Your Post Baby "Look"

Mrs. - posted on 04/21/2011 ( 42 moms have responded )

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My acupuncturist spoke up the other day and said it looks like I finally got "my figure back". Then she told me about another client of hers that had a baby around the same time as hers who had said I had an excellent sense of style when she met my prior to the baby. I told her that was true...before the baby. She then informed me that I look just as good (body wise) as I did before, so I shouldn't be shy about dressing in more body conscience, stylish clothing now.

Now I'm starting to wonder just how crap I've been dressing since I had my child. I really don't have the budget I had to just buy myself a dress now and then that I used to. I guess that's not an excuse as I have a great eye for second hand clothing (having grown up in a Goodwill practically). Now most of my old clothes are still way too small and I've accepted that I was unhealthily thin before (and don't wish to be that size again). So, I find I'm often stuck with clothes a bit too small, way too big or way too stylish/dressy for what is my everyday. My old everyday was way different.

So, I'm wondering, what is your post-baby look? Have you figured out how to mix a bit of personal style with your casual mom clothing (if you are mostly a SAHM like me)? Have you just given up a bit? Or do you just not care anymore?

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Charlie - posted on 04/21/2011

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The best thing you can do for yourself is stop trying to fit into your old clothes , stop still wearing your preggo clothes ...buy some clothes that fit you like a glove and start feeling like a million dollars.

Krista - posted on 04/21/2011

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I'm fatty-fatty-fat-fat, so I have a hard time with my style. I was a size 14 before I got pregnant, and am now in the same boat as Carol: a desk job and a long commute. Plus, when I'm stressed, I eat. This has resulted in me creeping up to a size 16, with the odd (gulp!) 18 in some things.

My style? It's pretty basic. In the cold weather, it's boot-cut jeans, a sweater, and the same damn boots all winter long. In the summer, I wear dresses quite often -- the right-cut dress can make me feel curvy and bodacious, rather than porktacular. But yeah, jeans, a cute top, and fun footwear are my usual spring/summer/fall outfit. I wish I had more style -- as a big girl, I feel like I can't get away with casual, unfitted stuff like my slender girlfriends can (what looks adorably rumpled on a size 6 would look slovenly on me), but more often than not, I can't be arsed to put in a lot of effort.

Amber - posted on 04/21/2011

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Not a lot has changed with me either; I'm just one size bigger than I was before. I've been trying to lose those last few pounds, but I'm not obsessing about it.

I have a monthly "entertainment" allowance in the budget. So I usually pick up something new every month or two out of that money. Sometimes it's clothing or just a purse.

I've always been a person who gets dressed to go in public. It's not over the top, but jeans/capris with a nice top. It makes me feel more confident. That hasn't really changed. At home I'm fine in whatever (sweats, work out clothes), but only close friends and family really see me then.

I have realized that one nice accessory can dress up or stylize just about any outfit. That's where I spend the most money when shopping.

If I'm wearing a plain shirt, I'll grab an eccentric necklace or bright colored purse/shoes. It's simple, I'm still comfortable with my jeans on, but it makes it look stylish. Plus, the same shirt with different accessories looks like a completely new outfit :)

Charlie - posted on 04/21/2011

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nothing much has changed except my skirts arent as short as they used to be other than that I still dress the way I want , I like to make an effort everyday otherwise I feel crappy .

Body wise I was WAY too skinny before , I should have known that when complete randoms were asking me if I was anorexic but I thought it looked good at the time .

I love my body , I could lose a few more kilos but really it doesnt phase me , my body rocks ,I am healthy , it does what it needs to do , my fiance loves me and the world is good ......finally , probably for the first time in my life I am comfortable in my skin and happy with myself ....

I love my style , it changes daily but I love my rocker / 50's gear , I love black skinny jeans and my slashed up pantera T shirts , I love getting all girly and putting on my platform heels .....I love expressing myself through style .

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Mrs. - posted on 04/24/2011

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You know, again today I really tried to use the accessary advice I've heard here and I looked pretty nice this Easter Sunday.

