Becky - posted on 09/08/2010 ( 24 moms have responded )
I had TLC on TV today and "The Little Couple" was on. I don't usually watch it, but I was in the kitchen, so didn't bother changing the channel. Anyway, they are pursuing have a baby via surrogate, and it got me to thinking about surrogacy.
So I'm curious. If you were unable to conceive or carry a child, would you use a surrogate? Would you ever be a surrogate for anyone else?
Personally, I think surrogacy is a good option for some people. Certainly, for this couple, I can see why carrying their own child would not be a viable option! For me personally, I'm not sure I could use a surrogate. Unless maybe it was a family member or very close friend. I don't think I could trust someone who was a virtual stranger to me to care for my unborn child to my standards. Kinda the same way I won't let anyone but family babysit my children! Yes, I'm a bit neurotic that way! And if it was a family member or close friend, well, I'd be worried that it would make the relationship weird afterwards.
My husband and I weren't sure we'd be able to have children because I have PCOS. We never went into a lot of discussion about how far we'd go to try, because as it turned out, I got pregnant very easily, twice. But I don't think we would have pursued any fertility treatments, beyond possibly fertility drugs. We had discussed adoption, and that's still on the table for us to have a third, if I have trouble conceiving this time.
As far as being a surrogate, nope, I couldn't do it. I think it would be a wonderful gift, but not one I could give. Pregnancy does not agree with me. I'm sick and miserable for 9 months. There is no way I'm going through that and not keeping the baby at the end of it!