Would you get a Mommy Make Over (plastic surgery)? yes/no why?

Angela - posted on 07/27/2011 ( 312 moms have responded )

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After reading the debate on Baby Fat, I thought about how many of us would get the Mommy Make Over, plastic surgery for the extra skin, boob lift, tummy tuck etc?
Many of my friends have done so. At first I felt really inadequate when I met these Moms and they looked so great after two or three kids, breast feeding and then one day a Mom showed us her boob lift(yeah that was werid) but all of a sudden all these Moms in the group were talking of their surgeries!
I was like now I know why they look so good and i well look normal I suppose.
Do you think their is pressure to look like we never had a baby after we have them? I do esp. if you look at celebs who have babies and then are wearing bikinis and 3 months after birth. But now my friends make me feel pressured too.
I go back and forth on the surgery thing,
Cons it is expensive, I wonder if I really would want to spend the money heck I could go on a real nice vacation, put it towards a retirement home, new car etc...
The other con is I could die, leave my kids and family all for the sake of vanity.
I have not done it yet....but I do sometimes think about it.

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"It's a lot cheaper and a lot more practical to just get over it and start loving every stretch mark and saggy boob."



Well sorry to disagree with this statement here, but many women find their bodies utterly disgusting. It's your insensitive attitude that can contribute to making women feel even worse about their bodies. If you have "gotten over it" and "love ever sag and stretch mark", then great! You have apparently never suffered from the depression due to low self-esteem/self-image contributed to body image. Congrats! But you do not have the right to make another women feel inferior over her body should she have the desire to change her body image via plastic surgery. The decision to go this route is NOT a decision taken lightly either. It requires research, consultation with the surgeon to determine frame of mind and rationale for surgery. It requires the financial ability to have the procedure done.



Name calling women as "shallow" only further proves that you lack any empahty, sensitivity, and compassion for other woman. You should be proud of yourself @@.

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Ashley the truth you are debating is YOUR opinion, it is NOT fact. I never said that thinking about your appearance means thinking your bum looks big or if you look fat, nurses wear a nurses uniform so we can identify them as nurses; people wear black to funerals to demonstrate respect; business women ensure their appearance is neat and tidy because people respond better to people who are presented well - it makes them seem more competent than the one who has blue hair, it is easy to rectify clothing and hair styling to demonstrate who we are.

It is not so easy to rectify physical attributes, which we are still judged on.

Others look at us and make judgements on who we are by what they see, for example people who are overweight are perceived as lazy, people with wrinkles are seen as old, yes we can use our actions to help change people's perceptions but that is only if they give us a chance to, often first impressions stick and so people who could be the nicest in the world are not given a chance because of how they look.

Why can you not see people can care about their appearance AND the things that matter?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 08/01/2011

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I have met people that were so stunning, drop dead gorgeous, but their personalities sucked beyond compare. Those peoples physical attributes that once made them beautiful to my eye, turned ugly. I have also met people that were not estetically pleasing to my eye, but have such a beautiful spirit and personality, that they indeed physically turned beautiful to my eye. It is all about perspective. I have also met gorgeous people that are so humble, they become more beautiful. Beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder.

If it is not important how we feel about yourself, then non of our opinions or feelings about ANYTHING matter. That is how valid self worth truly is.

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Beauty is subjective, everybody has a different idea of what is beautiful and what is not. It doesn't make people wrong to recognise traits and physicality's that they find attractive, it is only a problem if it becomes an extreme fascination meaning they neglect other areas of their life for it (family or work for example).

I am not in love with my stretch marks or flabby tummy but I know they are the marks from carrying my children (the youngest is only 8 weeks old, so I'm still working on losing my pregnancy weight it's been slower to come off this time), but instead of thinking about the negative I focus on the positive, like I have lost loads of weight already or that I have lovely eyes. Sometimes though people need help to find the positives not to be called names because they struggle to. If at the end of the day surgery helps somebody find the positives then how is that wrong?

