Esther - posted on 02/04/2010 ( 63 moms have responded )
I have no experience with stepchildren (thank god) so maybe that's why I don't get it, but I was browsing around COMs and came accross a forum that dealt with stepmothers who don't get along with their stepchildren. The things these women said just made me sick to my stomach. But again, maybe I'm being unreasonable.
One mom complained that she works every other weekend and her stepdaughter comes over every weekend to spend time with her dad and she resents the girl for it because now she doesn't get any alone time with her husband on weekends. Another one was upset that they drove 6 hours to see her stepdaughter for X-mas and the stepdaughter (14) didn't thank them for driving out there. I'm thinking she shouldn't have to. Her dad should want to be with her on X-mas. Then there was the mom who told her husband that she cannot handle her 5-year-old stepdaughter spending every weekend with them so she told him he had to cut back to every other weekend or else.
I'm thinking if you're not willing to put up with a man's children and welcome them into your life as if they were your own, don't marry him. Am I way off base here?