My birthday is on Thursday and I just got some money from my mother in law as a present. I think I'm going to go out and buy a nice necklace, scarf or hat. I wouldn't normally spend it on myself, it would go to bills or something. Nope, I'm gonna be selfish and get myself something nice.

Sal - posted on 04/24/2011

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oh i don;t have home clothes and street clothes, i can have visitors pop in or run out with out having to change, i buy a few new things when i see them and just wear them to death then replace them, so it is always pretty new looking, but i do rotate the same few tops and jeans until i find i new fav....the scarves and accessories keep me looking a bit different each day

Sal - posted on 04/24/2011

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i'm feeling this post way too much at the moment.....i went from working mum living on the beach going out with my girl frinds all the time with my nice office clothes, beach gear and a few going out things (i had a great friend the same size and we swapped all the time) to being a pregant mum of a teen in the HOT bush to a stay home mum and wife to a new bub, a teenager, and pregnant almost straight away still in the heat , just got my self comfortable post babies with what to wear in that climate, dresses amd great tops and shoes, only to move to the cold, and i have been here a year and i;m still not confident in dressing here, i have to wear layers which i am getting better at, but seem to never get out of jeans, a have a few good black and white tops which i mix and layer with singlets, cardies and pretty scarves, ususally in ballet flats, but for winter that is now starting i am moving more into boots (i got nice ankel boots at the op shop last week for $4) and converse sneakers, i guess i look alright most days, i am big boobed and big bummed and would like to lose a bit of weight but to be honest it is more for health than my appearance, i try and do makeup even at home, not over the top but clear looking skin and mascara and lippy...my hair looks ok which is lucky as i do bugger all to it,it is very straight and i just have it longish and out,

i would love to get my electic warbrobe back, but the nice beachy stuff i have just isn't working here, and as i love to collect odd bits when i find them it isn't a quick process,

Jocelyn - posted on 04/24/2011

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Oh and body-wise, I'm looking better than I did in high school.
Ok, you can all hate me now :P lmao.

Jocelyn - posted on 04/24/2011

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It depends on the day lol.
Most days I have a distinct pin-up look; bright red lipstick, a big flower in my hair, straight blunt bangs, a knee length skirt. Other days I rock my Nirvana t-shirts and a pair of skinny jeans with converse's (with fuchsia lipstick instead of red lol).
Really the only things that I've had to change/sacrifice are corsets, petticoats and 5 inch heels. I still wear them, just not daily. Trying to play at the park while wearing said items doesn't work so well :P I dress a bit more conservatively (no really lol) than I did before.
They ONLY time I leave the house in sweat pants is when I'm sick and going to the clinic. And even then I have to be REALLY sick.
Oh and I'm still pierced and tattooed. More modifications show up every couple of months ;) hehe

Mary Renee - posted on 04/24/2011

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For some reason this post stuck in my mind and I had to rethink my answer.

While I can still fit in my old clothes and still like to look nice (even if I am a stay at home mom) there is a subtle difference that I am now aware of.

I think before I had my daughter the goal was always to look sexy and cute. I was a bartender and "sexy" was how I made my money. I wanted everything to be tight and form fitting and make guys want me or else I didn't want to wear it. Even my sweat pants had to hang on my hips just so.

I think now, I just want to look beautiful and I don't care if I look sexy. In fact, I don't really WANT to look sexy. I want to look attractive, but not sexy. So I'll be more likely to wear a longer length skirt that I would never have worn before. I guess it's not that I don't care about looking good, I just don't care if people want to have sex with me anymore! I'm more like "Don't have sex with me! I don't want your baby" hahaha. Motherhood (and probably age and maturity) has definitely made me care less about sex. I mean, I still love sex, but I don't need to have sex with anyone, sex leads to baby and that leads to nine months of heart burn and weight gain and then years of no sleep and exhaustion while you sit around and watch basketball and drink beer. So yeah, I can do with out the sexiness now.

