The gay spectrum

Merry - posted on 12/10/2011 ( 63 moms have responded )

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Where do you fall on the gay spectrum?

1-2-3-4-5-6-7-8-9-10



1 is totally straight. 100%

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5.5 is bi equally both sexes

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10 is gay 100%

I can't come up with a satisfactory explanation for every number. So this is best I think.

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April - posted on 12/13/2011

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I am in the 1-2 category. I just don't feel comfortable doing anything physical with a woman, I can think she is pretty or has great boobs or if it is porn I can say she has a nice vagina but I cannot picture myself doing her. I also cannot picture being married to a woman, although I think having 2 women around would make for a cleaner house and a bigger bank account (my husband is horrible with budgeting!!)

Kate CP - posted on 12/12/2011

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Women are pretty but they are fucking insane. I would NEVER have a relationship with one. Too dangerous. :P

Jessie - posted on 12/11/2011

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As far as the subject on men, I totally agree with Rebecca. There is a stigma there for men that doesn't exist in the same way for women. For example, I would have a hard time seeing this conversation happening so openly on a Circle of Dads forum. I think they still have fantasies, and may have even had experiences of a homosexual nature, but they just wouldn't be as likely to talk about it, let alone quantify themselves on the Kinsey scale. My man and I have talked about this quite a bit, and he agrees. He has put himself at about a 3-4 (though I wonder if that is even an underestimate.....he does idolize David Bowie something fierce, lol), but also says that that is something he would simply never discuss with his friends.
As for myself, a solid 4. It has never moved beyond fantasy for me, but it is still a fantasy nonetheless. I would also say that it has always been simply a sexual fantasy, emotionally I have never fantasized about being in a relationship with a woman. I think that would be another way to differentiate the gradient.

Mrs. - posted on 12/11/2011

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Sorry, Laura, I should have said, I was disagreeing with Liz's statement,

"I don't know; I think most women have the capacity to be bi. For men it's a whole other story."

Not you asking the question.

Now, Liz may have meant something else, but it seems she is saying that more women are bi than men and I disagree with that.

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Jodi - posted on 07/01/2012

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somewhere in the 4-6 range, I sometimes think I might be more sexually attracted to women than men...but I can't help who I fell in love with!

Jocelyn - posted on 12/16/2011

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4.5 or 5. I've had a lot of physical relationships with women but I never got the chance to have a long term "girlfriend" relationship with a woman (met DH when I was 18 lol). If hubby and I broke up, I would consider a woman fair game lol.

Corinne - posted on 12/16/2011

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I'm a 5, hubby's a 1. I think he likes it when I point out a nice ass or perky boobies ;)

Jamie - posted on 12/14/2011

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lol that was a joke....my vagina does not scare me. I could probably give myself a pap smear on my own at this point, we're so friendly.

Jamie - posted on 12/14/2011

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Krista, I beg to differ....those are the ones that always have sex with the husbands! ;-)

Krista - posted on 12/14/2011

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And if you want a sister wife who can't have sex with your husband, I believe that this can be arranged fairly easily. It's called a "live-in nanny and housekeeper".

Merry - posted on 12/14/2011

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I told my hubby I'd be a polygamist but it would be ME taking a wife, he could have a sister wife but she would be mine lol. I don't share my man. And he said he would be fine with me and another woman. :)
Completely out of the question in reality but it's fun to imagine

Jamie - posted on 12/13/2011

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I'm a 1- I am with the previous poster who said that the thought of a woman for companionship would be nice, but ZERO sexual interest. Vagina's scare me, even my own ;-) Oh hey, that description reminded me of Sister Wives. Maybe I'm a closeted polygamist. I would totally be up for a second wife with a no-sex policy for her and my husband. :-)

Jennifer - posted on 12/13/2011

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1, I rarely even get along with women as friends......is there a negative number? Lol, my husband says I hate women, which isn't quit true, but my male friends outnumber my female friends 4 to 1.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/13/2011

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I don't know where I would fall. I have had girl friends, but really "Anita Dick". Soooo....I love the beauty of a women, and kisses, and lots of stuff..... but I need a man.

Alessia - posted on 12/13/2011

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3 but if Sofia Vergara from Modern Family came calling I'd be a 10. ;)

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5.5 I am right down the middle as far as attraction goes.

But! I was in a relationship with a woman for about 5 years and us ladies are A LOT of work! I tip my hat to the men that put up with us long term!! For that reason, I would probably never enter into a committed relationship with a woman again. The only thing that's truly handy is that there is always plenty of bathroom stuff, you never seem to accidentally run out of tampons or conditioner when there are two of you buying it, the toilet seat is never up and it actually occurs to your partner to CHANGE the toilet paper roll when it runs out!! :)

Tara - posted on 12/12/2011

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LMAO Krista!!! Never thought about that until you posted, lol forgot who I was actually.
;) Hey you know I had a dream about you....

Krista - posted on 12/12/2011

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Is anybody else seeing the irony in "Anita Beaver" saying that she has no desire to have some one-on-one lady-lovin'?

Tara - posted on 12/12/2011

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I would put myself at a four. I like to fantasize about a woman having her way with me. lol I have had some minor experiences with another woman and my SO, it was fun but not as fun as the idea of it, hence it's not happened since, however if I found a woman (or lived closer to some of the women I do know) that I was attracted to both physically and mentally etc. I might be interested in something more routine or regular as a way to enjoy both sides of my sexuality, that said though, I have never had a desire to be with a woman alone, the fantasy always involved my honey.

