What to do when our toddlers get hit by other toddlers?

Angie - posted on 03/10/2013

How do you know shes not tryingvto teach it actualky dounds like dhe is by making her child apologize

Guadalupe - posted on 01/17/2013

My son Max was a really sweet boy till we moved in with my fiances sister , her son was all about mine, mine, mine and he like to push my son around and smack him around and now that we've lived here long enough my son does those things so now every time my kid does what he has learn from that kid whose a yr older (3) His mom is overhere telling his son to hit Max back when clearly Max woulddve never acted that way if she would of raised her son diffrently! ughhhh i pissed..

Carly - posted on 07/09/2012

Ok I have a question, what do you do when your affectionate, happy, friendly 20 month old keeps smacking you and others and just laughs when you tell them off and this has been the case for a few months? I have smacked him back and he cried then hit me back so obviously this is not the answer or the lesson to be teaching but he laughs when I shout at him and can't speak yet to say sorry. I am a patient, loving, hands on mother who believes in teaching your child right from wrong but unfortunatley I do have one of those kids that doesn't understand not to hit others! Just to add I was smacked as a child but I don't want to bring my son up in this way.

Lindsey - posted on 05/02/2012

i feel the same way. Parents should teach children how to respect other kids. I am going through the same thing with my best friends son. I even posted about it to. I am so tired of the crap and the worst part they don't even make him say sorry. I want to smack him and teach him myself, but then again its not my place to tell parents how to raise their kids but i am at that point where i am not going to deal with the pushing, hitting and taking toys anymore. I don't care if they are just a kid, parents should be teaching their kids better. I think people are forgetting the golden rule we were taught when we were children. Its crazy to think that parents would let their kids hit other kids and then make excuses saying well he is a boy or he is too young to understand. My daughter is 20 months and she knows better.

Lori - posted on 07/03/2011

I have the same problems with my daughter who gets picked on by peers. She is 2 and her peers just love to take things from her and push her and stop her from playing with toys and my kid is passive and just cries and I feel like I need to teach her self defense !

Sasha - posted on 08/10/2009

i've had a similar problem, my friends son started trying to hit my daughter on the face and head on a few occassions. Okay he was told off from it, but now as a consequence my daughter struggles when meeting new children and gets upset. Its so frustrating.

Jacci - posted on 08/01/2009

she prolly is teaching him not to hit but sorry is important too.. her son may not learn hitting isnt appropriate as fast as yours did

Stacey - posted on 07/30/2009

It's hard when they are toddlers. They don't know how to defend themselves and the one hitting is still learning. I agree with Jami. Just say what you would say to your own child. That way your child learns too. If it keeps happening with the same child I would definitely remove my child from the situation. Some moms just sit around and watch it happen without stepping in.

Jami - posted on 07/29/2009

There really isn't a whole lot you can do when it's someone elses child being unruly. I would politely tell the other child that hitting isn't very nice, just as you would tell your own child. I try not to get too involved in toddler scuffles because it teaches conflict/ resolution skills. Obvisously I wont stand there and watch them terrorize each other, but I try to let them figure it out on their own first.

Darlene - posted on 07/29/2009

There is nothing more frustrating than trying to teach your child the 'right' way to do things and then watching as other kids do as they please. I always tell my kids "I know that they are climbing the slide; running in the parking lot; standing on their chair...but we don't do that because it's not safe, or nice."

It's hard when hitting involved because some little umm....person just hurt our child. I tell my son to use his words. "I don't like that. or That's not nice". He can't say it well, but it teaches him to use words and gets the point across to the other parent that I'm not impressed either.