Temper-tantrums....

Jennifer - posted on 03/11/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )

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Hey everyone, I am in need of some help! My daughter has started throwing MAJOR tantrums. She is usually a really calm sweet little girl, but the last 2 months, she is just being a little monster! When I tell her no, she starts screaming and throws herself on the ground....when I go to pick her up, she will swing her arms and kick her feet....I am at a loss of what to do?
Can I put a 1 year old on time out? Will she really understand what I am doing?
If anyone has any suggestions, PLEASE HELP!!!

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Alyssa - posted on 03/23/2009

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I have twin boys (age 1yr 3mths) and one of them has just started doing the same. I have found it easy to just ignore him. I dont give him the attencion he is looking for. I have to say that it is working as of now. He does cry and screem for a while but when he sees I just walk away and he is not getting what he want then his plan did not work. lol (I do this even if we are out) GOOD LUCK!

Hailey - posted on 03/23/2009

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My son is 15 months old and has been the prince of temper tantrums since the VERY young age of 5 months old...( no one believes me ) I at that time would just let him scream his fit until he noticed it got him nowhere...Now a days tho, he can walk throw bit hit run...all those wonderful things...When he would get into something i used to pop his fingers and tell him no, well he decided that when i hit he would....So then i decided to time him out...this seems to work i just put him in the playpen or his bed and let him set there for a bit...He has now started a new thing where he gets upset and knows he will go to time out so he swings and hits the couch and bits himself and pulls his hair...Um im not really sure i gave you much help, but maybe your lil girl will take time outs better...I have no clue what to do with my son now...

Shalona - posted on 03/23/2009

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My son is doing the exact same thing, except recently he has started banging his head on the floor. I ignore him until then, and thats when I go and put him in his crib and I make sure and tell him that he has to sit there until he wants to play nice with mommy. That has been working pretty well lately. I just sit him in there with a book or something, and a cup w/ water, and just let him continue to throw his temper if he wants to, but he is starting to realize that its no fun! Usually after about 15 minutes of sitting in his crib, he starts yelling for me, then gives me a hug and a kiss when I go and get him. He is always back to his normal self afterward!

Afton - posted on 03/16/2009

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WOW! This is exactly what my daughter has started doing for the past month. She also does this when I pick her up and take her to another room to change her diaper or clothes.She kicks and screams.She isn't a bad daughter but I noticed that if I used a strong voice and serious look, she kind of calms down. I tell her to stop and show her it isn't good to throw fits. I also started ignoring her if she threw a fit when I told her NO or for any other reason. If she didn't stop I tapped her bare leg, not too hard.lol I think I could use some advice with handeling my daughters tantrums also but I was glad to see I wasn't alone on this problem. =]

Andrea - posted on 03/16/2009

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Glad I am not the only one! My sons temper tantrums and throwing himself on the ground prompted me to buy the book "happiest toddler on the block" and, although I just started it, one section I read said that toddlers are not mini-adults but uncivilized "cavemen" and will not listen to reason or careful explanations, so don't even try. Ignoring is prob. the best. Good luck! We are all in the fight!

Lauralee - posted on 03/16/2009

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I think the best thing to do is remove them from the situation, I let my little boy cry for a while, then I ask him if he's done and then distract him to something else.



Tantrums are so hard!

Lauralee - posted on 03/16/2009

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I think the best thing to do is remove them from the situation, I let my little boy cry for a while, then I ask him if he's done and then distract him to something else.



Tantrums are so hard!

Genna - posted on 03/14/2009

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me eldest daughter was like that, still can be now, but i used ot take her upstairs and let her calm herself down in her cot, from about 1yrs, she is 3 now and anytime she does it i tell her she'll go in the cot, (not her cot lol her lil sisters) and she now says sorry straight away. so i personally dont think they are too young to understand. Hope this helps

Andrea - posted on 03/12/2009

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that sounds strange, get her out, i put my daughter in a playyard.





Andrea - posted on 03/12/2009

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That's my life too! My daughter acts the same exact way! It seems like as soon as she turned one she found her rebellious side.   I have started putting her on time outs. I find a spot for her where there are no toys and I give her a 3 chances and if after that she still does it then she gets a time out for 1 min. she cries and hollers but after that minute is up and once you get her out she's ok and she won't do it again that day. Its a start but it's working.  And the best thing she doesn't stay mad  after which is great. shes a little upset but i think she's getting it. after all she is only 14 mos old.



 





Claudia - posted on 03/12/2009

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I know this may sound strange but rent or borrow "The Happiest Toddler on the Block" by Dr. Harvey Karp.  It tells how to deal with difficult behavior.  I've used his methods on my nephew (18 mo.) and daughter (14 mo.) and it works without yelling, spanking, or timing out.  It's a short video that teaches you how to talk to them and ways to prevent a fit all together.  It's not a cure-all, but it's definitely a significant cut back.  Worth a try anyway, and just remember it's a phase.

Darlene - posted on 03/11/2009

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I agree with the ignoring tactic. I actually pick my son up and move him away from me without saying a word, then walk away. Although intially it got worse, it only took a couple of times for him to get the point. As for time outs, "they" say it doesn't work for kids under 2, but I do it with my son when I want him to do something (ex. put the cup on the table). He has a special chair to sit in until he's ready to do what I need him to. The first week was continuously putting him back in the chair and reminding him what I asked him to do. Now there are times I simply ask him if he needs to sit and he does as requested. Kids are a lot smarted then "they" give them credit for. I think whatver discipline yo choose to use, if done consistently usually works. Find what works for your child and stick with it.

Mary - posted on 03/11/2009

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Zoe is starting to throw temper tantrums too!!  I just let her throw it, I walk in the other room so when she realizes that she is alone, she stops and walks into the room I'm in.  She is usually then really lovey, wanting to sit on my lap and give hugs and kisses.  I have put her in time out when she doesn't share toys with her cousins, time out is sitting next to mommy without any toys while everyone else is playing, it's only a minute or two, but she seems to get the idea to share and be nice.

Amy - posted on 03/11/2009

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yeah ignoring is best way, it has eaised things with my 1 year old and we haven't been doing it for too long... it can be so hard at times but it's the best way not to make a rod for your own back. keep smiling x

Angela - posted on 03/11/2009

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Ahh yes the temper tantrums. My daughter throws some epic ones herself. What I started doing is not paying attention to her at all when she behaves that way. For my daughter any attention whether it be negative or positive was valadating the bad behaviour.. If I tried to occupy her with something else she saw it as "Mommy is paying attention to my screaming". Now with me having pretty mush ignoring her when she does it I have found she doesn't trow half as many anymore and when she does they aren't as intense and last as long. Even when we went out to other places like family or firends houses they had to not make eye contact with her and ignore her bad behaviour.  Obviously when my daughter threw her big fits I had to make sure she didn't hurt herself on anything but as a couple of weeks passed she realized that her "bad" behaviour made mommy not want to play with her and the nicer she played the more fun she had with me. Hang in there I know it is really frusterating. I hope this helps

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