how to stay sane as a single mom?

Katie - posted on 07/25/2011 ( 4 moms have responded )

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ok I really need advice from the other single mom in this group. i got divorced in October and since then have gone back to work in retail. I work evry other day lifting heavy boxs and dealing with a lot of stress as an assent manger. In adition my son has hit the terrble three hard, he acts out throws kicking tatuim alot and i have tried every thing to make them stop. My question to you is how do you jugle work, cleaning, and an acting out three yeat old child, without being burnt out all the time

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Ker - posted on 07/28/2016

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Hi Katie, I recently separated from my child's father. My son is 2 going on 3 in January. I work for as a clerk for the government. It has been really stressful because i don't have the support as before. I don't have the luxury of having a vehicle of my own so i travel a lot to work, drop-off and pick-up my son from school. It has been a lot for me also. But i pray a lot. I often feel frustrated because I'm tired all the time from the traveling and stuff.

Because of the recent separation my son also picked up this temper tantrum. But i try my best to stay calm. I hit him on his leg one time but i cried after. Now when he starts up i talk to him calmly and then walk away leaving him to cry for a while and sometimes i threaten to take away his toys. So far it seems to work.

I also try my best to take vitamins and ferol tonic to help boost my body with all the runarounds. And I sometimes ask my mom to babysit so i can take a day to go watch a movie or something. I suggest if you have the support you use it!

Sandra - posted on 02/09/2013

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I am a single Mom. I own my own very successful company. I started it six years ago at the same time that my daughter was 10 and entering pre-teens and I was 40 and entering early menopause and mid life crisis. It was a terrible female hormonal combination in one household with no father around to take charge and give me a break from my daughters disrespect or at least voice his authority and put my daughter in her place. My daughter and I started having physical fights and the school always took her side. I had to stand up against everyone who thought that I was the BADDY but in fact this was far from the truth.... to top it all .... Granpa was taking my childs side in every argument and then one day I just rebelled against everyone.... the school, my father, my daughter. I made a decision to totally enjoy my mid life crisis. I started switching my phone off and going out alone to wherever i felt like going out and I would go home when i was ready to go home. Nobody was used to me acting so selfishly and so I would eventually switch my phone back on to emergency voicemails of concern for my whereabouts and wellbeing. My daughter started behaving towards me with much more respect and appreciation because she realised that she missed me when I was not at home to be at her beck and call. To all those single Moms out there with my situation........ my advice is this....choose a home with VERY good security for your teenager when they are alone.....dress yourself up nicely and get in your car and go somewhere safe if you do not have a freind to go out with and socialise responsibly with people and enjoy your time alone to the fullest and you will find that when you return home to your BRAT you will feel refreshed and ready for the next battle they present you with. Dont take their nonsense!!!! Show them who is BOSS or SEND THEM TO BOARDING SCHOOL!!!

Katie - posted on 07/31/2011

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thanks i will try that. its hard for me to lean on family for two reasons one we aren't close and two they live four hours away

Jennifer - posted on 07/26/2011

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Lean on friends and family. It is hard to swallow your pride and ask for help but you need to do it anyway. Even if it is just having a friend watch your son while you do groceries once in a while, it goes a LONG way.

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