Restless sleeper!! HELP!!

Melissa - posted on 05/16/2009

There is one book I would recommend you read. It is healthy sleep habits, happy child. Here is a link on Amazon. http://www.amazon.com/Healthy-Sleep-Habi...



Every parent told me before I had my daughter that sleep was ONE OF THE MOST important things to get right from the beginning. If you didn't do it, either you, your child or your relationship with your spouse suffers. I have been told by friends that have had problems with their childrens sleep habits that they corrected the problems by using methods in the book. It talks about the pro's con's of cry it out, don't cry or fading and you make the choice.



I will tell you this book has done wonders for me. Any time a new issue arises or there is a change in her sleep habits - I review the book. It also tell's you what is regular for a child of your kids age all the way up through teen years. It recommends bed times and tells you how to resolve issues you might have.



Some days if we experience a new issue and I reveiw the book for a method - it usually seems to work within 2-3 days - it's just sticking it out! You see that on TV for nanny 911 and The nanny - persistence pays off.



Good luck and hope it helps - it's been a life saver of a book and one that I give to every pregnant mom for the first time so they understand their childs sleep patterns.

Angela - posted on 05/07/2009

We go through cycles here... he can sleep through the night and does sometimes but then he gets sick or teeth start coming in he's up a couple of time. Right now, he is waking up about 12:30a I give him a sippy of water and he goes back to sleep on his own.. it still feels a little weird when he doesn't wake up.

Jackie - posted on 05/07/2009

Thank you all so much!! It's all such great advice and it's good to know I'm not alone!!

Regan - posted on 05/03/2009

Quoting Esther:

Quoting Regan:

[ ] I always felt sick from lack of sleep, my marriage was suffering, and I know SHE was suffering from the lack of GOOD sleep so it was the right choice FOR US.  I guess everybody has to make their own choice.

I agree - each parent has to make this choice for him/herself. It did not feel right for me/my son so I tried different methods. Hopefully in the end we'll all get a good night's sleep again!!

agreed!!! :) :) :) :)

Esther - posted on 05/03/2009

Quoting Regan:

[ ] I always felt sick from lack of sleep, my marriage was suffering, and I know SHE was suffering from the lack of GOOD sleep so it was the right choice FOR US.  I guess everybody has to make their own choice.

I agree - each parent has to make this choice for him/herself. It did not feel right for me/my son so I tried different methods. Hopefully in the end we'll all get a good night's sleep again!!

Regan - posted on 05/03/2009

Quoting Esther:

You are not alone. My son is 16 months old and sleeps alone in his own crib but he does not sleep through the night most of the time either. As I do not subscribe to letting a child cry it out, that means I haven't really slept through the night in about a year and a half either (after all, who can still sleep at the end of their pregnancy). However, he did sleep through the night for the last 4 nights and he has been doing so more often than he used to. Despite the fact that I haven't done the cry-it-out/sleep training thing he is perfectly capable of self soothing. He often wakes up and just sits for a bit and then goes back to sleep without any intervention. However, if he calls for me, I do respond. What did make a difference is that I was able to train him to fall asleep on his own in his crib at night (again, without any crying), rather than in my arms. It's a two-steps-forward, one-step-back kind of thing but I am hopeful that we are heading in the right direction.

I agree here which is why it took me sooo long to do the sleep training but I guess it depends on what kind of child you have.. we did the "no cry solution" and everything modified first.  I also did not just let daughter cry (which is cry it out).. I went in after intervals OR if she sounded really upset by her cries...now some kids hold their breath during ferber or cry it out or whatever method and throw up and everything else.. I don't think I could have done that.  She was truly ready and yelled more than cried.  I guess it has to be a personal choice. I always felt sick from lack of sleep, my marriage was suffering, and I know SHE was suffering from the lack of GOOD sleep so it was the right choice FOR US.  I guess everybody has to make their own choice.

Esther - posted on 05/03/2009

You are not alone. My son is 16 months old and sleeps alone in his own crib but he does not sleep through the night most of the time either. As I do not subscribe to letting a child cry it out, that means I haven't really slept through the night in about a year and a half either (after all, who can still sleep at the end of their pregnancy). However, he did sleep through the night for the last 4 nights and he has been doing so more often than he used to. Despite the fact that I haven't done the cry-it-out/sleep training thing he is perfectly capable of self soothing. He often wakes up and just sits for a bit and then goes back to sleep without any intervention. However, if he calls for me, I do respond. What did make a difference is that I was able to train him to fall asleep on his own in his crib at night (again, without any crying), rather than in my arms. It's a two-steps-forward, one-step-back kind of thing but I am hopeful that we are heading in the right direction.

Melissa - posted on 05/03/2009

Wow, I am so sorry to all you moms...None of my 3 ever did that. Have you tried making the "white" noise in the back ground? I NEVER let my kids fall asleep in total quiet. Now my problem is, when their TV turns off, which is closed in a cabinet so they can't watch it, if it is too quiet then they wake up and turn it back on. I was the mom vaccuuming around the basinet.

Regan - posted on 05/03/2009

my 16 month old is finally sleeping 9-10 hours (not much but I'll take it) straight through the night without waking although she DOES still stir a lot. I think a lot of babies stir whcih is why you hear stories of them being contorted and sideways in the crib in the morning. HOWEVER.. mine used to wake when I slept with her all night b/c she would not know how put herself back to sleep without the help of me or the comfort of me being there where now between sleep cycles she does it herself. The answer unfortunately is sleep training...ick I know.. but it took us 3 days for the most part and 2 weeks to perfect and EVERYBODY is happier and better rested. PM me if you want.. i was JUST there a month ago.

Naomi - posted on 05/02/2009

My 16 month old does the same thing. She needs me to lay her on my chest with her bottle and then binky until she's out cold and then I lay her in her crib and she wakes up once or twice for a bottle and then at like 3 in the morning wakes up completely! I'm going insane so if I run into any ideas I'll pass it on. But hey if you ever want a new friend you can chat with that is going through the same things I'm here:) Love to make new friends.

Darlene - posted on 05/02/2009

Has he ever slept alone in the bed? Was it the same in his crib? It could be that needs more room.