Yummy Mummies?

Tara - posted on 05/20/2011 ( 48 moms have responded )

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Are you a yummy mummy?
Do you feel there is a certain "look" for moms to adhere to?
Do you think that once you are a mommy you should no longer look too yummy?
Personally I think of myself as yummy, so does Steve. And I don't adhere to any kind of "mom" look. However I have seen some women (moms) who could tone it down a wee bit. For instance I watched a mom at the park yesterday who had on a micro mini in leopard print, (no problem with that bit) but she had on a see through lace bustier with gold stars on her nipple area, the top was actually cut to the belly button and you could see her belly ring. She had on thigh high boots with 4 inch heels. And she was with 2 kids. She sat on one of the picnic tables filling her nails and talking on her phone while her two kids played.
I normally don't care at all how someone dresses or not, but when I saw the gold stars on her titties I thought "holy carp, maybe she's an ex stripper who just can't get out of the fashion sense imposed on her during her career."

So are you a ymmu mummy? And how do you feel about Yummy Mummies or worse the other term we all love to hate: MILF....
I was called a milf once by a 20 year old dude when I was 34. I had to ask what it meant... how embarrassing.

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Amanda - posted on 05/20/2011

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Personally I love it when a man takes a double look, to me its a compliment, especially since I don’t go out of my way to look good (unless I am going to a club). I almost never wear make up, I am a jean and t shirt girl, if I’m feeling dressy I might add a leather jacket to the outfit and straighten my hair. Like Ashley those who dont know me personally are shocked to hear I have 3 children, and then even more shocked to hear I have a teenager. I then get the oh a teen pregnancy? HAHA I always answer with a smile "Aren't you cute, I was 21 when I had my first child".

I also get a kick out of woman checking my husband out, always puts a smile on my face, because I am proud of my husband. Not just his looks, but his intelligence, empathy for others, and humour. I always think to myself, that’s right I picked a great one.

I have been where some of you mothers are at, to tired to worry about who’s looking. I was a single mother of 2 for many years (from infant/toddler to school age). I thought I would never get time to even shower daily, but parenting does get easier, and you do get more time for yourself as your children get older and more independent. And the yummy mommy will slowly start peaking her head out of the little black hole she’s been hiding in since children scared her away. :0)

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I would love to be a MILF. I don't think you need to dress like a slut bag to achieve that. I have about 26 lbs left to lose, and i can be back in all my cute close. As long as I am a MILF to my husband, that is great. If others look, it just boosts my self esteem. I think if you feel good about yourself, you are a yummy mummy.

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There's no dress code.If you wear it well, your a yummy mummy in my eyes.I see all different types of moms dressed in there OWN style and still look damn good.I see moms in all shapes and sizes look good and carry themselves well.:-)

I still have my tracksuit days, pj days, bad hair days, i could go on.lol..thats all part & parcel of being a mom, being human for that matter.

Mrs. - posted on 05/20/2011

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I don't know, I think it is great when people think my daughter is awesome, but I still like to get thrown a, "You're hot." now and then. I know my daughter is awesome, me looking hot is questionable on some days.

I've been struggling with this one. My figure looks pretty nice again and I'm still good looking for my age, it's just I'm not sure what is appropriate for me to wear and what isn't.

I used to have a pretty set sense of style. A kind of harder artistic look. This sometimes included wearing short skirts or body conscience clothes. Now, I'm a mom and a couple years older, a lot of it doesn't feel right.

When I'm by myself, I get looks and people checking me out. However, this sounds pompous, but...I was a very good looking younger person, who was in a business that is very much about keeping that image up. Now, I'm pretty sure that is gone for good. Part of me is relieved, part of me feels abandoned.

I heard someone say to me once, "Nothing ages worse than a beautiful woman's ego." I think, at least in my case, this is true.

Don't get me wrong, I still try. It just sometimes seems to me, pointless. However, the perfectionist in me will not stop keeping fit, dyeing my hair and putting on makeup outside of the home.

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I don't wear make-up.I wear nice tops with jeans as there my favorite to wear.I am so busy, but its lovely to receive compliments from both sexes.I feel great with how i am, i don't dress up.Well for an occasion i will but day to day.I am a plain Jane.So to be told i look very pretty is awesome.My hunny tells me all time but its a wonderful compliment to hear from others to.Just once in a while.