Janessa - posted on 04/23/2011

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Wow this post is encouraging because I now know I am not alone. I lost my baby weight at like 6-7 months after my son was born. I gain couple pounds over the winter living in a province where there is no ski hills. But other then that I am a size 2 but my boobs are not what there used to be I told my partner he should saved up to get me a breast implant because I used to be a big C now I am a small C and my boobs are hanging low. Like kids say do your boobs hang low ? yes there do :( We brought a house in the fall and all of our money is going to do renovations and I have no money left over to buy myself clothes.People always used to ask me where I brought my clothes mostly Guess,Max, Zara,Bebe,Abercrombie and Fitch and Macriano now I cannot afford anything like that now. But I am trying by shopping at winner because there have cute designer stuff for cheap and living in a small town its not like anyone notice what you wear.

Mrs. - posted on 04/23/2011

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Jen, I do understand how hard it is to exercise while on pain meds. I have to force myself three to four times a week to push past it. I do it because it actually naturally helps produce the endorphins that combat a lot of my chronic pain.



I had to start very slow after I gave birth. I couldn't really exercise before I was pregnant. I was too sick and frail. Pregnancy and the weight helped me gain muscle and energy. I had to start at ground zero. Twenty minutes of cardio a couple times a week, mostly it started with a brisk walk. Then I started with small free weights, they helped with my pain big time. I thought it would make it worse, but it did just the opposite.



Sorry, if it is presumptuous on my part to tell you what I did. I just know how much it improved my pain...weight loss aside. Cause who really cares if you are skinny and sick as hell. I wouldn't trade place with the body before I was pregnant even though she was a size 2.



Anyway, I really made an effort today to go out and wear what I want. Take advantage of my old stuff and new stuff. I just wanted to stop waiting for some magical day when I had it all together as a mother to dress like it.



I felt great today and got a lot of compliments. I dropped my fiance off at work and had one of the girls look at me like I'd dyed my hair purple. Then she said. "You look amazing today. Are you doing something different?"



I told her it was just that the weather was nice.

Mary Renee - posted on 04/23/2011

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I had to write down goals for myself when my daughter was 2 months old because I was getting really depressed that my pre-mommy self was lost forever and I no longer existed except as someone else's mommy. I wrote down that I wanted to get within 5 pounds of my pregnancy weight and I wanted to get up every morning, shower, brush my teeth, and to wear clothes that made me feel stylish and good about myself. (I had other goals too, but those are the relevant ones)

I'm now back to my prepregnancy weight, and at 24 I find that I'm young enough to continue to wear the stuff I wore before I had a baby. That means mini skirts and tank tops (I live in Hawaii) and I look good and feel good.

However, before I got back to my prepregnancy weight, I took my ass right to Ross. If you don't have a Ross, try Marshalls or TJ Maxx, or even the sale rack at other department stores. I got myself some nice new jeans for $10 that fit my post pregnancy hips and some empire waist blouses that accommodated my left over belly and allowed me to breastfeed.

I feel a hundred times better about myself when I dress well. Even jeans and a t-shirt can be cute. Throw on some nice earings. Coordinate your hair accessories. You can look good post-baby with out spending money. I live in Hawaii so there is a very casual vibe here already.

Kimberly - posted on 04/23/2011

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i know with me i am in my pj's most of the week then the weekends i dress up when my husband is home and i have company lol. my neighbor is letting me know how i can just make the simple things make the biggest changes with how i feel. strieghten my hair take a shower. trying to find clothes that fit my new body is really hard i dont think i look good in anything. but my husband is very supportive and trys to tell me i always look good lol

Tinker1987 - posted on 04/23/2011

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the number on the scale is less then the day i found out i was pregnant,so i lost weight however my body does not look the same! i feel my ass got flat and my gut sticks out. i havent really given up but im in a rut about it.

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I'm sure your acupuncturist is a lovely person but that really was a backhanded compliment.

Me, I gained 100lbs while pregnant and have not been able to get rid of it. NOw I just accept this is me and this is what it is. (Plus it's hard to exercise while on pain meds.)

Rosie - posted on 04/22/2011

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well, i'm not as skinny as i used to be, so my style has changed to cover up the saggy belly. after my first kid, i went back to normal, my second i got down to prepregnancy weight, but went from a size 4 to a size 8. after number 3, i just have given up. i still have 20 lbs to go before i am prepregnancy weight, and it just won't come off.

i do find myself in t shirts and sweatpants more, but i think that's because i work less than i did before. i have to be comfy when i'm at home, lol.

