Jennifer - posted on 01/31/2012 ( 37 moms have responded )
For those that don't know, I worked with mentally challenged children and am working on a degree to teach, so although it is not something I face as a parent, I am very attached to many of my 'kids'.
Yesterday, I ran into a 'girl' who is about 13 mentally. She is 21 years old, and will never be able to live alone and totally care for herself. Her mother and aunt share that job, and actually are very sweet people. I don't want anyone to think they are abusive, they do the best they can...
Anyway, "Shelly" was heartbroken because she had been forced to break up with her boyfriend. I talked to her for a bit, and then talked to her mom. Long story short, mom is afraid "Shelly" will get pregnant, so she will not allow her to be around any boys anymore.
I can't really say much, I'm not in that situation, and she has a point. If a baby was born, "Shelly" can't raise it. Mom and aunt are getting older. The sister has already committed to caring for "Shelly", but a baby would most likely be placed for adoption(and have high possibilities of being special needs). That would really be horrible on "Shelly". BUT, what about her lose of human companionship? Should a parent (NOT the goverenment!) be allowed the option to have a child like that sterilized? I'd never really thought about it before, but now I keep thinking about all my kids out there. Scary, cause a pregnancy would not end good for them!