Lisamarie - posted on 06/13/2011 ( 29 moms have responded )
I appologise if this debate has already come up, I did have a quick look but couldn't see anything.
So anyway, I read this article this morning. Students in Canada have been told to not "dress like sluts" to avoid being raped. Now this got me thinking, I am 23, married with 2 young childen, I don't drink so I don't go out very often but during the day I like to look good; I do my hair and make-up and choose a nice outfit and I feel proud of the fact that I have two children and still have the body I do today. (although it may not be considered perfect to everybody, I'm happy with it) I will also point out I have HUGE boobs (32 GG english sizes, not sure if there's a difference in other countries) so if I wear the same top as a woman with smaller breasts I will inevitably show more. I find it hard to find tops that cover them totally and even if I could why should I? Men look and some whistle, not one has EVER tried to grope me in any way shape or form!
I've seen men topless (that is half naked in my book) walking around in a pair of shorts, what's to say us women aren't going to rape them? Oh and we must never visit the beach either, imagine it, walking along the seafront in your two peice, thousands of men in all directions reaching out to grope you and sexually assault you! Give me a break!!
I personally think that statements like this are derogatory towards MEN! Since when have men found it so difficult to control themselves? These people are basically saying that if you walk round in a short skirt and low cut top men have no choice but to ravage you! My husband see's girls and women where we live dessed in next to nothing, is he now going to go out and rape one of them? No!
No woman ever asks to be raped; hence why they call it rape! The girls and women that have been raped can be from any race or background, regardless of age, looks, how they were dressed or how much money they had. To say this is about how they were dressed is as good as blaming the victims themselves and there is something seriously wrong with that!
This does not mean that I will be letting my daughter (now 4) walk around in next to nothing at the age of 15/16. But when she is old enough to buy her own clothes and mature enough to take care of herself I cannot and will not tell her how she can and cannot dress but she will be fully aware of the dangers that may be out there.
Yes, some men (and women) have uncontrollable tendencies and some women (and men) dress and act like wh*res.
But would changing how we dress stop women from being sexually assaulted or raped? I, personally, don't think so but I want to hear your veiws on the subject.