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I was looking at one of the posts I had commented on and I saw the suggested post at the corner of my screen about step mothers being called "Mom". I clicked on it and realized it was from one of the single mom groups. I got to reading it and was pretty insulted about what was said. The OP said she found it simple unacceptable for a child to call any other woman mom that wasn't the woman that gave birth to them unless the birth mother wasn't in the picture. Ok. what ever. I read a little farther down at the comments and saw where another person said it was completely wrong for children to call stepmothers "Mom" but was ok for children to call stepfathers "Dad".
So basically the reason why I'm kinda iffed about the whole thing is this, I'm a stepmother. If I love my stepdaughter, take care of her when she is here for a visit, do everything I can for her, start up a college fund for her (which I've already done) and she decides to call me "Mom", it's wrong. But if her mother got married, it's ok to call her new husband "Dad" simply because he has a penis and I don't. How f-ing messed up is this?
What do you think? Is it acceptable as long as it's the child's choice to call the stepmother Mom? Or is it an abomination and all stepmothers should go to hell (just kidding here :D)?