What does it take to be a good mom?
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Wow A Lorraine Bretzin! I know God, love God, and follow Him to the best of my ability (most of the time... I am human after all) and my relationship w/ Jesus Christ is EXTREMELY important to me.... as many of the women here know, I make no apologies for my beliefs, but you are being extremely rude and disrespectful. Yes, God IS love, but that doesn't mean that people that don't know Him are incapable of love or incapable of being excellent parents.
As for the OP... I do believe that love is the most important ingredient of a good parent, but it certainly isn't the only one. Being able to provide a safe and stable (as stable as possible, in some circumstances) environment, providing for your child's basic needs (even if needing assistance for this at times... at least get it done), taking care of medical and educational needs, etc... are all important. Now, because of MY beliefs, I also think the spiritual education/church exposure is critical, but I also understand and respect that not everyone agrees on that issue.
ME - posted on 11/26/2010
I think love IS enough; I actually don't buy the idea that abusive women "love" their children. Abuse requires a level of pathology and narcissism that precludes love ...but I think that parents who possess a specific set of skills, and knowledge can be extremely beneficial to a child/family.
Isobel - posted on 11/26/2010
A. Lorraine Bretzin, I beg to differ...the moment my children were born I knew love...I need no fairy tales to teach me that...and I agree with Amanda, it takes more than love to be a good mother.
Many terrible abusive mothers love their children...not knowing how to take care of them is something different.
*edited for a silly typo
Amanda - posted on 11/26/2010
No, love is not enough. I think love is important but the ability to meet basic human needs is required. a mother does not need to be rich but needs to have enough to provide shelter, food, clothing, medical care, and hygiene for a baby. can't buy that stuff with love!
A. Lorraine - posted on 11/26/2010
I won't be the judge of that. With God all things are possible. I just believe if you don't believe in God which God is LOVE, than you don't know Love. You may be a good mother in your mind and in your childrens mind. Like me I think I'm a pretty good mother....I certainly do my best, but only with Gods help when I go to him daily with my struggles. I really believe we all do the very best we can.
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