Ashley, you are wrong our appearance CAN be about who we are, it tells the rest of the world something about who we are (or who we want them to think we are) without us having to say a thing - that doesn't make us shallow and it doesn't mean we don't do good things as well!

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In the event anyone is interested in researching augmentations (or even lifts/reductinos/Mommy make-overs), this message board forum is a great place to start. It is subdivided into multiple categories to help locate a plastic surgeon, before & after Q's, finances, etc.

Also, if anyone is interested to know more details about my augmentation, feel free to send me a message.

http://www.justbreastimplants.com/forum/

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Without reading any of the replies, I have to say that for me, no, I wouldn't have a Mommy Make Over that involved surgery. It's not that my body is perfect or that I think I'm hot already....far from it. I don't crave to look the way I did before I was pregnant. I think that there is a lot of pressure to look like we never had babies but there are two facts that stand out to me. One is that I think we put more pressure on ourselves and internalize superficial things more than we should. The other fact is that I don't care who you are, what body type you have (or had before you were pregnant), being pregnant changes your body. Your body will never look the same again, even if it's in subtle ways. Maybe your hips are a little rounder or maybe that pouch never fully goes away.....and it's ok. So no, for me, I'd never have work done. Now, with that being said, I do know a few women whose bodies were completely torn up and have issues like tons of extra skin in the mid-section area. Everything else about them looks normal, but the extra skin is just hanging there. In those cases, I understand the desire to have the work done. I guess I just don't understand women who do it out of pure vanity. I mean, in the end, it's all a personal choice that I'd never choose to do.

Brittany - posted on 09/19/2011

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I have absolutely no desire to ever have plastic surgery. For one, I have been on a very strict diet and have lost almost 45 pounds. Two, I did breast feed all three of my children for two years in a row but, my breasts are not "sagging" ( i do not like that word) enough for me to really give a hoot. 3. The only person who see me naked is my husband and he is to blame for it all! LOL

After careful consideration I have made the decision to get one AWESOME tattoo. I have A LOT of stretch marks on my tummy. I do, for now, still have the "mommy tummy". To cover up my stretch marks I am going to have tiger stripes tattooed over them and make it look like a metamorphosis. Cheaper and less painful then surgery.

TO MOMMIES WHO ARE OR HAVE HAD SURGERY!!
I support you 100%!! This is about how you feel when you look in the mirror. I can get with that. I wish you all the best of luck and safe speedy recovery.

Ianina - posted on 09/19/2011

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Well, I will let you girls know after my surgery in October 11th. I'm getting a tummy tuck and a boob job :)

Rebecca - posted on 09/19/2011

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i would definately get a "mommy makeover". just a tummy tuck and lazer for my stretch marks. Ive lost all the weight after having my baby, but the extra skin makes me feel so uncomfortable. my hubby says im perfect the way i am, and my stretch marks are my battle scars lol, but its so unnattractive.

Ianina - posted on 09/10/2011

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it is a yes for me.
I'm having a tummy tuck and a boob job luckly next month. After having twin girls 4 months ago, I lost all the weight but my tummy ended up looking really bad. A few doctors already told me that won't get better. So that is why I do it.
Why feeling miserable about how my body looks when I can fix it?

Valerie - posted on 09/07/2011

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Right now, I would like a massage (by a good looking strong male masseuse), and if that were happening, you better believe I would be looking my best! ;) haha

Melissa - posted on 09/07/2011

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Exactly, Maria, and it doesn't mean that you have a low self esteem or that you're changing yourself to appease others, it just means YOU see something in YOURSELF that you wish was different, and if you have the ability to change it, go for it!! I mean, we can dye our hair, wax or pluck hair off our body, wear make-up, buy clothes that we feel flatters our figures best, and obviously plastic surgery is much more extreme, but it falls into the same category. You doll yourself up and do yourself up to make yourself feel good, to highlight your best physical features and walk out the door, or even lounge around the house, feeling good about YOURSELF. I don't "NEED" makeup or pretty clothes to feel complete - in fact I rarely wear makeup because to be honest it's just a hassle when juggling work, a toddler, being the only driver in the house AND being pregnant lol but if I could walk out of the house with a bigger butt, smaller stomach and bigger boobs and no makeup, I think I'd be walking out with a bit of a bigger smile lol

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Yea ever since i was 16 i knew i would never be big chested and i knew i would always get implants after i had my baby and they went even more down it just made it something even more important to me.