I don't show my chest off..im very classy and very elegant.As I have been told.lol.:-)Now i am pretty but im no JLO lol.

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Sarah - posted on 05/19/2012

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i wear some sexish stuff when out on the town
tho doubt i woudl wear a see thru bustier with nipple coverings, tho have worn tops that are slightly see thru in certain lite and nipples have shown
i have been labelled a milf and yummy mummy by my boys and mates!!! i freaked first time about MILF,. and i do get attention from young guys and very young guys lol even when dressed conservatively. but boys love boobs and legs anyway and cant hide them lol

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I put forth effort to look nice, and I'm thin with nice muscle tone....I guess I'm "yummy" lol

I wear light makeup everyday, and make sure my hair is nice, but I don't spend hours on it.

As for my clothes--nothing "skanky", like tight jeans or cleavage boasting, skin tight shirts. I pick well fitted jeans or tailored shorts with a fitted top or a cute blouse. I dress it up with hats, summer scarves, and jewelry because we don't have space for me to have tons of clothes.

Constance - posted on 05/31/2011

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I am a yummy mummy!!! After almost 17 years, 4 kids, and our ups and down my husband still gets turned on. If I am at the beach the younger guys still whistle. I pretty much have my body that I got after my first baby. So I am happy about how I look. My weight has been up and down alot after my kids so to hve it back to a healthy place makes me beautiful.

Mechelle - posted on 05/23/2011

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I dress differently than I did before I had kids. I feel that some of the things I wore were inappropriate and I wouldn't want my kids to see that, or even when they are older, to be embarrassed by it. I do not dress like a granny, I still keep somewhat a sense of style (if I can get the energy after dressing both kids to find a nice outfit other than pj's).
Put yourself in your kids' shoes. How do you think they would feel if their mother walked around like the lady you described above? Everything we do leaves impressions and teaches our children, and do we really want our daughters thinking they can dress in see-through blouses with star nipples? My daughters would never leave the house!!!

As moms, we are role models and need to set a good example. So while it is good to keep a sense of you and style, we still have to be appropriate. We can still be yummy while being a mommy.

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I consider myself a Yummy Mummy. I wear tight jeans and low cut tops. When my hubby and I go out I wear sexy but tasteful dresses. But I don't dress trashy.

Stifler's - posted on 05/22/2011

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I was due 5 days ago hahaha. I just wear what I used to wear before having Logan until the maternity clothes. I never wore short skirts or short shorts anyway or shirts with lots of cleavage. I wore less makeup and jewelry and stuff though (because Logan would spew on me or grab it) and we made a point of doing things like going to the show and shopping and visiting people as much as we used to.

Rosie - posted on 05/22/2011

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i want to look good for as long as i possibly can. my body after children is somewhat prohibiting that, but i do make an effort. i alwyas have makeup on, and i refuse to wear mom jeans, and stuff. i do admit i find myself in t shirts alot, but i can rock a t shirt pretty good, lol. i make that shit look good!! lmao!!

Tara - posted on 05/22/2011

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Oh and for whoever asked, the kids called her mom as in "Mom can you come and push me on the swing?" and
"Mom my shoe is undone"
So yeah she was the trashy hooker looking mom at the park.

Tara - posted on 05/22/2011

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@Jenn,
I have managed to escape the grey hair due to genetics I think. My dad's side of the family is Finnish and they (his family) don't start going from their blondish hair to silvery grey hair until their forties. My dad has silver white hair and I hope that's how mine goes, I'll leave it natural if it goes like his.

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Eeww, at the park in full on hooker gear is just nasty. Save it for the club, not for the kiddy park. A woman can be sexy without being trashy and trampy. I take care of myself, like to look good which makes me feel good about myself. It's very nice when other people notice. I was going to the tanning bed, getting ready for vacation last year (or the year before?) and this boy who worked there talked to me every time I was in. I thought he was just a talkative, sweet boy...I'm a talkative person, too, so when someone talks to me I don't think anything, I don't think it's bc they think I'm hot....so anyway one day he walks me to my car (my mom-mobile van fully equipped with 2 carseats, sun shades for the babies, and a 'baby on board' tag...which has since been traded for a more milf friendly Escalade) and says 'Oh man, you got stuck with your mom's car today!'. I said 'Noooo, I AM the mom'. The look on this kid's face was priceless. He said he thought I was in college which was the nicest compliment EVER! I went on to tell him that I'm married with 2 kids and am 35 years old (at the time). Then everytime I went in to tan the girls would tease him and say 'Joey, Mrs. Hernandez (like Mrs. Robinson) is here!'. As a side note, I dont wear my wedding rings to the tanning bed bc I'm afraid ill forget them when taking them off to put the lotion on.

