was my fault, bcause of they way "i spoke to them". My parents have mouths onthem like sailors!
I know this may seem like normal treatment for the eldest child but comments used to get made about the way my parents treated me.
I was also used for credit as my parents had a bad rating.
Now to get to the moral of my story, I have just recently learnt that my 18 (going on 16) year old sister is 6 weeks pregnant. When I was her age, i was told that if i was got knocked up, my dad would throw me out onto the street and my mother would't support me either. my best friend fell pregnant when she was 19 and my mother said "oh well thats her life ruined now! i have no sympathy".
I dont talk to my parents, havent for almost 2 years and my sister rang me up to tell me that she was pregnant and that mum told her to ring. I hung up on her.
My sister doesn't realise the sacrafices I had to make for her and our brother growing up.
She has only been with the guy 12months, he has been in and out of prison and they have been off and on
The only positive thing i see out of this is may be now, my interferring parents may refocus their attention to my sister and her baby and leave me, my son and partner ALONE!