Melissa - posted on 09/07/2011

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Yeah for me, the cosmetic surgeries I would opt for if I were able to afford them have nothing to do with having had children - they're things I've wanted since my body stopped growing and I realized these things just weren't going to naturally happen for me lol. My boobs are considered big (as I'm told) because they fit into a D bra, but they've ALWAYS been saggy. Even before breastfeeding. If I could just fill them out and bring them up, that'd be great. I've NEVER had a butt, so a butt job is like #1 on that list lol. I wouldn't mind a tummy tuck just because it's extremely hard for me to lose weight (I tried to join the air force before getting pregnant and it took me 4 months of super strict dieting, 3 days a week of running 2 miles and 4 days a week of walking 2 miles every morning to lose a whopping 12 lbs) so that would just be like a quick-fix-it kind of thing. The way I see it, your body is like a car. If you want to keep it looking the way you WANT it to look, you might just have to take it to the shop every now and then! Some women age gracefully and are beautiful into their 60's and 70's, they have tight, magnificent bodies that a 20 year old would die for! But then there's the rest of us, and we weren't blessed with nice bodies, and no matter how hard we work on ourselves it's just never going to be what we want it to be. It's YOUR body. YOU should have the ability to have it look however YOU want it to, and if it doesn't come naturally, there's other options available if YOU so CHOSE to take advantage of them. Plastic surgery is a personal choice, something each person has to make on their own. Others opinions don't matter so long as YOU are happy with the outcome.

Brittany - posted on 09/07/2011

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i have always wanted a boob job even before i had my daughter.but i will finally be getting one in feb after this baby is born. anything past getting bigger boobs, no. i will be working out

Yessenia - posted on 09/07/2011

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I will get it if I have the money, cuz after 4 pregnancies and 3 c-secctions my body never gonna be the same by it self

Tara - posted on 09/06/2011

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I have been thinking more and more about this topic lately. Not because of appearances but more because of clothing. I am petite, at 5 feet and 127 lbs I am slightly, about 10 lbs over my normal weight. I am a D cup now, but go up to a DDD when I am exclusively nursing. I have had 6 babies, I have breastfed each one until they were at least 2. My upper abdominal muscles ripped apart so I suffer from diastasis and even though I have lost a lot of weight, I have an apron of flesh that is loose and wrinkly as well my belly protrudes because of the muscle separation.



Clothes do not fit me well. I can't wear jeans that are at all low cut, not lower then my belly button because the apron of flesh sags over the top, or I tuck it in to the jeans and it looks like I have my ass on backwards.



I also would do a boob lift, not really a reduction as i am curvy in the hips and butt and like my bigger boobies, i just want them to stop laying in my arm pits when i lay on my back. And once I'm not nursing, they shrink to the point of being wrinkly with extra skin so any french cut bras etc. just ended up bunching up that extra skin and looking like a wrinkly paper bag.



I'm really not happy about it.

So, my only cons right now are money. And money. I would want to be able to afford one of the best plastic surgeons around, one of the best anesthetist and the best recovery options. And I would wait until I lost the last 10 pounds of baby/breastfeeding weight so that my results were pretty much instant without further work.



Like a reward to myself for getting back to my ideal weight after 6 kids at age late 30something.... and only for me. If a guy ever suggested it to me, that would really bother me. It's for me or not at all.

Michelle - posted on 09/06/2011

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I haven't read all the replies but here's mine.
I have had a breast enlargement. After I had #2 and then found myself 30 and divorced I was feeling really down about myself. My top half was 2 sizes smaller than my bottom half so buying dresses was impossible. I didn't even fill a AA cup!!!!! Having to wear water filled bras and finding padded bikini's was terrible. I lost all the weight around my tummy and hips, just had no bust.
With my divorce payout I decided to get it fixed. I am now a D cup and have had baby #3 so am carrying a bit extra around the hips. I am now in proportion and feel great. I can wear halter neck tops, non padded bikini's and even go braless when I want.
No more "surprise" for my man when I get undressed!!!!