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Did anyone else have hip issues after birth? After I had J, I dropped back to my regular size after just a couple of weeks (except the big boobs from bfing) but my hip muscles are no longer symmetric. My left side looks fine, but my right side has a dent near the top, like the muscle slipped down. I don't have any pain from this or anything, but it is rather noticeable if I don't wear the right jeans--Rock Revival brand jeans are the only ones that kind of hide it, and even then, I have to make sure I have on something to detract attention, like a scarf, hat, or necklace. I also wear my belts with the buckle over to the left to offset it (I'm glad that is in style right now, but I'm going to be sad when we go back to centered belt buckles).

Would that bother anyone else? It's been really bothering me lately. It has become more pronounced this year and I'm worried about swimsuit season.

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I've always been very skater, sporty, beachy, jeans-are- dressy-for-me, so since having Roxanne not much has changed except I can't fit into the size 6 in my closet.

Merry - posted on 04/22/2011

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After Eric was born I went back to my previous size quickly. Well, weight wise. I had huge boobs with the milk and my hips were forever widened.

So I bought some new shorts that fit better and I tended towards longer shorts as opposed to the tiny short ones I had pre baby. I had Eric at 20 years old and I look far younger then that so I attempted to build a more mom appropriate style. Also I had to buy a few more shirts, most I had were long enough to make it over the super boobs, but some were far too short. So I bought some nice mommy looking shirts at kohls that were long enough to fit well. Over winter I was able to fit my pre pregnancy pants and by then boobs had settled down to a normalish size so most my winter shirts fit as well.

Now I'm pregnant again so it's back to my pregnancy style which is whatever fits! Lol sweat pants currently cuz I'm due in 9 days and it's all I have left :)

Amanda - posted on 04/22/2011

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Im one of those moms other moms hate. I leave the hospital in my normal clothing. My style doesnt change at all as I am able to wear all the clothing in my closet within a week of having a baby. I have been a stay at home mom for 13 years, so my casual mom clothing isnt actually casual, I learned about 9 years ago theres no reason for me to be wearing casual clothing, that my at home clothing should be my street wear clothing also.

Jenn - posted on 04/22/2011

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I don't dress really different now, other than wearing a different size - but I'm working on losing some weight. I actually gained all this weight AFTER my kids were born, so it isn't baby weight - it's just "stuff your face full of food every night and be a lazy slug" weight. I definitely don't have money to spend on clothes like I used to, so my wardrobe may not be as large as it used to, but my style hasn't changed.

Tara - posted on 04/22/2011

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It takes me awhile after a birth to start feeling like myself again. I have always dressed casual except when I was "office Tara".
Jeans, a t-shirt and loafers is my wardrobe of choice.
Now that said, I put a little personality into my look, with a nicer shirt and a silk scarf around my neck or tied as a belt around my jeans. I'll wear a nice necklace or some bangles or nice earrings.
My look is what I call "Confident Casual" I know I look good, so I can pull of perpetual casualness. :)

Minnie - posted on 04/22/2011

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Nothing's changed. I dress boooooo-ring. What not to Wear would hate me. Jeans and a long-sleeve shirt every day. Shirt is either unprinted or button-down. Blah. I have a pair of nice dress pants hanging in my closet when my husband and I go out and they're only worn on those occasions.

Mel - posted on 04/22/2011

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kind of not really care anymore since I dont realy go out. I dont even have itme fo rmakeup anymore, if I knw someones coming over I try to dress in something half decent

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I haven't changed..apparently i still look 16 at 26 and i do not look like i have ever carried two babys to term and gave birth.lol..my frame is tiny..I'm 5foot and 7stone.

My man had to get my ring made as i have a childs ring size lol.They could not believe it in the jewelers.

I am such a proud mommy.I had to get my 6 year old her meds it was for an antibiotic. I was asked 3times how old is my daughter.As the look at me and don't expect me to have a child at an age for this antibiotic.As there thinking I'm only 16.

