smoking?

Tina - posted on 09/30/2011 ( 123 moms have responded )

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I'm wondering how other people feel about parents/gardians smoking inside or in a car with children. It's illegal to do it where I live yet people who disagree with the rule still do it. Even people who have children who tend to get sick often or have asthma.

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Sherri - posted on 10/01/2011

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I am a smoker I don't smoke in my home but I do smoke in my car. Not proud of it but it is the truth. My husband doesn't smoke and I smoke in his car too. My kids never ever smell of smoke but then again neither do I and that is not my opinion that is what I have been told on more than one occasion.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/01/2011

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I remember being on a greyhound once when one of the passengers decided he'd try and smoke. On the bus. Surrounded by a ton of other people. In the winter so the windows aren't open and the smoke is very obviously going to cloud up and become apparent in a matter of seconds. The bus driver pulled over. "Umm...we all know someone is smoking on here. Did you really think no one would notice that? Really?" God, some people are really stupid.

My favourite though was the train I took from France to Luxembourg. It had smoking and non-smoking sections. So I of course bought a non-smoking ticket thinking the cars would either be smoking or non. That would make sense right? Instead they split each car down the middle. Front half no smoking, back half smoking. Ummm...??? 3 hours like that. I nearly died.

Tinker1987 - posted on 10/01/2011

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i dont agree with it,its disgusting.

and to add,those that quit smoking right away for their babies sake,then started up again...you should still quit because your kids need you for life.my mother lost her dad at a very young age from smoking

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@Brittany -- I just had a similar experience yesterday with a restaurant employee who was smoking in the bathroom. I was SO pissed.

Brittany - posted on 10/01/2011

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No, no, no, no, no and NO! I do not smoke, my husband does not smoke and I do not allow my children to go to homes of people who smoke in their home. I can not stand the smell of it. It makes me sick to my stomach.

FYI to people who do smoke in cars or homes with children : Second hand smoke is one of the three killers in infants.

I think it is rude, disgusting, and shows a total lack of disrespect for people around you.

I do not shop at places that have smoker polls outside. Where people can stand and finish their cancer right in front of the door.

Two weekends ago my husband went out to his friends house to pick up his friends son. They used to live by us but, moved. Our children became friends and still play. The kid came over and I almost threw up when he walked in. The child smelled awful!. I went out to my van and it smelled awful. I had to Febreeze and Lysol my van to get the smell out. When I got that done I gave the kid a bath and put all of his belongings in the washer, including his backpack WHICH HE USES FOR SCHOOL! I had to wash the couch and all the linens in my kids rooms because, in the short time he was at my home before his bath the smell had taken over my home. After he left it took me two days to get the smell out of my house. It was REPULSIVE! Caoleb asked me when he could go and stay out at his friends house and I said NEVER! He did not ask me why but, I did later explain to my husband that Caoleb is NEVER to go out there. He will not make it through the night.

Caoleb has a very nasty case of asthma and almost everyday has to have a breathing treatment. My child would die at their home.

OH GOSH! SPEAKING OF PEOPLE SMOKING! We went grocery shopping one day last week. Caoleb told me has to go potty. I told him ok, he had just gotten out of school. We went into the woman's bathroom and one of the store employees was SMOKING IN THE BATHROOM! I was appalled! I was down right pissed! Caoleb had already started using the bathroom and the lady came out of the stall. Caoleb started to cough really bad and I had to go into the stall to help him. I got him out of the restroom ASAP and went to the pharmacy to have his Albuterol re-filled.

I had them call the store manager and I asked the store manager to look at my son. He did and I said "When we came in here he was laughing and being a 5 year old. Now he is having a hard time breathing, his eyes are red and puffy and I just had to get his medicine refilled!" The manager asked me what happened and I told him one of his employees was in the woman's bathroom smoking. He was not happy about that at all! We are regular customers there. He went and pulled up the tape and about 10 mins later he called for her over the intercom to come to the office.

If you want to pay to die, just give me the money!

Jenny - posted on 10/01/2011

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I feel it is abusive. Feel free to kill yourself but keep it away from the kids.

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I wish smoking were completely illegal, so.... what does that tell you? Actually, no... I don't wish it were illegal cuz then people would still do it. I wish it simply didn't exist. ;)



I'm allergic and most of my neighbors smoke, so I get tired of not being able to breathe in my own home. Plus, my ex started smoking again sometime after he left and it really sucks to be allergic to your own kids when they get home... and not be able to even open their bags unless I have time to wash all the laundry immediately.... even the clean stuff... Doesn't matter. The smell is saturated into everything and I will cough and choke so bad that I almost puke...

Vicki - posted on 10/01/2011

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Smoking in the car is revolting. Smoking in the car with kids is evil, I'm glad it's a crime now! When I lived in an apartment complex I wished more people would smoke in their homes rather than outside. They would sit on their patios or balconies and the smoke would drift. From one particular neighbour it used to drift right into our bedroom window. Gross.

Lady Heather - posted on 10/01/2011

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The smokers I know don't even smoke in their homes if they don't have kids because they don't like what it does to the place. Ha. So gross. My sister bought a condo that had a smoking couple living in it. She figured it wouldn't bother her because she was a former smoker. Well...ewww. I went and stayed with her last summer. The smokers hadn't been there for a year. It still stank of smoke. I know I am extra sensitive to it, but still. And you could see outlines of all the stuff they had hanging on the walls because everything had been stained yellow. omg. The good news is the condo was a good deal because nobody wants to buy those places.

