Katherine - posted on 01/05/2011 ( 25 moms have responded )
When it comes to heartwarming parenthood stories, the ones that touch me the most are always the ones in which parents truly accept their children for who they are. A shining example of this is Dyson -- a self-described "Princess Boy."
Dyson, now 5, wanted to wear tutus and dresses all the time. His mother, Cheryl Kilodavis, was concerned initially and tried to redirect his interest toward trucks and cars like other little boys. But little Dyson knew what he wanted and finally his mother came to accept it after Dyson's big brother Koby said, "Mom, why can't you just let him be happy?"
And with that question, a new acceptance was born. The entire family now accepts little Dyson as a "Princess Boy" and has even written a book, My Princess Boy, about accepting differences that came out in December. Can you imagine if all parents were like them? What a better world we might live in then.
In what is the most touching part of the video, Dyson's father describes his son as "just like any other kid who likes to climb trees, play checks. He just likes to do it in a dress. Big deal."
He's right. It isn't a big deal. But what is a big deal is the reaction to Dyson and to children like him. More and more parents are listening to their sons and allowing them to do more gender-bending activities, whether it's dressing like Daphne from Scooby Doo for Halloween or taking ballet classes with their sister. It isn't going to kill anyone or hurt anyone if a little boy likes to wear a pink dress or glittery wings. They are pretty! Why would he not want to try them out?
This idea that it would somehow change his sexuality is concerning, but even more concerning is the notion that it would matter if it did. I happen to have the most truck-obsessed, brute of a 2-year-old son, but if he ever showed any interest in his sister's dress-up clothes, I would be happy to let him explore. He may be a boy stereotype right now, but I'd like to believe that my son can actually be anything he wants. It makes me sad that he might ever be constrained by society's ideas of what a "boy" does and what a "girl" does.
It actually hurts all of us. How would my daughter feel if I dismissed my son's interest in frilly things or told him that fairy wings were only for girls? There is an implication of inferiority implicit in that dismissal. It's the same notion that says my daughter can't love Star Wars. Why? Why should we stifle children from becoming who they are because we are stuck in our ways, rigid and holding on to antiquated ideas about gender?
We should all take a page from Dyson's family. It seems the world would be filled with a lot less misery.
Would you let your son wear a dress?