Sal - posted on 04/22/2011 ( 186 moms have responded )
again this is inspired by the vegi thread.....
i was stunned by the people who said that "lying" to their kids about santa the bunny and tooth fairy was damaging to their kids as they would feel decieved.......i just don;t get it.....i do think that lying to you children bad, i mean. i don;t want my kids to be decietful and dishonest, in our house if someone is caught in a lie, big or small the punishment is usually more for the lying not the original act (for example if i am stopping tv it will be one day for the act, 2 days for the lie about it) i just don;t see the connection between santa, veggies hidden in cake, yes that is a great painting, tell nanna how much you love the t-shirt she gave you, and lying to them.....and i can't see how these small things are damaging to their personal growth, for example my son bought me the ugliest makeup purse one christmas (about 4-5 ago), it was shinny gold, but it had a little terrier dog on the zip, i told him i loved the doggy.....just recently i was getting something out of it and he said "you still have that" and i said "yes and it has grown on me, since to gold has faded it is quiet nice, i thought it was so ugly when you gave it to me" he was upset for maybe 10 seconds, then laughted saying poor mums you put up with so many crappy presents to make us happy, he got it, he didn;t feel decieved just appreciated the fact i'd done it to make him feel good......our family rule was always santa /easter bunny/tooth fairy all stop comming when you stop believing, and if you don;t believe you are old enough to join to fun of making christmas special and magic for the little ones, and no one i know has ever been damaged by this rule, and i cherish the magic of childhood...whats wrong with that......
***this isn't for those who's religion doesn't have christmas and easter but for those who say it is deception