Cara - posted on 09/06/2011

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I don't think becoming a mom means our body is ruined. Just because it is now different than it was before doesn't mean it is ruined. Society has tried it's best to make people like us feel like crap about ourselves if we dont look perfect. It really just depends on how you personally choose to look at it. If all of us women just stood up together and said "ya know what, I have had kids, I do have stretch marks/loose skin/less firm boobs/etc BUT I am still beautiful!" maybe people wouldn't always feel bad about how they look now.

Merry - posted on 09/06/2011

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And it depends how much extra money you have! If you have just enough to choose between either college funds,vacation, or new boobies yeah I might think it's selfish to choose the boobies. But if you already have money set aside for the kids, you Dan afford fun trips for the family AND new boobies too? Go for it! I mean mom matters too,we might think our kids always come first but when kids are ok then it's still good to do something for us too. I oersonally wouldn't do surgery, but I did spend money on contacts to make myself feel prettier. Same thing, just a smaller scale.

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I guess to me, I dont think that just because we had kids us mothers have to just accept a "ruined body". And there are just some things you cant fix with a gym membership like youve mentioned, stretch marks. Those dont go away no matter how dedicated you are to the gym. And you can tighten up as much as you can, but for some that extra skin will never go away. My daughter always comes first but that doesnt mean I have to just forget about myself :) But I understand that everyone looks at plastic surgery differently and I respect that. To each their own :D

Cara - posted on 09/05/2011

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It would definitely be nice to have that nice pre-preggo body back. Be stretch mark free, no extra skin, no breastfeeding boobs, just the perfect model body. BUT, God did not intend for every single person to look exactly the same. our bodies look like they do for a reason. WE GAVE LIFE! Does that mean i don't ever look in the mirror and see "ugly" stretch marks or wish i had a more toned body, definitely not. But what I have now is 2 amazing and beautiful daughters which mean more to me than having a great body. And to me having a great body because you "self-perfected" it with surgery...doesn't count. that just means you had the extra money to throw around and blow on something stupid. It s dangerous and a waste of money. You could use that same money to start a college fund for your kids, or take the family on a vacation, or get a gym membership and hire a baby sitter and get your body back the right way!

Angela - posted on 08/25/2011

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I was like some of you before I had a baby at 40, I had my other children young, got pregnant at 18 and 20 things were a little different but not much and I went back to my size1/ 2 in no time. I did not have to diet or anything. So when I got pregnant at 40 I did gain like 25 lbs, and she was a little under 6lbs.. the rest stayed. I never lost it all. But what is worse is my skin, it is so stretched out that the extra 5 or 10 lbs is nothing really compared to it. My boobs too, they will never perk up again that is for sure. I feel like I got a granny body. So I think age does make a difference.

Melissa - posted on 08/24/2011

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I think if I were done having children and had the financial stability to cover cosmetic surgery without breaking my bank, and if I were able to find a really recommended plastic surgeon, I would. Not for anyone else, just for myself. We use makeup, hair products, buy flattering clothing, I think if a person is comfortable and able to provide themselves with cosmetic surgery, it falls under the same category as all other cosmetics (while obviously being MUCH more outrageous, extreme and expensive). There are, of course, risks, but that's for each individual to weigh on their own. I'd love a breast lift and to fill them out a bit - after breastfeeding they're a bit deflated lol. I've NEVER had a butt, but I've always been a thick girl everywhere else, so if I could make that happen for myself I'd literally jump at the chance. I'd love to get lazer hair removal - I have huge eyebrows and after the hormone changes from pregnancy I now grow some facial hair as well as hair under my chin. I've shaved my entire body (arms, legs, etc) since I was about 12 because I have extremely pale skin but very dark hair (love that Swedish heritage! lol) so if I could make it possible to go through life without having to worry about shaving again, I'd love it. I'm happy with my lips, eyes and everything else (although a few lbs could certainly go if they wanted to lol) if I could just make my boobs and butt fabulous and get rid of all this hair I'd be one happy mama!!

