Sleep deprived mom forgets baby at home

Katherine - posted on 02/28/2011 ( 45 moms have responded )

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Raise your hand if you are sleep-deprived! I would raise both of mine, but then I wouldn't be able to type. Yeah, it's a constant state of being for a mom, especially a mom of a newborn. Not getting enough sleep can make us do crazy things. Take Sue, a sleep-deprived mother of two, in Australia. She left her house to go pick up her older son from school ... and forgot her baby sleeping in his crib.

Sue just got in the car, started driving ... and then realized what happened. She freaked out, and rightly so. She was too far to turn around. What's a mom to do? Not caring if she would face child endangerment charges, she dialed the emergency number for the police, all of her neighbors, anyone she could think of to go and check on her baby son. Who was found still sleeping in his crib.

I think the best part about this story is that she didn't get in trouble. She didn't get her son taken away. Nope, everyone understood this was an accident, this was a result of a mega lack of sleep. I'm not so sure if that's because of where it happened (in Australia) or that it was a small town or what, but I'm thrilled that common sense ruled in a situation like this.

Now, I've done a lot of wackadoo things because of lack of sleep. Put my wallet in the fridge, forgot to put on a bra only to realize it in the middle of a big work meeting, blanked on my phone number about 83 times, just to name a few. Okay, I've never forgotten my kid. But I can totally see how it can happen.

Sleep-deprivation is a serious thing. Check out WebMD, and you see the list of all of the ailments that result from not enough zzzzzzzs: decreased alertness, memory impairment, depression, heart attack -- do I need to go on?

Sue explained she hadn't slept for two days! It's a good thing she didn't get into a car accident, especially once she realized what had happened and got all fuggumelled. Geez, no sleep for two days while caring for two kids? I doubt if I'd be able to say the alphabet, let alone drive a car.

Should she have gotten in trouble? What have you done because of lack of sleep?


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I can totally sympathize with this woman. I have been so sleep deprived. I have never forgotten my kids, but I really think that moms NEED sleep and it's becoming dangerous. Case in point.

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Jenni - posted on 02/28/2011

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Kate McCallister: How could we do this? We forgot him.
Peter McCallister: We didn't forget him. We just miscounted.
Kate McCallister: What kind of a mother am I?
Frank McCallister: If it makes you feel any better, I forgot my reading glasses.

Stifler's - posted on 02/28/2011

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I only have one kid so I'm not sleep deprived and I've never forgot him mainly because he was one of those kids who was always screaming. But I remember when he was about 8 months he'd wake up every 45 minutes to scream. I was sleep deprived then and threw a tantrum at the golf course in Blackwater because I dropped something and really just wanted to be in bed instead of driving a golf cart. It didn't even land on my toes or anything. He's been waking up once during the night for ages so I can hardly even remember the days I woke up 50 times during the night to make bottles or rock in the rocking chair.



At least she called emergency services I don't think she should have got in trouble.

Sharon - posted on 02/28/2011

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Lmao! I remember that!! Home Alone!! Awesome!

I've never forgotten my kid.

I did THINK I had left him on the counter of a 24 hour convenience store. I did an illegal turn, SPED back, raced inside screaming "WHERES MY BABY??" Probably wild eyed and spastic looking and SUDDENLY remembered that I had left him with my mother. OMFG. I cried all the way to work. lmao - geezus.

Jodi - your poor mum... awww!!!

Rosie - posted on 02/28/2011

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i totally read that as you put your kids in the freezer bonnie!! LMAO!!

Katherine - posted on 02/28/2011

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I agree, she even called 911 and told them of her situation. That took some guts.

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Charity - posted on 05/10/2013

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With my first I was a total sleep deprived brain dead mom. I couldn't remember a darn thing except my child and even that was borderline some days. Driving sleep deprived can be equal to driving well over the legal limit drunk so I think much more respect for new moms and give them more support. I don't think she should of gotten in trouble at all just imagine having that gut wrenching sinking feeling to realize you left your child somewhere on accident.

Trish - posted on 03/03/2011

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The saddest story I heard of from Sleep Dep. is on Oprah. This mum was a teacher at a high school totally forgot she had her baby in the car. Worked all day and only until some screamed that there was a baby in the car she ran and remembered it was her baby. The baby died of the heat. She had her windows up and baby was in there the whole day. So sad. It's UTTERLY VITAL that as mums we get sleep.