I swear its so annoying at times but i always smile and let it go.I was told when i was 16 i looked 12 lol.I guess when i am in my 30's and so on i will be thankful for the comments.If i go shopping for my girls i get the good aunt spoiling them.

As for my style i wear jeans with nice tops and half cardigans etc or i go the leggings and long tops..others like my style.I change it up a lot to.I love my hair.My friends wish they had it so thats nice to hear.:-)

Shannon - posted on 04/21/2011

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My style is... me lol I wear jeans with a cami and a sweater or a nice top and I generally ALWAYS wear heels, i LOVE shoes, I probably have about 30 odd pr in ranging heel heights all the way up to 5 ^-^. If i happen to be wearing some track pants or something and need to run to the store for something i will slide on ballet flats, quicker than i will my running shoes ( i try to avoid those, the only time i wear them is when i actually jog :-P) I will wear the occassional skirt or dress but i tend to stick to jeans and capri's, my shoes are my splurge and as long as my toes are painted i am happy in heels and the hubby likes what they do for my butt ;-) lol

Charlie - posted on 04/21/2011

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Absolutely find some great pieces and get them altered , altered clothes are the best fit and it's way cheaper if you buy second hand or vintage and have the skills to do it yourself or know someone that can do it for you , I spent the morning in the second hand store yesterday and found some great clothes !

Mrs. - posted on 04/21/2011

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Yep, I actually had to have exact measurements done before my baby and my rib cage is bigger! It never went back and my lil girl is almost 2. WTH?

Elfrieda - posted on 04/21/2011

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Hey, me too! I can understand that my hips got bigger - I pushed a baby out of that puppy. But my ribcage? What's up with my shirts not fitting anymore? It's just not right. Who do I complain to?

Mrs. - posted on 04/21/2011

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I agree Loureen. Unfortunately, I might be a bit naked if I did that right now. Might have to make due with second hand stuff that might not fit entirely right. I'm also thinking it might be cheaper to take some of my old vintage pieces and take them out/alter them in the chest (my boobs got bigger). Might just be better than buying all new ones.

Elfrieda - posted on 04/21/2011

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I used to look pretty put-together. Now, not so much. I still am hoping that I'll fit into some of my prebaby clothes, so am reluctant to buy too many more right now. Lately I've gotten better. (the baby is 16 months old, it's about time!) My big dressing-up thing right now is putting on a long necklace over whatever I'm wearing. Hey, it's a start!

Kate CP - posted on 04/21/2011

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I mix in funky jewelry (usually the stuff I make) and I play with my hair if I have time. But I do admit I'm usually a jeans and t-shirt kinda mom. I've finally lost a whole dress size so I'm even smaller than I was before I got pregnant! :D
So now I do like to wear skirts and dresses when I can...I like feeling pretty. :)

Sneaky - posted on 04/21/2011

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I don't do the make up thing but I will usually try to make the effort to wear matching clothes :o) Not the last two weeks though - kids and I have had the flu so i don't freaking care how daggy I look in my track pants at the supermarket!

Jenn - posted on 04/21/2011

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My body is not the same, partly because I nursed two kids over four years and also because I am nearly 40. I weigh the same as before children, my body is just...different. My tiny waist is no more but it is actually better that way, no more cinching clothes at the waist! I am healthier now. Four years after my second baby, I feel sexy again. I workout, eat healthier (mostly because my kids eat healthy!) and found a style that works for my body shape instead of forcing my body into trends that don't flatter.

I had to relearn how to love my body ...and that started with loving who I am and the amazing gifts my body gave me with my children.

Charlie - posted on 04/21/2011

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I still love to shock my mother haha .

And Nikki it's only been recently I've had to take a good hard look at myself and evaluate what is worth stressing over and what isnt because it was getting to the point that everything was eating at me and I was spiralling into depression , when I looked at it a lot could have been avoided , my body being one of the biggest things Ive had to struggle with since forever ....too fat , too skinny it was never good enough but now I just feel like , hey Im healthy , I kick ass at the gym , I can outrun my kids and keep up , I gave birth ...twice and fed them , I have complete satisfaction in my sexual self ( I know what works best for me )

There are still things I would like to change , my body isnt perfect but I am happy with it , as long as I am healthy thats all that matters to me now and as long as I can avoid any negativity including stuff I gear towards myself then it's all cool .
Im just sick of being my own worst enemy , it's time to start looking at the good and appreaciating everything I can do and have done with this body .