There are also days when I just can't pull it all together and just do the basics....baths for all of us, clean undies kind of day lol. Nothing unnecessary. But if I'm going out I do try to pull it together.

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I was thinking the same as Emma, I wasn't all that bad before I got pregnant again and now I am a little like ten ton Hessy. I would like to think that I will still make an effort once I have had the baby - I certainly won't leave my house in jogging bottoms unless I am really ill or going to the gym :-)

Emma you've gotta be due soon surely?

Tyrae - posted on 05/22/2011

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I'm skinnier now than I was 2 years ago (waay prepregnancy, as my daugther is 6 months). I would call myself a yummy mummy. My hubby thinks I look amazing and that's all that matters :) I don't dress any specific way, whatever makes me comfortable mostly. Around the house on off days I'll wear the sweatpants baggy shirt thing. When it's hot out and I'm out and about I'll wear capris and a tank top. But that's what I've always worn, my style hasn't changed since I became a mom, and I don't think it will for a while. Although I could probably do with a different hair-do, but my daughter likes to pull my hair when she can get her chubby little hands in it, so it's mostly up in a bun...

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I like to look more on the sexy side when I am not at work! It does not mean I look trashy either. My bra straps or thong don't peak out. I do my hair and makeup when going out and simply like to look good!

But, just to play devil's advocate in refering to the lady at the park. How do you konw she was the mom? Maybe she could have been the aunt, relative, or simply a friend of the family who agreed to take the kids to the park. I'm jsut saying that it happens to my brother every now and then. He's a 42 year old single guy, no kids. When he has my son & nephews, it certainly appears like he is the dad to the kids in public. They go to the park close to his house, and he will discipline the kids if he needs to. But he's not their dad, and not even a dad for that matter!

Bonnie - posted on 05/22/2011

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I have been referred to as a MILF numerous times. Not to my face. My husband said that people have told him they think this way about me. I'm not too sure how I like/feel about it :-).

Christina - posted on 05/21/2011

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I've always had a MILF side to me. I don't dress it all the time, but I like to look nice. When I was dealing with three kids under three, yeah, not so much on the dressing nice. I was just happy if I remembered to put clothes on to leave the house!

Jenn - posted on 05/21/2011

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I know, right?!? How are you so lucky to be 37 and no grey hair Tara? Especially with 6 kids?!? LOL!!!! I started getting grey when I was preggo with my son - the twins of course added to that. I'm 34 (will be 35 this year) and I have a nice patch of grey in the front. Of course you'd never know it because I always dye my hair. :P

Stifler's - posted on 05/21/2011

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I think I looked okay as a mum (before I was heaps pregnant with this baby) and wasn't entirely unfashionable or too lazy to wash my hair and shower regularly. I hope I can actually give a shit with 2 kids and I probably will considering I hate sitting around the house and wouldn't be caught dead wearing track pants in public.

Tara - posted on 05/21/2011

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Well.... I still considered myself yummy too.
I shock everyone when they hear I have 6 kids and that the oldest is almost 18 and the youngest is only 18 months. I'm 37, 5 feet tall and weigh in at about 128 now.
I'm carrying about 10-15 pounds of baby weight still, but I know it will be gone by his second birthday in November, and if it's not? Oh well... I've had 6 kids!!
I've always been a bit of a hippy when it comes to clothes. Jeans that fit nice and a tie dye t, or a tank and a button up blouse over top. Nothing fancy in this house. I don't think I even own any pants that aren't jeans.
But I do like to throw some mascara on, a little blush and some lip gloss. I don't ever "do" my hair. It's long, down to the middle of my back, dirty blonde (naturally, no gray hairs here yet!) and is almost always thrown up in a scunchy to keep it out of the way.
I'm still a pretty lady, but I don't think of myself as milf material now, not with six kids, but apparently I am. lol
Steve loves to tell people how I birthed six kids naturally and wait for their response. WOW is the typical reply!

