Jenny - posted on 09/18/2011 ( 55 moms have responded )
I've read a few parenting books that have advised to remember that children are not little adults and to not expect them to act that way; therefore you should not try to reason with them. Keep it as simple as possible. "No. Because it's not safe." But don't elaborate.
I find however that I always slip back into reasoning (with my 2 1/2 year old) and find that it often helps, so not sure what to do with that advice.
First example that pops into my head is once when I had trouble with my son fighting to keep the seat belt off. If I keep it at "Because it's not safe." he kept trying to pull it off. But then I decided to reason with him (instead of warning him and then giving him a consequence for not listening) and talked about how if he doesn't wear it he might get a big "ouch" while we are driving if we crash; and that it is safer with the seat belt on as it will protect him. That's all it took and he was happy to leave it on.
What is your experience with reasoning and do you think its appropriate for preschoolers?