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My body is about the same as before, but my boobs are not as perky, so my old halter tops have been abandoned for more bra-friendly tops.

I was tom-boyish before I had my son, so I didn't have much style to begin with, but at some point in his infanthood, I went through a major self over-haul and got my girl on.

Obviously, as a mommy, I don't have a lot of time or $$ to put into it, so I usually pair up dark jeans and a fitted tee for my basic canvas, then add a funky belt, chunky necklace or summer scarf, and a cute hat. I also have fun with my earrings and shoes.
Accessories are a lot less expensive than clothes, so I can get more looks for less $$. They can also be mixed and matched more easily, and work to dress the same shirt & jeans way up, or way down.

Johnny - posted on 04/21/2011

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I was in way better shape before my daughter. And I was doing well losing the pregnancy weight until I went back to work. Then it plateaued and started climbing. Now that I spend 8.5 hours a day at my desk (no one where I work leaves their desk for lunch, even for a walk) and an hour in the car commuting, there's not really time to exercise. I'm actually eating better, but I've got little opportunity to burn calories. 2 days a week of workouts is not going to cut it. If I was going to lose weight, I'd have to go on a starvation diet, and I don't want to set myself up for future failure using that approach. I want to know that one day in the future I will be able to lose it and keep it off. Frankly, I'm hoping to have another baby so I can go on mat leave and lose weight again properly. Then I'll look for a new job.

So my style of dress is either work wear, dress pants, suits, the occasional skirt or on days off its a t-shirt and jeans. I don't really go anywhere fancy, certainly not enough to spring for a new outfit. It's rather low on my priority list.

Joanna - posted on 04/21/2011

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I don't have a style. I've always been a jeans and tee girl. I used to be more rebellious and colorful before kids, but I was 20, I was allowed. Now I'm almost 27... I don't try to look younger, I stick with nice jeans and a top according to where I'm going... Plain colored tee for errands, a nice blouse for dinner or functions. I own 1 nice dress I have worn to a couple weddings and celebrity event, but that's it.

Jessica - posted on 04/21/2011

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My look needs updated badly. I'm not too bad figure-wise, though I could tone up a bit (baby is 2.5 months old, my older one will be 2 in June). I know I was probably too thin before kids but when I look at pictures of myself back then, man do I wish I could look like that again! I'm 5'3" and am now 116 lbs; pre-babies I was 105 on a fat day.

I seriously need new clothes though. I am so poor lol I can't go buy clothes, unless I want to cut into our already-too-small grocery budget. And there are usually other things that are already cutting into the grocery budget, so I don't want to "waste" my money on clothes. But hey, that's why I'm looking for a job!

Nikki - posted on 04/21/2011

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I love your attitude Loureen! Only wish I had the same.

Mine is pretty crappy to be honest, I still have weight to lose and up until the last few months I haven't really given a dam about how I look. I have been in SAHM mode.

Do you want to know what I am wearing right now! lmao, this is so embarrassing, I am thinking of the what not to wear thread..... here I go. Track pants with bleach stains, no bra, long sleeve maternity top with one of those cut off sleeve jumpers and crocks!! yes crocks! In my defence I am in house work mode today! We are going out later to visit some family, so I will have a shower and get dressed!

We moved and I didn't know anyone, which meant I wasn't out in the social sense so I haven't made an effort. Plus my priorities when shopping these days have dramatically changed, used to be designer dresses, shoes and handbags, manicures, facials and make up... now kids clothes, toy sales and healthy food for baby!

I have made a little progress, I have lost 9kg in the past couple of months and I managed to buy myself a nice outfit which actually fits. I am going to get my hair done next week for the first time in 12 months and try to keep motivating myself to continue with the healthy diet. So I am in the middle at the moment trying to find my way out.

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