Mel - posted on 05/21/2011

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Im kind of both I guess somedays I dont care go out no make up trackies whatever, other days Ill dress more in style. Dressing to look even half decent is usual for me I guess I dont have any motivation anymore, unelss its a special occasion or I just feel like it. Whenever I have worn make up I get asked for ID at the liquor store or I get comments "how old are you to be married iwth 2 kids!? " I say Im 22 they said they would have thought I was a teenager. Its funny how makeup changes me so much witout it I look older according to others. I woudlnt say I dress to look like a slut though, that would make me feel much to uncomfortable. Not to mention I dont reallyhave the body for it anymore :p extreme untoned

Erin - posted on 05/21/2011

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It's very rare that a Yummy Mummy makes an appearance in this house lol. Not that I never make an effort, but considering I am still carrying about 10kg of baby weight, never spend money on clothes for myself and am fast approaching 30, I don't often feel yummy. Which is in stark contrast to how I was pre-pregnancy.

Sunny - posted on 05/21/2011

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Im so a MILF! hahahaha its my nick name with mates and my local bouncer calls me yummy mummy lol. Most people are surprised when i tell them i have a 4 year old because im only just 22. I love make up and hair and dresses (i hate wearing pants, they just dont seem to sit right after having Noah grrrr) I just wear what i feel goof in and hey if i get a toot or a wolf whistle who am i to turn it down? lol :P

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Jeans and t shirt girl here but if the jeans fit well then i feel good!! When ever i leave the house i try to look the best i can which is generally a little makeup and hair straightened and perfume. When i do those things i certainly feel like a yummy mummy even with the weight i could stand to loose. Right not i'm still in pj bottoms and a t-shirt, Daggy as hell but it's saturday and i'm not doing anything! :D

Jenn - posted on 05/20/2011

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I don't think a mom should dress any certain way. I think a lady can dress sleazy or classy - regardless of whether or not you have kids. I used to like my skanky-ass clothes for going out to the club before I had kids (I can't afford to go out these days, nor do I have the energy LOL). For the most part I wear jeans and t's or sometimes a nice button up shirt, or in the summer I like skirts and dresses, and I wear makeup every day (always have and probably always will) and do my hair. I like to look my best as it makes me feel better about myself. Now, I don't have the body that I used to (I'm 5'7" and used to be 140lbs and fit - now I'm 195lbs), but I still feel pretty darn good about myself. I'd like to think I'm a yummy mommy and wouldn't be insulted at all if someone called me a MILF.

Charlie - posted on 05/20/2011

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I love getting dressed up and putting on some mascara , lip gloss and mineral powder , spray some of my fave perfume ( Vera wang or Chloe ) and I dont even have to be going anywhere ...I just feel much better and ready for the day and yes I do feel yummy when I put the effort in ....although I do wear track pants I dont wear them up the street unless I am going for a run .

And no I dont adhere to the mummy uniform ( whatever that is ) I am a mix of a punk , rock , glam , diva haha .

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I think we can all agree, the best compliment to a mother is not when we receive a wonderful compliment about ourselves but when we receive them about our children.I just burst with pride.♥

Kimberly - posted on 05/20/2011

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i have yet to feel like a yummy mummy lol. since my child was born baggy clothes and pj's.

Jenn - posted on 05/20/2011

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My husband calls me his WILF...ha. When my kids were really little, I got stuck in a boring self rut...tshirts and jeans. Snoring! Then about two years ago, I started to feel yummy again. I began working out, fixing my hair and giving a crap about fashion. Now I wear clothes that are appropriate for whatever I am doing but I def make sure to put some effort into it...my whole day is better when I feel good about myself!

Sharon - posted on 05/20/2011

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I believe in looking the best I can.

3 kids and a very sedentary 15 yrs of life, I'm not as fit as I used to be.

I have a little chub around my waist. You can see my belly button in the middle of the little roll. A belly ring would only draw attention to that. So I'll pass.

I don't consider myself a "yummy mummy" any more, I used to be and dressed that way. My looks were never more important than my kids.

Over the years, sleep became more important than getting my hair and nails done, in the crush of extra curricular activities I really didn't have time for those things.

Now the kids are older and i can leave them home alone for a couple of hours and I'm taking more time for myself.

