Why is this so taboo for so many?

Constance - posted on 06/20/2011 ( 16 moms have responded )

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How do you feel about someone dressing "like the opposite sex"?

I don't think it matters when it is females dressing in "male clothing" or males dressing in "woman's clothing. I mean this is my opinion on the subject.

What do think about it and why?

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Johnny - posted on 06/20/2011

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I was pondering this issue while I put my daughter down. I was sort of thinking about how it's pretty acceptable in common society for women to dress like men, but not the other way around. I was at my nephew's grad this weekend, and there were several female"couples" (not necessarily lesbians) who went together with one in a gown and the other in a tux or similar ensemble. There was even one female couple who went as Emma and Mr. Darcy. Not a single maie "pair" and definitely no guys in dresses. (although one did wear sequined pants, lol).

I think that women's lib has lead to women feeling less confined by apparel as a definer of their gender roles. No one blinks at girls in jeans or a ball cap. But a man walking down the street in a skirt, even if its a kilt, gets a lot of looks and perhaps some nasty comments.

I remember a thread here not too long ago about how painting a boy's nails would make him less manly or "turn him gay". I think people still define what a man is by a much narrower definition. I think in a way, we're all guilty of it. My hubby can still find me sexy in a pair of jeans and a backwards ball cap, but I'd be hard pressed to jump his bones if he showed up in a pink skirt with his hairy legs showing. Eek!

Johnny - posted on 06/20/2011

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Well. I don't really care. I think men look funny in women's clothing, but that's really just because it is taboo and it has been ingrained in my head through our culture.

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Jenn - posted on 06/22/2011

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I think we are a society obsessed with fitting everyone into a box with a specific label. We all want to be able to identify what we see right away. There's a bit of a herd mentality in any society and in ours, it is that men should look/dress like men, women should look/dress like women and to do anything else is BIZARRE thus worthy of harsh judgement and criticism.

Jane - posted on 06/21/2011

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As a female I often dress in men's or mannish clothing because there are many times when a skirt just isn't gonna cut it. For example, if someone is fixing a leak in the roof a skirt is not a good idea. Since men are still the most common physical laborers, many are not going to wear skirts to work because it just isn't practical.

Another reason why most men aren't interested in dressing in women's clothing is very simple: in order to keep your skirts where they are supposed to be girls have to learn how to sit correctly, how to walk in the wind, and more. If you wear pants this is not a problem. And of course there is the whole thing about pantihose and heels, how to put them on and wear them without looking ludicrous. Most guys don't have the patience for this, nor are they interested in undergoing the discomfort associated with both.

I do know one local man who wears a solid-color tan or brown kilt to work in the summer. Short skirts do allow you to stay cooler in hot areas like here in southern Texas. He "accessorizes" with a short-sleeved Oxford shirt, a striped tie, dark socks, and work boots. However, I suspect that although he is out in the field he doesn't have to climb phone poles or dig ditches.

And yes, in the past women's clothing was designed to make them seem mysterious (long skirts hide all sorts of things so men imagine...), small and delicate (needing a "man's" protection), or even a sign of the man's wealth (long finger nails prove a man is wealthy enough that his wife never has to do manual work but has servants).

In any case, I really don't care what others wear as long as they don't display bits that are better left covered. And there are bits of the human anatomy that dangle or jiggle or are otherwise distracting. It can be less expensive and simpler to dress in blue jeans and a t-shirt in any case.

Stifler's - posted on 06/21/2011

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I think it's hilarious to be honest. When I was in school we had a slave auction and the boys all dressed up as girls for fun and half the time they would wear school skirts for funnies just generally around the school. Girls dressing in boy clothes doesn't bother me either.

Merry - posted on 06/21/2011

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It's accepted for women to dress like men but not the other way around because we all still have some part of our mentality keeping men higher then women, men shouldn't 'stoop' to the low outfits of women, but women are proud to 'raise up' to the standards of men.
It's sad really. I like dressing like a woman.

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What ever floats your boat baby..lol..No what ever makes you happy.That's all any of us want.Is to be happy and accepted by others.Esp the ones we love the most.So go for what ever makes you happy.If its cross dressing.Go for it,Have a blast.:-)

Katherine - posted on 06/21/2011

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No big deal. It was a trend a while back for women to dress in men's clothes.
It is a cultural thing, no one does it. Then you have the tribes in North America who dress like neither men nor women. They all pretty much wear the same thing. I think that's the ONLY culture I've seen do that though.
Women DO where everything a man does, jeans, sweatshirts, ties, blazers etc.....it's the men that have the problem.
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Jenni - posted on 06/21/2011

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The first time I saw a transgender in RL was when I worked at my HS job. She (as I'm sure he preferred to be recognized as) was very tall, well over the 6 foot height but dressed very modestly in church-style attire.



I did stare a bit, as it was my first time seeing a transgender, I did so discretely. I think the fact she was dressed so discretely made me realize that the flamboyent images I had been privy to through media images was not necessarily the norm. Prior, I always felt there was a certain attention-seeking to the dress. So it reshaped my original brainwashing of the idea of what a transgender is (my first impressions of transgenders was through The Rocky Horror Picture Show).



I realized then it was merely because that is how transgenders feel comfortable. I never felt like there was anything really wrong with it before, but I think I developed a better understanding on how they actually felt.

Bridgette - posted on 06/21/2011

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I admit I would think oddly of someone who dressed like the opposite sex, or in some cases could even mistake their sex, but it is their choice. I also may look funny at someone who has pierced themselves into a pincushion, or someone who wears crazy amounts of makeup, but that is only my opinion and, to be perfectly honest, my opinion should not mean that much to change who they are if they are happy with what they do.

We all may stare and be shocked at things that are outside of the norm, but that doesnt mean that they are wrong or need to be changed - different is not necessarily bad!

Desiree - posted on 06/21/2011

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In this day and age where half the time you can't tell female from male anyway why would it be odd?

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 06/20/2011

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It's odd, I'm sure if I grew up seeing it, It would be normal.
But I'm okay with it asfar as the individual doing what makes them happy and it doesn't hurt anyone

Becky - posted on 06/20/2011

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Well, I'd personally be fairly disturbed by seeing a man with his muscular hairy legs sticking out of a miniskirt and his chest hair peeking up over the top of his v-neck! I just don't think that's attractive, lol! But, where we lived in Africa, it was common for the men to wear robes, so, in a cultural context, I definitely don't have an issue with it. I guess it's just not really our culture, so it seems odd.

Constance - posted on 06/20/2011

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I agree on the husband part, and not because I have any proplems with men dressing like women. I have been with him for almost 17 yrs and it sn't his personality so it would defidently raise an eyebrow. My best friend on the other hand has never been afraid to be different. Dresses, painted nails, eyebrows waxed, other places waxed LOL, and he would special order women's shoes because he thought they looked better than men's shoes. He also has 30 body piercings, tattoos all over his body kinda like me. He defidently doesn't ooze anything other than testoterone. If he dressed as society exspected him to I would defidently check his temperature and force him to the doctors for a full wrk up. LOL

Mrs. - posted on 06/20/2011

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Depends on the person and situation. Personally, I think some women and men pull off the androgynous look a lot better than others. My tits are too big to really pull the manish look off very well. Although, I do have a strong jaw.

Constance - posted on 06/20/2011

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I agree with you in most cases I will laugh at one of my friends for wearing woman's clothing. I believe with some people they get jealous because some guys actually look better in a mini skirt than some women. LOL
Our society defidently does push he and she issues.

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