Anyone else's child not potty trained?

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My son's not potty trained yet. He absolutely refuses. He can hold his blatter and knows when he has to go.He even tells me when he's going. My son is willing to sit on the toilet if I give him candy. However, he refuses to actually go on the potty. I told him no candy unless you go on the potty. And so it's non-stop temper tantrums because he wants candy but doesn't want to go on the potty. I'm so frustrated. Any suggestions on how to successfully potty train?

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Nicole - posted on 02/09/2011

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When I asked my son's pediatrician about this, he told me to "ignore the potty for a month. Don't mention it and tell him it's ok to use the diaper. After a month, start to introduce it and he'll probably be more interested." So I did just that with my son. And it honestly didn't even take an entire month. And now, within about a week or 2, he's almost fully potty trained. Good luck!



Addition - I also put him in underwear, not pull ups. When I just put on a pair of underwear, he would sometimes have an accident. However, when I let HIM choose which one he wanted to wear, he didn't have anymore accidents with me. Granted, he still uses a diaper at naptime and bedtime but he's been doing really well during the day. When he had pull ups on, he would go #2 on the potty but peed in the pull up because he had the comfort of it. Now he gets sad when he pees in his pants and feels it going down his leg.

Nicole - posted on 01/19/2011

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My daughter is the same, when I put her on the potty she sits there and screams and cry's until she throws up. So I stopped for a couple of weeks then started again and she does the same thing. I don't know what to do it's frustrating and we have tried cold turkey and she will pee her underware and then dance in the puddle of pee on the floor, so that didn't work either. I'm up for any other suggestions!!!!!!

Jada - posted on 01/17/2011

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I managed to get my son potty trained at 22 months I introduced him to the potty around 16 months let him play with it and gradually sat him on n then i would sit him on it every so often after he drank liquids n so forth. I never used pull up I just always used underwear and if we went somewhere I put diapers on him. I let him put stickers on his potty if he peed he got one if he pooped he got two n after five stickers he would get a little car or something. Then he stopped having accidents wore diapers at night for two days n he would wake up dry so I just put underwear on him only took us about a week. You really gotta stay on it even if he pees or poops in his underwear just put clean underwear on him.

Wunna - posted on 01/06/2011

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I only can say be patience. He will do it in his own time. I was getting a bit worried as well. I left the underwear next to the napiies for weeks so it was in his sight. Then one day he was peeing by surprise in the showers so I knew he could do it. He just does not like to sit down on a potty. So since we let him pee standing and with a bit of encouragement from daddy he is peeing into toilet and is wearing underpants. Since 26.12. he is going regularly to pee but likes a bit of help. Poo is a different story. At the beginning he only liked to do it in nappies then a couple of time in his pants and now I catched him 3 times and set him on his potty and he now he seems ok. Instead of candy try a stamp on his hand. My son loves to show of his stamps to daddy and friends.

Sharon - posted on 01/06/2011

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My son is not interested at all! I've given up on the potty and he sat on the toilet for 10 mins last night while I read him books then cried so I took him off put a nappy on him we're trying again tonight. I always thought I'd have him trained by his 3rd birthday at the very latest.

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Thanks everyone. Glad I'm not alone. I will try putting him in underwear. All other tactics have not worked. His stubborness exceeds mine, so the candy routine got me nowhere other than non-stop tantrums. In school they take him every hour but other than one or two days a month, he won't go on the potty. @Deanna, I will check out the charts. Haven't tried that yet. Good luck to all of us.

Kathren - posted on 12/29/2010

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I'm having the same problem. My son refuses to go on the toilet. I've tried giving toys (like hot wheels), candy, and nothing seems to work. He saw his cousin who's 6 months older than him going on the potty like a big boy and that made him want to go for a day maybe two. I started putting him in regular underwear a few of days ago and taking him and sitting him on the potty every hour on the hour and that worked for the first two days, but today it went back to temper tantrums and just peeing in his underwear. So I put him back into a pull-up. I'm working on it but it's very slow going. The best I can tell you is that you're not alone.

