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A few weeks ago, I was shopping with 3 of my girlfriends for dresses to wear to a charity dinner (which was tonight). I tried on a Dior dress and was in front of the mirror when one of my friends said, "You need a bigger diamond on your wedding ring."
I was caught completely off guard! My diamond is small, but I never thought much of it.
She went on to say, "You'll look like a cheap girl in a Rent-the-Runway dress because your jewelry doesn't match the dress."
I have honestly never noticed the size or quality of another woman's diamond. Of course, my eye went directly to their rings--they were all 3 wearing huge diamonds. I knew one girl's husband had been in college when they got engaged, so I asked if that was the ring her husband proposed with. No, she said she had asked for a new one 4 years ago because she was ashamed of the old one!! It turns out, all 3 of my friends had requested new rings at some point during their marriage....which I find slightly amusing b/c I've been married longer than any of them :P
They continued to explain to me that my wedding ring said a lot more about me than whether I was married or not....who knew?
As I said, my diamond is very small, but I love it very, very much. I don't know what it's weight is, I think it may be something between 1/4 & 1/3 carat, and I doubt it cost more than $1000 10 years ago when my husband purchased it, but we had very little money when he proposed, and I know it took a great deal of effort on his part to buy it for me. When I look at my ring, I remember everything about that time....It was my 21st birthday and he had prepared a candle light dinner. Every few minutes he would tell me to cover my eyes and he would put a gift in front of me. I honestly don't remember what those gifts were, but he was setting up a pattern to surprise me. The last time he had me cover my eyes, he was on one knee holding the ring when I opened them...it is one of my happiest memories and I think about it every time I look at my ring.
Well, tonight was the dinner, and I couldn't resist looking at the rings on the other ladies fingers. I saw A LOT of REALLY BIG diamonds....I think I should want one, but I just don't. I don't think they are wrong for buying bigger diamonds, if it makes them happy, but I like my original ring. I love it's memories, I love thinking about the care my husband put into picking it out, I love the little flutter in my heart every time I catch a glimpse of it on my hand....I don't want to give all that up just to look like someone who "belongs" at a charity ball. I shouldn't care what they think, but for some reason I do, and it has made me wonder if all women see so much in a diamond (and I'm just totally in the dark :P).
So tell me, what is in your diamond, and what do you see in another woman's diamond?
Do you even notice the diamonds on other women?
Do you think the size of the diamond reflects how much a man loves his wife?
Do you think diamonds are a symbol of financial status as well as relationship status?
Would you think differently of a woman wearing a 2 carat diamond than a woman wearing a 1/4 carat?
I must say, I think the large diamonds are beautiful, and I would have loved it if my husband had given me one the first time around, but I'm just too sentimental to trade my little one in. Plus, I'm a sahm and I can think of a ton of ways I'd rather spend the $$! I might consider an anniversary ring for our 10 year anniversary, but even then, I wouldn't think I would like a big one because I wouldn't want it to overshadow my Bridal set....