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I think once w/my oldest we got home from a road trip we brought him inside and he was still in the carrier asleep. We forgot to put him to bed before we went to bed ourselves. Then of course I remembered before undressing, but that is frightening to forget them at all especially being a new parent at the time! Never made that mistake again!!!

Katherine - posted on 03/01/2011

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@ Amber LMAO!!!!! I have done the panty thing too. It's like son of a.......

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Wow I am glad that the baby was safe. I don't think that it was intentional and it's a good thing that she actually did something that most people wouldn't do and contacted someone. I think most people would freak that they would have the baby taken away or something and panic. I have never forgotten my daughter, she's a little hard to miss since she is so loud. But I have done silly things. I walk to the bathroom and sit on the toilet and remember that I actually wanted to make a coffee not go to the loo. Lol. I have heard of worse endings to stories like this so at least the baby was safe in the end. She probably got a mini lecture or something at some point.

Amber - posted on 03/01/2011

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i had a few of those times, where i woke in an absolute panic thinking i'd just rolled onto my baby when i'd actually put him back into his bassinett and he was snoozing soundly. those times i was usually pissed that i was awake when the baby wasn't ;) those times are for sleeping! lol
i never forgot my son because of sleep depreivation, but i did a lot of stupid things and it doesn't suprise me that she forgot her baby. i woke up some nights to a screaming baby and a very full bladder, and a few times i went to go pee and orgot to pull down my panties. oopsie.
i also once was up in the night and had to pee, and i was so half-asleep and dazed that i was walking towards the toilet with my baby, who wouldn't sleep unless i was holding him of course so i had to hold him while i peed, and i walked right into the door frame. squishing my poor son in between myself and the wall, and smashing both our heads off the wood door frame. go mommy! that woke me up, but not nearly enough. i remember i just looked at him, and he had woken up and was just staring at me all wide eyed, and i said "sorry buddy" and went pee.

Jenni - posted on 03/01/2011

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Do you know what feeling I absolutely hated? When I'd wake in the middle of the night to nurse my babies and then go back to bed. I'd jolt awake suddenly, thinking I was still nursing them and had dropped them. :/

Vegemite - posted on 03/01/2011

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Jascinta I was the same and was terrible at co sleeping, they also liked their own space to sleep in so I would get in their cot to breast feed. I was so afraid of falling asleep while sitting in a chair to feed and dropping them i thought that getting in their cot was the safest way. If i dropped them there they wouldn't fall far and onto a soft mattress.

Sneaky - posted on 03/01/2011

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Guys I am laughing my ass off here - NONE of you are bad mothers, just really hysterical story tellers :o)

@Christine, that sounds awful! I am glad you and bub were OK - well sort of OK :o)

Vegemite - posted on 03/01/2011

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i've never forgotten my kid but did something just as bad and had to call 000. I left my car in drive with the hand break off and lent in to turn it off. The car went down the driveway, across the road, down a rock wall and into the neighbours garden with my new son in the back. He was fine, but stupid, sleep deprived me tried to get in the car and the door ran into me, knocked me over and cut my head badly so emergency was called for an ambulance. I was asked all kinds of questions about how i was doing with a new baby and a toddler under 2 and if my marriage was ok but they seemed to realise i was looking after my kids and doing my best when I insisted on taking my baby with me in the ambulance to BF at the same time I called around to find someone to get my other son from kinda while bleeding badly from my large head wound

Nikki - posted on 03/01/2011

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I just remembered another one, my hubby left our daughter at home sleeping one night. Technically she wasn't by herself but no one knew she was there. My MIL was upstairs. I had broken down on the side of the road picking up take away, I rang and he came to get me. When he arrived I thought I better check that he asked his mum to go downstairs and check on Isobel. No he forgot to tell her either of us had left!! Of course I rang her straight away but I almost had a heart attack thinking about the 15 minutes she had been alone at 3 months old.

Joanna - posted on 03/01/2011

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I just fell asleep a good 7 or 8 times reading this page. 2 am and rocking Eva to sleep for the 4th time tonight (been in bed since 9:30).

