Esther - posted on 02/17/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )
My son (now 13 months old) used to like us equally but prefer me whenever he was tired, sad, sick, hurt etc. I thought that was just the natural order of things, nothing personal. I always felt that kids are just hardwired to prefer their moms in their moments of weakness.
The last couple of weeks though, my son has been totally rejecting me in favor of my husband. He's perfectly happy with me, but when my husband is around, he just wants to play with him, be held by him, show him his toys etc.
I'm really hurt by this and I'm totally taking this personally and wondering if I'm doing something wrong here. I always assumed this day would come, the boy bonding thing, but not this soon. And not in his weak moments. My husband travels a lot so I'm the only one who has been with our son every day of his life. I do work (he goes to daycare) but I'm there every evening, I'm the one who stays home with him when he's sick or teething, I'm the one who gets up with him at the crack of dawn and who goes to see him in the middle of the night when he wakes up crying (which unfortunately is still every night), etc.
Is anyone else experiencing anything like this? I am really questioning my mothering skills.