Angela - posted on 08/24/2011

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You know I just might do it... like said for me... my hubby will have a fit of the cost but you know he did not have the baby

Valerie - posted on 08/24/2011

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I would love to try botox soon... I am going to look into it! That's all I can probably afford for now :-/ But.. eventually I hope to be able to afford breast augmentation and a "mini-tuck"- I want the loose skin AKA- "Chicken skin" from my tummy GONE-- twins wreak havoc on the tummy skin!!

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Angela Honey, if you can afford it, do it. And MDs are doing their best to make cosmetic surgery affordable now, so much more than in ages past. You'll like yourself more, I think, if you resolve what you consider to be a problem.

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Oh hell yes. I intend to fight aging until I die ! I work hard to keep my mind and body in good shape, and I don't intend to let gravity beat me. I don't want to have anything altered (yet?), but eventually I know I will want a breast lift. My mother had one at age 50 and feels so much better about herself.

Angela - posted on 08/20/2011

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Rebecca I agree with you and thus why I have not done it yet amongst other reasons. Also not just celebrities really but my own family and friend have had it all done and I feel like they looks so good and I don't should I do it? But I don't want to do it out of pressure to look just as good, but it does not make it easier for me.

I also do not like my body and skin after having my last child at age 41 it just does not go back and I have definatley felt a self esteem hit when i look in the mirror. I use to love to shop for clothes etc and now I loathe it because everything I put on just looks awful on me. None of my old clothes fit like they use to and some are just old. I feel so yuck about going to clothes shop that I have run out of clothes to wear!

I feel like I am in a vicious circle, I hate my body and I put the pressure on myself, but I am not comfortable with surgery. So then I think I would feel better with surgery it goes on and on... I am still on the fence.

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I think it depends why you are doing it. To me, it sounds like Angela's desire for it is based on jealously re: what other people look like, rather than simple dissatisfaction with her own body. To me, that's not a reason to have surgery because I don't think that type of thinking can be resolved by the knife -- what else are you going to change to look like other people? Your hair? Your eyes? Your skin? Etc. If you are looking at it because you are dissatisfied with your body when you look in the mirror and it will make you feel better about yourself, I think that is a little different. I also disagree that exercise and diet can fix everything. Exercise and diet can't fix skin that is stretched beyond the point of no return and it won't fix a large gap in your stomach muscles. It will always be saggy and open. Personally, I've had two sets of twins and am about 4 months post-partum with the second set. The second set destroyed my skin and stomach muscles and it may not be repairable by anything other than surgery. I'm working on losing the pregnancy weight and if, once the weight is gone, my stomach is still saggy and I still have a flap of skin hanging over my underwear every morning like I do now, I will definitely be getting a tummy tuck. Everyone keeps telling me how great I look after having twins, but I can't stand my stomach and it repulses me. To me, having kids doesn't mean I should have to accept a disgusting body as a result.



I should also add that I don't feel pressured to change my body based on how celebrities looked -- I feel pressured to change my body based on how I used to look! I couldn't give a hoot about what any celebrities look like!

Dee - posted on 08/19/2011

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I myself no, mind you I wouldn't mind bigger breasts sometimes. But they served their real purpose in life and that is all that matters. I myself don't really stress over my looks. Sure somedays I wish I had the money to spend on nicer clothes, some new makeup but lets face it when I do I spend it on my children for things that they would like to have. I always know my kids and hubby find me beautiful and do not need for others to find me that way and they are all that matter to me.

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i would love a tummy tuck...and maybe some special miracle cream for my skin to make me not look like someone needs a GPS to get from one side of my stomach to the other...

i can get rid of the fat. but the stretched skin is a different story.