Theresa's story reminded me... When Paige was a baby, she was in her own room across the hall after 1 week because she was THE noisiest sleeper. But occasionally I'd bring her into bed with me. Everytime id hear her cry, I'd grab the nearest pillow and start rocking it and patting it. Slowly I'd wake up when I'd realize a) it was too light, b) it hadno face, and c) it was still crying! I did that every night for at least 4 months.

Jascinta - posted on 03/01/2011

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glad she did the right thing and didn't get in trouble for it. i am most definitely sleep deprived most of the time. luckily i haven't done anything like leaving the bubs any where. i do wake up b/f in the middle of the night quite often and not remember getting up and getting rylan out of his cot. it really scares me, and happens way to often!!!! one of those things that i cant even prevent. any tips would be great lol.

Casey - posted on 02/28/2011

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I feel sorry for her and I'm glad she didn't get into trouble for making this mistake, the poor thing must have been exhausted and at least she didn't try to just hide it and not contact anyone and just hope for the best, she did the right thing by contacting people to go and check on her child.
I remember when my son was a newborn and I was soooo sleep deprived I got up to feed him one night and I changed his nappy before putting him back down and a few hours later I was woken by a screaming baby who was soaking wet, I had forgotten to put a nappy back on him lol (idiot).

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Totally left my kid home alone. Total accident. I told my husband that I was going to go to Walgreens when I put her down for her nap. He said, Okay and that he needed to go to Home Depot. I put her down, and left the house. My husband had pulled his truck into the backyard earlier that day, so I wasn't alarmed when I didn't see it under the carport. Halfway through my Walgreens trip I got a frantic phone call from my husband. He wanted to know if everything was okay, and why I wasn't home, and why Eliza was sleeping in her bed. I couldn't believe I had left my house without checking to see if my husband was home or not. I wasn't even sleep deprived. No excuse there. Accidents happen, but I still feel like the world's worst mom.

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Bless that poor woman's heart. No, I don't think she should have gotten into trouble..hell she even called 911 on herself!

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who's forgotten to buckle her child in his car seat! I'm always forgetting to do one thing or another. My husband's always telling me to "pull my head out of my ass." I've had dreams that I forgot my son at home while I left to go shopping or something. Luckily it's never actually happened. ;)

Stifler's - posted on 02/28/2011

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I do that too, I'll be driving along and be like IS LOGAN EVEN BACK THERE?! and I do the thing where I've dropped him off with a babysitter and I'm on my way to an appointment and I open the back door of the car and he's not in his seat and then I realise I don't have him!

Jenn - posted on 02/28/2011

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I do sometimes WORRY that I've forgotten a child, and will check the truck several times before, during and after leaving the driveway LOL! But I've never actually done it - I couldn't imagine! :O

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That's pretty bad Sharon. ;)

I do have a good 'sleep deprivation' story though... When the girls were newborns, my ex would frequently latch them on for me in the middle of the night. I'd be so tired that I would fall back asleep, so when they were done he'd put them back in the crib. I would wake up to no baby on the boob and FREAK out flinging blankets and pillows everywhere looking for a baby. I had dreams of losing them in the bed for over a year because of that stuff. lol

Jodi - posted on 02/28/2011

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Ah, Sharon, here we are 35 years later or so, and she STILL feels guilty about that one.

Nikki - posted on 02/28/2011

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I am glad that she didn't get into trouble, I also know how debilitation sleep deprivation can be. Honestly it doesn't actually surprise me that she didn't get into trouble, our child protection laws are pretty crap really (in aus) thankfully it worked in favour of one of the good parents this time.

I am so glad there are there mums that have forgotten to buckle their babies in, I swear I still feel like the worst mum in the world because I put my daughters car seat in, I attached the harness but not the second strap, then I forgot to buckle her in. I am normally so anal with car safety! Hubby was driving because I was so tired, but we drove for like an hour, I bawled my eyes out when I realised.

I have never forgotten my daughter thank goodness, I can imagine it would be the worst feeling in the world.

Angela - posted on 02/28/2011

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I dont think she should have gotten in trouble,I have NEVER forgotten my daughter,NEVER.
What I dont understand is if she was so sleep deprived how could she drive to go pick up her other child?
I just feel thats just being a negligent parent.
We forget things like milk at the grocery store,NOT our children.