DeAnna - posted on 12/28/2010

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We are working on it still. He is just so busy playing we still have to tell him to go potty and forget the BM's we have had 2 in the potty since we started back in July.



We started a sticker chart last week and it gets him to go without as much fuss. Go to http://www.freeprintablebehaviorcharts.c... and they have all sorts of charts for potty training to behavior charts. My son likes Rockets and Pablo from Backyardigans so we are using those two.

Isobel - posted on 12/24/2010

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My boy's not toilet trained either! He's shown a little bit of interest in sitting on the toilet and has even had one wee on it. Sometimes he'll tell me he's just had a wee in his nappy and once he told me had to go while in the bath so I got him out of the bath and sat him on the toilet where he did go! He knows when he's pooing in his nappy 'cos we're not allowed to look at him while he's doing it! We had big hassles with his 2nd older sister so I'm kind of putting off the whole training thing. So far haven't resorted to lollies which I did with Miss #2! My summer project, along with getting Miss#2 out of night pull-ups ... wish me luck!

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My son hasn't really started training either. It's been suggested that if you really want to train them, then you should actually train them. What I mean is, every 45 minutes you say to the kid "It's time to go potty!" and then stop what you're doing, and go potty. Put the kid through the motions. Have them sit on the pot, bareassed, for a minute. If nothing happens, fine; if they go, celebrate! Then get 'em standing, pull up their pants, wash their hands and do it again in 45 minutes. I hear that this works and I'll be trying it in the new year.

Sandy - posted on 12/23/2010

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I am having the exact same problem! I tell my son he will get a better prize at the end of the day if he goes potty in the toilet and doesn't go in his pull up all day and it's worked once or twice...

Amanda - posted on 12/22/2010

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oh boy...sounds familliar. Mine will pee on the potty if its convenient for him and he remembers...otherwise he'll just say to me "I have pee" 2 minutes after I asked him if he wanted to go potty. And he has yet to go #2 on the potty at all. I wish I had some advice. All I keep hearing is "don't force it and make it a big issue. Well, he's almost 3 and goes to Pre-school 2X a week where he can't wear diapers...so each time I drop him off I'm praying I won't get a call! Argh. Good luck...I'm sure in a few years we'll look back and laugh, RIGHT?!

Melissa - posted on 12/22/2010

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Don't stress about it! My daughter was exactly the same for so long. I would take the diaper off when she woke and she would hold on until it was nap time and wee in her diaper then. When she had an accident it would be floods. And she absolutely refused to sit on either a potty, a mini toilet or the big toilet. I put her back in diapers and one day she told me she wanted to sit on the toilet and that was start. Just wait until your child is ready, not when other children are.

Sandiswa - posted on 12/22/2010

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I'm also having the similar problem with my daughter, she refuses to sit on the potty and cries to death, this i sreally frustrating. Also need some advice

Dorothy Rose Santiago - posted on 12/21/2010

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we bought my first born son a potty trainor..however he didn't even used it so we ended up giving it away..so in our second child we didn't even bothered to buy one..we found out that kids would rather use our usual toilet bowl..we bought this toilet seat you put on top of the toilet bowl so they won't fall down..maybe you can try this..since two of my boys successfully used it..it might work for your son.=)

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Diana, thanks. Good to know I'm not the only one. Darlene, I have been reading up on the cold turkey method. I'll give it another week or two and then try that. Although I'm dreading the messes I will have to clean up.

User - posted on 12/21/2010

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A friend of mine had the same trouble with her son. She went out with him, had him help pick out character underwear and went cold turkey. He hated the feel of peeing in his pants. It took 4 days and he was done.

Diana - posted on 12/21/2010

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My son isn't potty trained yet either. He's excited about potty training, but he doesn't want to go on the potty without his clothes on. We're trying to ease him into it by allowing him to sit on the potty with his clothes on and gradually work him down to his diaper and then nothing. I don't see this being a fast process. I wish I could give you some advice but we're in the same spot. I would hold storng on the treats though. If he really wants them, he'll eventually try to go on the potty to get one.

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