Mary Renee - posted on 08/18/2011

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I would have a boob lift and maybe some laser "help" for the stretch marks on my boobs, but that's all. But even then I wouldn't have boob lift unless I was SURE I was done because I want to breastfeed any future children I have.



I pretty much look the same as I did before I had kids, with out surgery. I still fit the clothes I had in highschool. I had my daughter at 23 though, so I think it helps that I was young. I was skinny before she was born, gained 40 pounds, and lost it in a slow and healthy way (moderation and exercise) by the time she was 7 months old (and I was breastfeeding so no extreme dieting!) I don't have any extra skin, but I guess everyone is different and I've heard the younger you are the easier of time you have bouncing back.

Katherine - posted on 08/16/2011

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I have thought about it as well don't think I'd ever be able to afford it but if I were to ever get a make over after having my last child * which I'm prego with now, I think I would do a tummy tuck b/c so far that is the hardest for me to lose but I am pretty sure I wouldn't do anything else.

Desiree - posted on 08/15/2011

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Nope every single bump, grey hair, wrinkle, flab I earned by sheer hard work. It is evidence of my being the best mom I can possibly be.

Veronique - posted on 08/14/2011

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Yes i think i would. I would have my boobs lifted so they look as perky as before my kids. I pretty much think that's about it.

Angela - posted on 08/13/2011

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@Nicole that is where I am at, I feel insecure and it does not make it easier when all my friends, neighbors and even family are doing it. I want to look as good as they do

Hayley - posted on 08/13/2011

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if i had the money then damn straight I would......except for the boob job part. I'd love big norks but I get a little queasy at the thought of stuffing them with a bag of silicone *shudders*

Nicole - posted on 08/11/2011

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i highly think about it. to me its both vanity and its a tool. like if there is something about you that seriously makes you clinically depressed about yourself then i consider it no longervanity and a medical need. like if you broke your nose and its all out of whack and people stare or make you feel self concious to the point where you refuse to leave your home... then my answer is yes. there are days where i am so overly insecure about some of my features that i would have plastic surgery done. not to my face for say. maybe a lift and a few lifts in other areas especially if i go through weightlosss surgery id want the extra skin taken off. in my case though it has become the medical nessisity. cause i like myself the way i am but for me it is 1 unhealthy and two feeds my insecurities to the point where i avoid alot in life.

all my life i was told to hop on a bike ride a tredmill or not eat so damn much...honestly i dont really eat and i eat all diet foods and im pretty active and have never been below 160 in my entire life expect when i was a small child. so yeah. im considering it for my health and my mental health not so i can be vain there is a difference.

Valerie - posted on 08/11/2011

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LMAO!!!!!!! When I am feeling down, I can just come to this thread and giggle! ;) Thanks ladies!!! With the stress my kids have been giving me again, it is greatly needed!!! You are all AWESOME!!

Merry - posted on 08/11/2011

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Eww matt wouldn't let anyone near his butt :) besides that's a one way road. Not a two way road like the vagina!

Stifler's - posted on 08/11/2011

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HAHA I went to a Pash party once (sex toys) and we all asked the consultant if they sold strap ons for when hubbies asked for anal.

Becky - posted on 08/10/2011

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My husband can stick it up my ass when he lets me stick a banana up his. In other words, probably never!

Merry - posted on 08/10/2011

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The new direction this thread has taken has gotten the song from family guy stuck in my head, 'they're havin butt sex, cowboy butt sex!'

:D





Sodom aay hEE!!

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LOL Valerie i think i just fell in love with you haha that shit cracked me up!!! ur awesome!

Valerie - posted on 08/10/2011

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LOLOLOL!!! OK.. yougirls are GREAT!! :) My husband (we are separated right now.. but still "seeing" eachother)- is a butt man too... although he likes very slim/slender haha... he doesn't care so much about boobs- I care about them much more than him... if I were to ever be able to afford the boob job, it would be for me LOL... Now anal sex.... HAHAHA... once in a blue moon! That is saved for special occasions (like if I REALLY want something and need a good persuasion tool LOL) ;) Maybe we need a private forum? LMAO!

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