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I've never forgotten a kid, thankfully. Even though for the first 5 months of my son's life I was functioning on 2-5 hours sleep per night (when I need at least 7 normally).

I did forget to strap him in once though. We were at the beach and I had taken him out of his seat. I never belted him in when I set him down cuz I didn't want to waste time unbelting him if he needed picked up again.... but he didn't need picked up again. I drove for about 2-3 minutes before I remembered. Pulled right over and did up the straps.

Bonnie - posted on 02/28/2011

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I forgot to buckle my son in his car seat once. He was fussy while my husband was in the pharmacy so I unbuckled him. He calmes down and I went to sit in the passenger seat again. We we got to our next stop and we went to take him out, I noticed he wasn't buckled in. I felt so guilty.

There was one time I put my boys drinks in the freezer for a few minutes to get cold, only I had forgotten about them. They asked me 2 hours later for a drink. I couldn't find their cups anywhere and I accused them of hiding them because they have done that before. I searched and searched and finally gave up about an hour later when I went to make dinner and found the drinks, rock solid in the freezer.

There have also been a few times where I have went to run some errands or just pick up my son from school and I had forgotten my purse at home which has my wallet and drivers licence in it. Oops.

Jodi - posted on 02/28/2011

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My mother "forgot" my brother once. It was one of those situations where she though he was with dad, dad thought he was with her. i was one of 5 kids, and we were also on holidays with my cousins (all 4 of them), and the youngest kids were still babies. We were going to the park for a BBQ lunch, and my brother ended up left behind. The worst thing is, because there were so many kids, and we all went off and played at the playground when we got there, she never even realised until he was tugging on her sleeve, sobbing "you left me mummy" (he knew where we were going for our outing). Holy shit, she freaked, because to get to us, he had to cross a main road!!! I think he was about 4 or 5 at the time.

Jodi - posted on 02/28/2011

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"I also hate when I THINK I've forgotten them... I'll be driving alone, talking to them, and look in my rearview mirror and freak out..."

OMG, I've done that!!! It freaks me out totally!!

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I can sympathize with being sleep deprived but I promise you that even having 3 yrs of being sleep deprived I have NEVER left my child, any of them, anywhere without someone I trusted. I can't imagine how someone could "forget" their child since you are so sleep deprived shouldn't you be on automatic pilot about taking that baby with you EVERY where?

Johnny - posted on 02/28/2011

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I forgot to buckle my daughter once or twice. When they're in those carriers and you take them out of the car for a bit, it's easy to forget if you loosened the straps when you put them back in the car. I was lucky, but I felt very badly about it. I did once forget to do up my daughter's stroller strap and she fell out ass over tea kettle onto my concrete floor. Luckily she just did a little roll and popped back up (she was around 18 months). She was fine but I was a shaken mess about it. She could have been badly hurt.

When I was 6, my parents left me in the toy department of a major downtown department store. They had left me at the Lego table and snuck off to buy my Christmas present. I was a very very very quiet child and I guess they forgot they'd brought me. They assumed they'd dropped me at my grandmother's, and only remembered where I was when they got there to pick me up. As they started driving back, my grandmother called the department store to have them look for me (this was long before cell phones). I just remember the nice lady coming to the Lego table where I still was, asking me my name, and telling me to stay there. She played with me until my parentes showed up. I didn't even realize what had happened until years later. I just knew that I got lots of extra Lego time, which I thought was just great.

Even not being sleep deprived, just being really distracted can impact you.

Joanna - posted on 02/28/2011

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Considering I just fell asleep while reading this, at 11:45 am... Lol yeah, sleep deprived! Although I got almost 2 hours of sleep last night which is more than usual...

Never forgot my kids, but I've forgotten to buckle a few times. I hate it now because my 3 year old will climb in her seat and then shut her door, while I'm getting the baby in. And I'll forget to buckle the 3 year old in because I see her in her seat and think I've already done it. Luckily if I start to drive she yells "buckle me mommy!"

I also hate when I THINK I've forgotten them... I'll be driving alone, talking to them, and look in my rearview mirror and freak out... Only to remember they are at home with grandma. And then I get my ass out of the carpool lane, lol. Oops!

