Rebecca - posted on 06/25/2011 ( 31 moms have responded )
As I've shared previously, my daughter's great-grandmother recently took her own life. She was very depressed about not being as healthy and active as she once was previous to a surgery 8 years ago. She was only in her 70's and no where near death's door....just refused to get any further treatment for her diabetes and health issues. She could have managed her physical problems easily if she had not been so wrapped up with her depression and gotten help.
At the funeral, it became very obvious that my fiance's family had chosen to tell the extended family and friends that she had passed from "complication with previous health issues". Everyone was coming up to us saying they were so sorry about her heart issues/diabetes and long standing illness...that at least she was no longer suffering. This came as a surprise to my fiance, my family and me. We weren't sure if we should correct them or just go along with it. We chose the latter.
The very sad part is, it seems that even the immediate family is now speaking in private as if this is the revised, true version of what happened. I'm not sure the denial is healthy for them, but what do I know?
So, I'm wondering, do you believe when a loved one has committed suicide, that the family should hide it from the extended family and friends? Would you lie?