So yeah...smoking indoors is never a do. Bad for your kids, bad for you, bad for your real estate investments. And smoking in the car? Gross. That is also illegal here. I wish it had been when I was a kid. My parents weren't smokers but many of my friend's parents were and it grossed me out so much.

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@Marina -- if you smoke, the smoke lingers regardless of what you do. True story: my husband was a smoker when we first met. I told him I wouldn't date him if he was a smoker. He quit for me. One day, he cheated and had a cigarette in the morning (at 9 am or so). He didn't see me until 11 pm that night. He leaned over to give me a kiss and the first words out of my mouth were, "have you been smoking today?" He was STUNNED that I could still smell smoke on his breath 12+ hours after smoking, even though he had showered, changed clothes, and been at work all day. Needless to say, he never smoked again after that. It's been my experience that most smokers don't realize how bad they smell, even if they shower/change clothes/smoke outside. It's for that reason that, when I was working, I refused to hire people who smoke. It was an immediate no-hire for me. The smoke is in your lungs, people! You can smell it with every breath, which means you are breathing that garbage on your kid with every word that comes out of your mouth. Granted, it's better than nothing to smoke outside, but I guarantee you that the smoke is still with you. I get that it's hard to quit, but you obviously did it once and you can do it again.

Firebird - posted on 10/01/2011

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It's illegal here. When it passed, I said "Finally!" and I am a smoker. My mom used to smoke in the house and vehicle when I was a kid and it was horrible! She'd never even roll a window down! So I have never smoked in my house, or any vehicle that my daughter is in.

Jenni - posted on 10/01/2011

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Oh and if we're on a long trip. I wait until we stop at a rest station and get out of the car. It's not rocket science.

Jenni - posted on 10/01/2011

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I'm a smoker and I can't understand how people can't WAIT! I can run errands for 3 hours and not feel the need to have a smoke. I would never do that to my kids.... I remember how much I hated it when my dad smoked in the car with us as kids. Even before I had kids I never smoked in a car when a non-smoker was present.



Yes, it's illegal here also. I haven't witnessed anyone smoking in their car with kids but even as a smoker I would be repulsed by it. If you need a smoke THAT badly, stand outside the car while you're in a parking lot.... anything less than that is just plain lazy IMO.



I hate that I smoke, I feel it's a disgusting habit... that I will not subject my children to.

Ashley - posted on 10/01/2011

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its illegal to do it here as well ... my children have never been around smoke ... their grandparents smoke and a couple of the great grandma's smoke but they do not do it with the girls around .... the grandparents just bought a new car so they dont smoke in it anyways because its new lol but when they take the girls they will not smoke around them so we are pretty good ..... I think its terrible to smoke near a child they can't have the say of what your doing so they are the ones getting hurt ...

Minnie - posted on 10/01/2011

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It disgusts me. This falls under the right to bodily integrity. Children have a right to not breathe in toxic fumes.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/01/2011

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Erin, I am in the same boat as you. I quit for both of my pregnancies, but started up again. Yes, not smoking is best, that is kinda a bid DUH point...but smoking outside away from children and others is minimal exposure to those that choose to smoke in the car or in the house. I can air out, change my cloths and take a shower. Smoking in your home or car, the smell lingers no matter what you do....and that means every time you are in the house or car, you are exposing your children.

Erin - posted on 10/01/2011

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Rebecca, of course the best option is to not smoke lol. I quit easily while pregnant, but once she was born the cravings came back. I fought them daily for 6 months until I started again. Stupid? Absolutely. Do I wish I had never started again? Yep. But it is what it is, so until I find myself in a place where I can face quitting, the next best thing is to minimise the risks. That means not smoking inside the house or car, washing hands, and not smoking with her near me even when we are outside.

Angela - posted on 10/01/2011

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Although I agree with with you Rebecca that to not smoke is best it is not possible for some, it is an addiction that millions struggle with daily.
By far second hand smoke is much worse than the tar etc left on clothes. Also you get far less of this if you are not closed in a room with smoke vs. outdoor smoking.
If governments gave a crap about health they would make smoking illegal. In fact why the USA put tobacco under ATF is because under the FDA it would be considered highly dangerous and banned.
Until the big money makers quit buying off governments and we ban it all together their will be smokers. Smokers to me are victims too.
One has to go to the source of the problem and it is not the smokers but the pushers called tobacco companies and the governments reap the cash cow.

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No offense, Erin, but I don't really see that not smoking in your house as being a great protection to kids. If you smoke, your clothes, your body, your breath all carry the smoke into the home and contaminate the environment. So the kids are still being exposed to cigarette smoke, just not as much as if you smoked in front of them. The best bet is to not smoke at all.

Erin - posted on 10/01/2011

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I am a smoker but I sure as shit do not smoke inside my house or car!

It should be illegal everywhere. Well really, it should just be common sense.. but we all know that is severely lacking in some people/

Angela - posted on 10/01/2011

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I agree with you Karla. I wish it was ilegal here too! Then maybe parents would understand the RISK they are putting their children in!
Go outside and smoke period.
That being said I think all parents should be well educated on the subject so they understand the risk. If they have the education and still do it SHAME on them.
I remember growing up in a house full of smokers... I hated it and the car was the worst.

Karla - posted on 10/01/2011

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My view is that it's illegal where you live because it is proven to be harmful to children - it's about protecting children. I think it's very sad that some adults are apparently so addicted to nicotine that they would put their child in harms way to smoke. Today there is the alternative fake cigarettes usually used to wean off smoking, would these be a safe alternative for those so desperate for nicotine? (Is the vapor harmful with the fake cigs?)

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