?? - posted on 09/07/2010 ( 59 moms have responded )
My son will be 2 on October 31st. When he was born I had him sleep in a basinette beside the couch where I slept until I stopped bleeding and then he slept in the basinette beside the bed. If he was super fussy or when he was breast feeding in the middle of the night he would sleep with me. When he was 2 months old we set up the crib beside the bed and he slept in there on the nights that he went to sleep with no problems, otherwise he slept with me in our bed. When we moved into a bigger apartment when he was 4 months old his crib was set up in a different room than our bed and he started to sleep through the night there, occassionally he would be fussy and sleep with me. When he was 6 months old and starting to teeth his sleeping went to shit and him and I would either sleep in my bed or on the couch together more nights than when he slept in his crib. At about 11 months we moved his crib back into our bedroom with us and he slept in there nearly every night except the very fussy nights when he was teething and he would sleep in bed with us.
So obviously, I have had zero problems with deciding where my child should sleep. Whether it's in bed with us, in his own crib or where ever as long as we both got as much sleep as we needed.
At the end of June we moved into our first home and Gabe got his own room, which is right beside our room. We contemplated keeping the crib but decided he was big enough to have his own bed. So now he has his own bed with toddler railings and he sleeps very well in his own room 99% of the time. In the mornings he wakes up with daddy's alarm and comes into bed with me for another hour (or 2 if I'm lucky) of sleep.
With that I have gotten a LOT of responses from people in our life. Some saying he should still be in a crib. Some saying that he should be sleeping with us. Some saying that it's good that he has his own bed. Some saying we should have an attachment on OUR bed for him in case he wants to sleep there. To each of these replies I roll my eyes and assure them that our son is safe and happy sleeping where he sleeps.
What are your thoughts on toddler sleeping arrangements? Should a 2 year old be in a crib? In their own bed? In bed with mom and dad? Does it really matter? I know each kid is different and can be comfortable in different situations...... but are there any situations that you think are just plain wrong? Or not appropriate for a toddler?