Son's who talk BAD to their MOTHERS!

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 08/03/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I have meet plenty “dickheads” in my 26years, and I always wondered how do they treat their mothers if they treat women the way they do, talking so bad about them, feeling that they are only good for a few things…ect, ect..



My son is 7years old (and I will be damned if he spoke out of term with me) meaning….if he raised his voice, said the words “I hate you! Or your “Stupid! Or “U bitch!

I mean how do moms let it get that far??? How is it that their children (sons) can come to speak to them like that??? I have seen little boys cussing out there mothers in the stores and woundered are they the ones going to grow up treating women badly?? I would really like to know…..what your thought is on that



I am “training him” (my son) early how to treat women. He now holds doors for me without me asking, and he helps with groceries without me telling him to, he now knows to just do it. (and i thank him EVERY time he does these things for me)



Do you believe how a son treats his mother is a way to tell how he will/is going to treat his wife/girlfriend??





I could look it up and get “Professional opinions, but I like personal opinions better

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Krista - posted on 08/03/2010

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I think a better indicator is how he treats service personnel, like waitresses and such. There are some pretty abusive men out there who worship their mothers, and feel that no woman could ever live up to sweet mommy.

Obviously, if a boy grows up not being taught to respect his mother, it's going to be difficult for him to respect any woman. So yes, that would be a red flag, for certain. But treating mom well doesn't necessarily mean you've got yourself a prize.

Iris - posted on 08/04/2010

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My husbands mother is the sweetest person, but she was also very strict on manners. Loving, but if you forgot your manners she was right there to chew him up.
From the beginning he was always so polite and respectful.... I'm the one who does the cussing (in private). My MIL got all my respect and I love her, she is the sweetest MIL anyone could have. She taught him to respect women, not just your mama and that's what I think you have to teach your boys.
I got two girls and my husband is ready to meet and greet (not to accept) what ever little guy who has the courage to ring our doorbell ;)

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Charlie - posted on 08/04/2010

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I think it has more to do with the father figure or lack of one , most dickheads i knew ( went out with ) were mummies boys with shitty fathers or no dad at all .



The only stable , amazing man ive been out with , the father of our kids and am currently engaged to has an amazing dad , coincidence ? i think not !

Elisabeth - posted on 08/04/2010

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I have never been treated badly by a man and would never tolerate it, and as such, my two boys (17 and 12) have been raised to not treat anybody badly either.

To this day they have never raised their voice to me, never back answered and never sworn at me. It just wouldn't be tolerated and they know that.

I certainly can't imagine that they would every treat anybody with disrespect and can only hope that they will one day make loving, kind, respectful and considerate boyfriends/husbands.

I do believe it is up to us as parents (mothers and fathers) to teach our children how to treat others, but ultimately they will become the type of adult they choose to become.

Tah - posted on 08/03/2010

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and Jodi is also correct, people model what they see so alot of times if dad is uncaring, abusive, mentally etc...then that is def something else that would send red flags up..

Tah - posted on 08/03/2010

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absolutely..my mother always said to watch how a man treats his mom and i am telling you that in all of my relationships it has been true....def. something to look at...if my sons or daughter for that matter ever spoke to me in that manner i would be posting this from newport news jailhouse computer library..and its time for lights out..either that or big bertha needs to get online..

Jodi - posted on 08/03/2010

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I don't want a husband who treats me like his mother!! I have my own children, I don't need another one, LOL.

Seriously though, yes, I do think it is an indicator, but another indicator is also how his dad treats his mum. Men learn how to treat women not only by how much or little shit mum will take from the child, but also on how dad treats women, that is a HUGE influence on a boy.

So basically, as mothers, we have the responsibility to our sons to surround ourselves by men that will treat us with respect, as well as expecting it from our children.

Stifler's - posted on 08/03/2010

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My boyfriend was like that! I was like LOL I'm your Mrs not your mum! He's had to grow up very fast bahahaha.

Stifler's - posted on 08/03/2010

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When they're a little kid they carry on that way to get their way, as do little girls. I don't think it's an indicator of how they'll treat women (they usually get that from their father) but if they're not called out for it they'll think they can talk that way to people. My partner who is 24 had to be called out for how he talked to me once right before I got pregnant and it wasn't pretty.

Jessica - posted on 08/03/2010

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I'm willing to bet that how their mothers' raise them/let them treat her has a good affect on how they will treat women. I cannot believe people will let their kids talk to them like that... I bet there's a lot more going on in those situations than just how the mom is raising them though. I wonder how many of them have father figures that treat their mom like that too?

MIL, though I disagree with her on so many things lol, has raised all 4 of her sons to be respectful. They all are still very close with her and talk and treat her with respect, and as an extension they treat women very decently too. On the other hand, she tends to be a bit TOO old fashioned, to where my one BIL still tends to think that his wife should do all the cooking and iron his shirts for him (she's working on him, lol). And the other still lives at home (he's 20 though) and cannot cook or do laundry- he doesn't know how. MIL does all that for him and doesn't even insist that he try to learn for himself. Even when he complains that his laundry isn't done on time. He also can't get up for work in the morning on his own- she has to go in and wake him up. So THAT'S a little pathetic if you ask me. I'm just glad DH isn't like that at all, lol!

Sharon - posted on 08/03/2010

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It is a GOOD indicator but its not definite.

I knew ONE guy who was sweet & perfect for his mother but was a user asshole to all women.

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