Becky - posted on 02/28/2011

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I can sympathize with the sleep deprivation too. I'm still sleep deprived! I've never forgotten my kids, but I can see it happening, especially if her baby was a newborn and she was still adjusting to having him around! I have caught myself going to put the milk in the pantry or the cereal boxes in the fridge many times though!
I'm glad she didn't get her children taken away over it. I think the fact that she called everyone she could think of to make sure her baby was okay had a lot to do with that. Had the child been discovered alone in the house by someone, the outcome probably would have been quite different. Clearly, since she took the chance of losing her baby by calling protective services, she was a loving mom who was genuinely worried for her child's well-being and not one of those parents who purposely leaves their children alone to go gamble or drink!

Jenni - posted on 02/28/2011

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Arrg! Could totally see that one happening to any of us. Luckily, I'm passed the sleep deprivation stage. I think one of the biggest things I forgot was to change out of my PJ bottoms before I ran out the door. Luckily, I realized right before I got in the car. Oh, and I've done the slipper thing. My husband has forgotten our daughter before (I was already in the car) I've had to say: "uhhh... forgetting something...? or someone?"

Rosie - posted on 02/28/2011

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i can totally sympathise as well. i have forgotten my middle child in the car once. i went to the DMV to renew my license, and just left him in his carseat in the car. it was june, normally over 80, that day it wasn't it was in the 70's. normally i have to wait like an hour in there, that day it was like 15 min. i got back to the car and he was just there smiling at me. i almost shit. i couldn't believe i left my baby in the car! i felt so unbelievably horrible that day. i cried and cried.

Katherine - posted on 02/28/2011

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I've forgotten to buckle my kids too. And really I think that you SO should be helping out unless you're a single mom and BF'ing. And even then......We have to get our sleep!!!!
It's so so dangerous. Just like that woman Heather was talking about. We could get into car accidents with the kids in the car, who knows what could happen. And the the guilt of doing it is horrible.

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I've never left my children behind because of sleep, but I did once forget to buckle my son's carseat straps when he was like, 5 weeks old and drove home from the grocery store with him asleep in his carseat, not buckled. I had unbuckled him in the store while shopping because he got fussy and my daughter was being less than compliant. I was working on no sleep for about 3 nights in a row because of my 3 year olds' nightmares and my newborn son's lovely sleep schedule. It was pouring rain when I was leaving the store, so I was just trying to get to the car without getting soaked. I felt SO horrible when I got home and I never forgot it again.

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This is one of my biggest fears. I'm so afraid I leave my son somewhere that I'm paranoid about where he is at all times. Could be the OCD coming out....

I'm glad she didn't get in trouble but that might have something to do with the baby still being asleep. I wonder if itwould have been the same if the child was roaming about the house?

I think the worse I've done while sleep deprived is put the milk in cupboard. I didn't realize it until hours later when I went to look for it again. There are probably other little things I've done, I just can't think of them right now.

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My mother forgot my sister at home once, she got her all ready for a nap put her down to sleep, then packed the rest of us up to go to my granddads. We were halfway there when we realized. Its only a 5 min drive though. We told noone..after that we all got numbers and had to count them out whenever we went anywhere...my mother is one of those kinds who should have had her children taken away...

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I never forgot my kids, my first was stuck to me so i couldn't forget her.I feel so much for her.I went to my sisters 6weeks after my first child was born.I saw her again a few weeks later.She said "oh ash you must be so tired"..i said "yea, why"..she said "remember you made us tea as i held the baby, well you put the sugar in the fridge and the milk in the press" lol.

I was very sleep deprived but thankfully i never forgot my baby or did anything to put my baby or myself in danger.

I feel so sad for this woman as if it were me, i would find it so hard to forgive myself.

The woman who cared for me for 11yrs did this to.She didnt get into trouble as she remembered and back home she flew, as fast as her legs could go..She said she was so tired and had other children to.She just forgot in the rush as he slept soundly in his cot.



The shock, the embarrassment and fear of what if something had happened not to forget the guilt is punishment enough i feel.

Lady Heather - posted on 02/28/2011

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Reminds of that woman I saw on Oprah who left her little one in the car because she forgot to take her to daycare. That one didn't end so well though. :( I think this is something that can happen to everyone and should serve as a reminder to the rest of us that we need to be as conscious as possible and above all - ask for help if we need it! A person who hasn't slept for two days should not be driving. Mothers needn't martyr themselves to do it all.

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