Liz - posted on 12/11/2011

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4-5 for me, though there is quite the gap between those points on the scale. Really there should be another point after 4 that is something along the lines of 'Find men and women equally sexually attractive, frequently fantasize about women and have had multiple experiences with women, but on the whole generally settle with men."

Rosie - posted on 12/11/2011

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well, i didn't actually mean it like that, lol. i like women for friends, i feel more comfy around them for friendship. i guess i feel safer...more secure with a man. of course there are those women that could possibly make me feel secure, but for some reason that makes a woman more unattractive to me. men who give me friendship like a woman does, AND makes me feel safe? that's perfect for me, and that's why i'm married to the man i am married to. he's perfect...well almost. i can't get him to clean worth a shit, lol.

Minnie - posted on 12/11/2011

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Good point dyan. I like hanging out with men more. But women are more physically attractive. Some, most, women I know get super annoying quickly......

Me to a 'T'.

Sylvia - posted on 12/11/2011

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I think probably somewhere between 3 and 4. I'm not icked out by the idea, but I wouldn't say I've ever had a really strong sexual attraction to any particular girl or woman. I have had some very erotic dreams about women, and not felt particularly weird about it when I woke up. However, I've only ever had actual sex with one person, and he's a dude. A really, really straight dude ;)

I tend to agree that there's a spectrum and probably more people are in the 3-8 range than at either extreme.

Merry - posted on 12/11/2011

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Good point dyan. I like hanging out with men more. But women are more physically attractive. Some, most, women I know get super annoying quickly......

Rosie - posted on 12/11/2011

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4 or 5. i am more physically attracted to women, but emotinally i am more attracted to men.

Merry - posted on 12/11/2011

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I was just asking, I wasn't saying I thought men were one or the other.

Mrs. - posted on 12/11/2011

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I disagree with men being different in their leanings...I think they are just way more judged. I can't remember which male comedian said it, and I'm paraphrasing, but.."A woman can have a whole lesbian relationship and she switches teams, no problem. A man admits he sucked a dick once and he is gay forever."

I actually think this mentality of "gay forever" is passed between women friends more often than men friends. Women can be super open about their own flexible sexual desires, but they can get super uptight about men with the same preferences.

Personally, I'd say my husband is a 4 to 5 and I thank God that finally happened for me. I realized that for me, as a bi woman, the best partner sexually is a bi-male. It was a first for me and a bit of a surprise. We are super compatible because of it though.

Merry - posted on 12/11/2011

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I was wondering if we'd get any 1-2 choices!
How about your husbands? Do you think men tend to be more clean cut? Straight or gay? Is there many bi men out there? I usually hear it with women.

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Well... I've only ever BEEN w/ my ex, but yeah... not a huge fan of sex. Had SOME incredibly awesome sex at times, but I don't really miss it. I DO miss not being the only adult in the house and I do miss the companionship/friendship aspect, but at this point... I'm not willing to risk going through crap again. Not to mention I've got so many trust issues that I'd drive any man brave enough to try and get close to me screaming for the hills....

Jenny - posted on 12/11/2011

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That's sad Teresa. Is it because of your ex or did you not like sex before your marriage?

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Of course, I should've added that I currently have close to zero sexual interest in MEN too, so if you've got an asexual option on that scale... stick me there. Friendships like brother/sister and sister/sister relationships... I'm all OVER that, but anything more... no thank you. lol

Erin - posted on 12/11/2011

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Yeah I'm a 1-2. Never kissed a girl. Sometimes I think the companionship of a female romantic relationship would be nice, but I have zero sexual interest.

Krista - posted on 12/11/2011

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I'm a 4. I had a one-nighter with a woman while in university and it was a blast. Were I single, I'd probably explore that side of me quite a bit more.

But at the end of the day, I'm more into men.

I agree with Johnny, though. Boobies ARE fun!

Jenny - posted on 12/11/2011

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I'm a 5. I am with a man now but I could have just as easily fell in love with a woman. I have dated women previously and done all sorts of fantastic things with them.

Janice - posted on 12/11/2011

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I think a two. I really have never been attracted to a woman sexually and I can get emotional support from my best friend with out dating her. Although when we were in high school we would occasionally kiss on the lips just to get a rise out of the boys we hung out with (2 of which are now our husbands ;) Never really thought of being gay as a spectrum though, Just straight, bi, or gay. Very interesting way to think about it.

Minnie - posted on 12/11/2011

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I'm probably where you are, Aural. I'm married to my husband because he was there at the right time. But had I not been raised extremely conservatively and would not have been ostracized and labeled a pariah I could have seen myself with a woman. My sister is gay and very happy with her girlfriend. Sometimes envy what they have a little bit. I don't envy the backlash she's received though from a family member.

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I'm not sure about this scale. There's a huge difference between 4 and 5, imo. People fantasize about all sorts of things -- it doesn't mean they're anywhere close to acting on it in real life. It may not even be what they would really want in RL.



Experimenting in college is pretty common for women these days, too.



I don't know; I think most women have the capacity to be bi. For men it's a whole other story.

Jenni - posted on 12/11/2011

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5-6 I'm mostly attracted to women, although it's pretty close. I'd say I'm more physically attracted to women but more emotionally attracted to men. That and I've dated far more men than women. I think a lot of that has to do with social pressures, however.



I'm a little bit of a lesbian.

Stifler's - posted on 12/11/2011

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3 or 4. I've kissed women and enjoyed it, she licked my tits but there was no going down on each other and I don't want a romantic relationship with a woman. I sometimes fantasize about being a lesbian and my husband is constantly telling me i am gay but doing it is probably a whole other thing.

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