I've had my hair done, I might get back into the habit of doing my nails. I really miss having pretty well manicured nails that are the envy of people who see them.

I get tons of compliments on my looks & wardrobe still. But I haven't had a store stalker in a while, I kinda miss that. Then again I'm not shopping at walmart in my aerobics spandex either.

I'm happy with ME. I'm a good person, I generally look good, what else is there? I don't need another persons envy (despite my nails comment!!) to live my life.

Krista - posted on 05/20/2011

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Right now I'm too fucking tired to be yummy. That being said, I haven't completely thrown in the towel. If we're going somewhere halfway nice, I DO put in some effort with my appearance. But for everyday, I've really let things slide.

I think as long as a mother isn't dressing like she's for sale, if she wants to look hot, then good on her!

Amanda - posted on 05/20/2011

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Btw yummy mommy isnt all about looks or weight ladies, its about tude! I know plenty of yummy mommys who can stand to lose 40+ Lbs, they are no less a yummy mommy over any skinny mommies I know.

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I feel like i am a yummy mummy.I carry myself well..with a bit of class....Most don't ever thing i am a mommy they just think i look yummy lol..its usually a shock to many i have two kids and look this way.My youngest is 2 and oldest 6.I am 26.:-)

Joanna - posted on 05/20/2011

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Brittany - I used to work at the Arbonne HQ, worked as an Internet tech guide in customer service for 2 years :)

September - posted on 05/20/2011

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I consider myself a yummy mommy with class :) No titties hanging out over here...but they are huge! Sometimes I hate them…can we say back pain!

Brittany - posted on 05/20/2011

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For the past few months, I've been trying to get used to maternity clothes and unemployment. My husband made a comment to me about the way I was dressing and how he would like it if I spruced it up again. (Just because I have him, doesn't mean I should stop trying to impress him) I recently began a business called Arbonne. It is a health a beauty business, so I feel obligated to look put together, which I'm sure my husband appreciates.
I want my husband to think I'm "yummy," but I'd rather not attract sexual attention from other men. I think I would be offended if another person called me a MILF. I've never wanted to be looked at as a piece to be used. My husband was attracted to the beauty inside more strongly than the advertising that was being showed by my outward appearance.

Tania - posted on 05/20/2011

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I'm a mummy with jiggly bits....I'm trying but it doesn't come off quite a quicky as it did 10 yrs. ago.

Katherine - posted on 05/20/2011

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Hmm, I've been called a MILF by younger men. But I take it as an insult, don't ask me why.

I don't take things like that well, it's almost degrading. And it's ALWAYS when I look my worst!!!

Corinne - posted on 05/20/2011

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I never considered myself a yummy mummy until the postman called me just that. I haven't changed the way I dress, I'm still a jeans and t kinda girl, but I have and will always do something with my hair and face even if it's vaseline on lips and eyelashes and hair in a clip.
Tara, I sooo get where you're coming from. I take my youngest to a play group and the other week we had a Mum turn up to a messy play session in skinny designer jeans, a chiffon top, sky high heels and tons of jewellery and makeup - she'd even put fake lashes on! Needless to say, her little one dived straight into the paint in his best gear then ran back to his Mum and covered her head to toe! Not best pleased :)

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I attempt to look pulled together when I leave the house...jeans that fit, shoes that are not flip flops, a non-t-shirt, makeup, and a bit of jewelry. But I don't consider myself yummy. I probably just look like mummy, because my clothing choices tend to be modest. If a mummy strives to be yummy then good on her. Why should moms change who they are?

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/20/2011

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As I am getting my figure back, I think I am feeling more confident, and dressing better to show off how much I have lost.

Lady Heather - posted on 05/20/2011

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Right now...no. I basically live in my husband's pj pants and t shirts. Well, not out of the house. I try slightly when I'm out. But I'm so tired and it shows. Normally I do try and make an effort. I'm only 29 though. I hope that's too early to be throwing in the towel, not that I ever plan on doing so permanently.

Amanda - posted on 05/20/2011

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Theres a huge difference between a yummy mommy and trash. :0)



Not only am I a yummy mommy, I have been called a MILF, and my mother has coined the term GILF (Grandmother Id love to ...)



My daughter said a few weeks ago, "God I hate it when my mother looks better in skinny jeans than I do" LOL

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